I'm 18 and this past Thursday night I had my first kiss! It was actually with my childhood crush...I've know him since I was in middle school. But, only because he is my big brother's best friend. He's 22 and he's a Marine. Hid name is Stephen. He came into town to visit family and friends before he deploys again. My big brother came into town too to come visit him, they're absolute best buds. I hung out with them Thursday night and we ended up going back to Stephen's brother's house. My brother and Stephen's brother both went to sleep eventually...so Stephen and I decided to do the same. The last place available, of course, was a bedroom that just had blankets and pillows on the floor. He took my hand, led me down the hallway and then turned to me before we laid down and said, "I promise to be respectful and not to do anything weird." I told him I wasn't worried. We turned the light off, laid down and after a moment or two, I told him I wasn't even tired. He said, "yea?" and then put his arm around me. Then he kissed me and we started making out. I didn't want to go any further than making out and I made that clear but we kissed for a while and then we eventually just cuddled and he fell asleep. I didn't sleep at all the entire night because my mind was all over the place. In the morning, my brother came in to wake us up...so I never had the chance to say anything to him about it. We left in my brothers car, he dropped me off where I had left my car the night before and I have not spoken to or seen Stephen since. My question is...should I try talking to him first? What should I say if I do?
I don't think he realizes that he was my first kiss. And, I'm starting to think that he kissed me out of loneliness and he was iust trying to get what he can before he deploys...and I was just at his disposal. Any opinions on that theory?
Any advise as to what I should do and say would be great. I really like him...but I'm afraid he might be holding back because I'm his best friend's little sister.
Help me out please!
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First, congrats on your first kiss. That's very exciting. (Over 20 years later, I still remember mine, lol. That sense of heat and fireworks that starts at the roots of your hair all the way down to your toes? Mmm.)
Glad you had the good sense to set a boundary. Guys don't know how to do that too well once they're turned on and thinking about you "that way," lol.
Sigh. Typical of most girls, you're spoiling the image that's going to bang around in your heart whenever any guy in the future kisses you. Don't do it, girl!
If you used to call/text him before, then go ahead and contact him. If not, DROP IT. I never spoke to my first kiss either, but I'll remember him till the day I die. (Dramatic, I know, lol.)
A guy who makes out with you really should contact you first if he's a gentleman at all. Since he's you're brother's bestie, you're likely to see him again. If/when you see him, just smile and keep your eyes on his face. See what his reaction is. DON'T act like an overenthusiastic puppy and ask him a thousand questions or anything. It's a turn-off. If you really want a reaction out of him, smile like you have a secret and keep passing right in front of him -- looking radiant and smelling feminine -- and his eyes will sort of follow you if he's interested. He'll either try to get your attention or get you alone when he can. That's how you'll know what he's thinking.