Girls: if you go on a 4th date with a guy, do you for sure like him and see him as relationship material?

[Anonymous]

Simple as the title says. Just curious...I'm going on my 4th date tomorrow :D

[bassman]

heres from a guys perspective.. women know within 30 secs of meeting a guy and hearing him talk as to whether they like him or not. Most girls know in thier MIND on the 3rd date if a guy is a possible keeper or not. These girls who have commented are speaking womanese by not answering your question... For the ones that say..no it will take much longer...this is not true.. These girls are saying it will take more than four dates before they know EMOTIONALY aka in their HEART as to whether a guy is relationship material...(fall in love time) so to sum it all up... girls know by the 3rd date.. so If you're on the 4th date and you're smart... then your in business man!

[Asker]

Well it's not looking good. We only kissed once before this because she said she's uncomfortable with that kind of stuff and then I tried on the date and she rejected it. Sooooo I'm feeling like sh*t now. She also said how's she just really wants to be friends. I feel terrible because she is honestly perfect in every way. We have had a great time on every date but then this...F my life.

[bassman]

Damn! Sorry man...sounds like this girl..is either lonely...bored..or has an empty refrigerator! How long has it took to get to 4 dates? Dude... come on... don't say WE had a great time on every date...Yes..its possible she was good for 3 dates(highly unlikely)... then you put up some major red flags tonight? Tell me about the 3 dates... I'd like to help you out..make sure this doesn't happen again.

[Asker]

No like seriously, all the dates were amazing. It took me 3 weeks to get 4 dates. And one of those weeks was spring break so it's like 4 dates in two weeks. Before our 4th date we were texting and she said she has an amazing time with me and we always find a way to have fun. We spent a total of 26 hours together on the 4 dates combined. And the 4th date was really good also. Just at the end I tried to kiss her and she said she wasn't ready for it.

[Asker]

She told me after the date in text she would be happy being friends. Do you want to read the whole thing? I just posted a new question...it's in the behavior section and is titled "what does this text mean?" It's kind of long but I would really appreciate it if you could read it and answer it. Thanks in advance :)

[bassman]

Man you moved way to fast with this girl. If she really had good interest level in you at the beginning, then you burnt her out. ONE date a week max! 26hrs in 4 dates! in the future 2.5 hr dates unless there is a good reason. She told you before, she didn't like the kissing... this was your cue to drop her! Her friend text..means she never wants to go out with you.. Again..if a girl ever rejects a kiss... she's out! A girl with high interest in you will NEVER reject a kiss from you..

[Asker]

26 hours because we always had a ton of fun together like I said. And to add on to that, over spring break we texting about 150 times each and we talked on yahoo messenger for about 5 hours also. We have a ton of fun talking to each other. That seems like an amazing base for a relationship.

I was her first kiss EVER. She is just uncomfortable with that kind of stuff. She's never had a boyfriend before either. So that could be why...

[bassman]

Hey... Please.. calm down... breathe... I know your upset and excited and confused. You need to focus..Trust me.. I can't help.. until you are ALL ears and READY to listen to every word...

[Asker]

Because I'm challenging your opinion and you don't want that? If your opinion was so correct, you'd have a good answer for all of the things I said. I am calm right now. I'm down, sad, and a little depressed. Hyped up is the opposite of where I am right now.

[bassman]

Ok... I want to answer all your questions.. but it sucks when I only have 500 characters to do so. this would be easier to talk by sending regular messages... would you agree to that? If so just message Me...bassman.

[Anonymous]

What's YOUR view on 4th dates? How do you feel about this girl? You should definitely talk to her about where you see this thing going... Chances are, she feels the same way. And it's always better when everything's out in the open! Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

it would take longer than 4 dates for me to be sure of either of those questions. If I am having a fun time going out with the guy, then each date I become progessively more interested in him, and seeing him as a potential relationship.

[UberTroll]

Yeah if we made it to four dates then that would definitely mean I liked him. But it would take me a bit longer than that to see whether or not I saw him as relationship material.

[Purplelove010]

No it would take a few months for me to realize. If I was going on a 4th date it would be that he is fun, outgoing, & easy to talk to.

[Anonymous]

Yep :) I'm going on a 4th date tomorrow, too! Haha

[Opinion Owner]

(and I'm totally interested in a relationship with this guy -- however, every relationship's different, and moves at a different pace).