What does it mean when a girl texts you first, but then she suddenly cuts the conversation short?

[Anonymous]

After only a few (I mean a FEW, like 2-3) exchanges of text messages of you trying to get a conversation going she'll start texting just one or two word responses to things that can clearly be elaborated on.

I then stop texting her because it's clear she's not interested in a conversation. I have pretty low self esteem so this bums me out a lot, so then I don't text her for a few days, then all of a sudden she'll text me out of no where and this happens all over again.

Am I saying or doing anything wrong?

[MeAndAHalf]

She was doing something else whilst you were txting, It got really detracting, she had to stop and engage further with her real life that was happening around her, rather than the life that existed in the screen of her phone (i.e you). She probably doesn't mean anything by it and would be horrified to know that you are reading so much into this. Calm down, text her casually l8r, maybe in a couple of days about something amusing.

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[Asker]

LOL those were great! Thanks!

[girl_perspective]

Could be that you text her at inconvienient times. And maybe she doesn't like talking all the time. Maybe once a week would be good for her.

The next time you speak you could say - "Is this a good time? Cos your replies seems like your busy" and see what she says.

[Asker]

I text her within minutes of her texting me. If it was a bad time then why would she text me first? :(

[girl_perspective]

Maybe textings not her thing. Do you actually see her at any point?

[Asker]

We use to see each other a lot. Like every other day after work (we use to work together). But then she transferred to another site about 3 months ago and ever since then I've only seen her about 2 times.

She was new in town when she first met me so I was her only friend for a while. I liked her a lot but I didn't have the courage to tell her how I felt. Now she has tons of friends from her new job site so she doesn't see me much.

I know, I messed up and dropped the ball on this one.

[girl_perspective]

Yeah that could be it. Distance is an annoying thing. If you didn't really solidify a relationship before she transferred then its hard for anything to progress now. Maybe she views you as a friend that she would like to keep in touch with (thats why she messages you) but it can't ever be something deeper because you don't see each other anymore

[Asker]

Yeah I guess that's it. There goes another thing I messed up lol

[girl_perspective]

Not really. Stuff happens. Life happens. You would have to be super calculating to have planned a strategy to get with her before she transferred. Still act the same way with her, but I guess don't read as much into it as you were before. The best relationships are the simplest ones. The next girl you're with will probably live across the street from you and won't be leaving town anytime soon! :)

[Asker]

I hope so. My neighbors are too noisy lol

[girl_perspective]

:)

[SimplyLexi]

She is the one doing it all wrong! ha ha I hate when my friends do that, but it's because they have no awesome personality. I also hate when they send long texts because I fall asleep.

She doesn't see you as the insecure guy you are and she's probably the same way

[Asker]

I know she's not. She's very much the polar opposite to my quiet type. I mean total opposite I sometimes wonder why she even bothers talking to me to begin with.

[SimplyLexi]

Are you hot? ha ha she probably is playing hard to get or she doesn't know what to say? Mind giving me an example of your convo?

[Asker]

No definitely not hot. I'd say I'm average at best lol.

But yeah an example would be:

Her: Work sucks!

Me: How so?

Her: It's just busy.

Me: Yeah. How was your weekend?

Her: Fine

Me: Well, I mean how was your trip to Napa?

Her: Fine

Me: Okay... Well hows your back (She saw a doctor abut a back problem)

Her: Fine

Then I stop texting

[SimplyLexi]

I'm sure your personality is thuper awesome! Oh my gosh! hahaha how annoying! She's probably wondering why you stopped texting and then by the time he gathers her courage to text you again the same thing happens hahaha That doesn't happen to me with guys.. just girls. But my best friend tay who is a super babe has this guy who randomly stops texting her and he usually tells her he fell asleep. its sort of the same but not. Do you guys talk a lot in person?

[Asker]

Thanks! I try to be a god person :)

And I'm pretty sure all the boys want to talk to you. Look at you! lol

Not anymore no. We use to see each other a lot but I haven't seen her in months.

[SimplyLexi]

i try to be a god person too ;) ha ha and that was sweet! see I knew you had a great personality! I say you should forget her and move on! She may be hot, but if she can't keep a conversation going I don't think I'd want to have to try too hard to keep it going. Or maybe she wants you to call her or hang out because she refers that over text?

[Asker]

Yeah maybe I should. It's just hard not replying to her when she sends me a text though you know.

It's actually the same thing when I call her. She ends the convo short, lol

[SimplyLexi]

How awkward! hahaha is she socially awkward too? So if she was playing hard to get I guess it's working because you have a hard time not responding! ha ha Have other girls you flirt with?

[Asker]

Lol no she isn't at all. I mean we are night and day; she likes to dance - I don't. She gets riled up at a baseball game - I have to stop her from fighting someone. She's a party girl - I like to read a book. I want to watch a movie on the weekend - she wants to go on a 20 mile hike. Lol.

No, there's no other girls.

[SimplyLexi]

that is the cutest thing ever ha ha you guys sort of like complete each other. The 20 mile hike sounds like me but last time it was 26 miles pushing a 500 pound hand cart, but I know how to settle down and read or watch a movie. Find some other girls to get your mind off of her! Its not cheating or anything haha

[Asker]

Yeah I should. Haha

[prettymuscle]

it seems she is bored and needs someone to talk to really

[nahiyana20]

i think she's insecure too...she sends you the next & then feels that may b you dnt want to have any conversation,or mayb she shouldn't hav texted you.so she stops the conversation herself.

[Asker]

I really doubt she has any insecurities. She's practically perfect lol

[nahiyana20]

lol!she might be thinking the same thing about you,you never know... :P

[cutybrittany]

hmm well what kind of questions are you asking her? Ask her question on things that you want to get to know her!

[Asker]

Simple things like "Hows your day going?" or "How was your weekend?".

Sometimes I'll ask her specific questions like "Hows your dog doing?", her dog was really sick for two days so she took him to the vet and she'll respond with "Fine" and that's it. Or "How do you like your new apartment?" and once again she'll respond with "Fine".

It's nothing ever rude, intrusive, or private.

[cutybrittany]

It seems to me she is only texting you when she is bored. you might need to move on from her or be honest with her saying I am really interested in you but you don't seem to be interested...or something. don't beat around the bush either ask her out or find a better girl

[Anonymous]

This happens to me as well but it's because I can't keep the conversation with him you have to think of more interesting things then how are you doing.