Would a married/single woman invite a man to a hotel room just to talk?

[EJVJR]

My wife toldl me she was going to job interview and instead went and checked in a hotel room and invited another man. I found them in the room and she said she just needed someone to talk to. I know a guy is going for one thing only and I guess would a woman be going for the same thing?

[LJHam]

If it looks like bullsh*t, smells like bullsh*t then it probably is bullsh*t.

Why lie about going on a job interview in the first place if she wasn't doing something she didn't believe was wrong. Then to say she needed someone to talk to... in a hotel room?!

Believe me, I recently got out of a relationship with a guy who was emotionally cheating on his girlfriend with me. When I called him on it, he made up all sorts of excuses and justifications for his behavior. What you're written about your wife sounds exactly like the bullsh*t he tried to use with me. I fell for it for a little while but eventually I clued in.

The fact is, if you have nothing to hide, then you hide nothing. Plain & simple.

Whether she's actually having sex with this guy or she's just turning to him for emotional reasons she's still cheating on you in some way. And people cheat because they aren't getting something they want or need from their partner. I'm not blaming you here. Just pointing out that there is probably a deficiency somewhere in your marriage. One of which she wasn't willing to address you about but instead just ran off to someone else to get what she wanted.

[octaviahills]

Women and men usually think differently on that one! She probably genuinely did just want to chat, but maybe her boundaries are a bit shaky. I think women in long-term relationships and marriages sometimes forget the way single guys are thinking.

I recently, as a single woman, went back to a male friend's house feeling nothing more than affection, I'd known him a long time. Surprise surprise he made a pass, and not in a nice way. Made me feel a fool, but I'd trusted him. Men do tend to think it's an invitation, not all of course.

If I were you I'd be gentle and ask your partner if she feels she gets enough emotional support from you, and let her know you're always there if she needs to talk. Sounds a bit like she's hinting about that, but of course I don't know.

[HandsomeBobbi]

That seems weird to me, why did she lie or better yet, why not just go to starbucks like normal people. I think she's probably cheating, the reason people go to hotel room is because it has a bed! They could've gone to he hotel lobby or restaurant or a million other places. Ask her if she feels she gets enough attention, physically and emotionally. Try the line "I'm honest and open with you, and I just want you to be the same with me" if she doesn't break down and confess do some snooping. But since you thought to check up on her ( I would not think to follow my husband anywhere) you probably had some suspicions to begin with... I think she's either cheating or was about to.

[Blobb]

Um no, people talk in coffe shops. Tell her to pack her stuff and get out of your life ;), you'll be better off without her.

[Hades]

Yeeeeahh...Sounds pretty incriminating to me. You might want to consider divorce.

[nermalinda]

Uh, that is super weird. None of that makes any sense. You can talk at a coffee shop, and job interviews do not usually involve getting a hotel room...

[xxemilyesdroperxx]

Wen you put up this question I'm preety shur you know the awnser :( sorry but it seems like she cheating

[AmberChick]

I would be upset the fact that she lied and said she was going to a job interview when she wasn't. And, no I think she went up there to have sex.

[Babygurl2012]

Sound like she's cheating if you ask me a men and a women in a hotel room to talk please

[stillagoodgirl]

I don't think so unless she's extremly naive