If a girl doesn't get jealous of your date, she's not interested, right?

[Anonymous]

I brought a date to a party and this girl who has frustrated me for years was there. She was extremely happy and welcoming of my date, shook her hand, smiled, said "nice to meet you". So this girl doesn't feel anything for me, right? I just want the reassurance so I can rest my conscience at ease.

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I didn't do this with the intention of making her jealous, it's just something that came up because I want peace of mind. I actually moved on and started trying to find someone else. I just want to be at peace.

[jrose]

Not necessarily- she could be hiding her jealousy because she genuinely wants you to be happy and if it's with the other girl then so be it. Also, she might not feel like she has a right to be jealous so she won't show it.

I've personally done this- I really liked this guy for awhile and it sort of seemed like he liked me back, but when he showed up with a new girl, I was as nice as I could be to both of them. Why? Well, it's certainly not HER fault that I like him so there's no reason to be rude to her and if he truly has no interest in me, there's no need to make an idiot out of myself and screw up our friendship.

Of course- it can go the other way too. A guy I had a fling with was talking about seeing another girl in front of me, and I had no reaction because I just didn't care, had no further interest in him.

Bottom line- it's hard to tell from her reaction alone. If you like the new girl you brought to the party, let the other one go. If you still like the not-jealous girl, don't lead the new one on.

[Asker]

I like the new girl more, especially since the old one gave me so much frustration and the new girl likes me way more. But it's impossible not to think about this since the history was so recent.

[Dhi99]

Could you please help me. I called this girl and it is not like I always call her. We were talking on phone after one month. I got her number from her.

She is usually a very sweet person. But on phone she sounded v rude. She said to me “why did you call me”. Furthermore she went on to say “ I have a boyfriend and I am very happy “
I was not asking her whether she was single, so I was shocked with this. In shock I slowly told her “I didn't ask for a date, I just needed some information (regarding school)” . She heard me and she said to me “what?”
So I repeated it again for her. Then she asked what information and without even telling me handed the phone to a guy.
Why would she randomly over my call to a guy?
If she is so annoyed by me she could just tell me to not call her.

[harveykinkle]

If I liked you, and you brought another girl to the party I wouldn't get jealous as I have self respect. Instead, I would accept the fact that instead of asking me out, you asked her out. If you didn't ask her out, you accepted a date from her instead of trying to start something with me.

I understand that if a guy wants ME he will ask me out. Likewise if I like him enough, I have no problem asking him out.

I accept everything as is, not what I hope it is, what it could be or what it was.

[Asker]

well, I've asked her out in the past. Like I said, she's given me some general frustration with mixed signals.

[harveykinkle]

When I hear "mixed signals" this is usually what it means: Guy asks girl on date. Girl says no. Guy looks too far into "body language" or events with bias and interprets things wrong and calls it "mixed signals".

If a guy asks me out and I want to date him, I say yes. If I don't, I say no. I have never changed my mind about this.

Sometimes guys read my "signals" and accuse me of leading them on after I refused their offer of a date. That was their fault, not mine.

[Asker]

she didn't refuse. Didn't give me a proper answer. You may be straightforward, but she wasn't.

In addition, she still, even after not giving me a real answer, made comments to me like "your sense of humor is just my type" and "if you weren't around, I'd miss you." And she still wouldn't give me a real answer.

[harveykinkle]

Oh well that's really annoying :s

Date someone else. This is indicative of her character. Do you want a girlfriend who always leaves you guessing and can't come out and tell you how she actually feels about things? You were straight forward with her and as such you deserve the same in return :) She might be playing games. You don't want that!

[Asker]

I'm glad that girls like you exist that are straightforward. I can tell you that the girls who have straight up rejected me in the past are the ones that I have the most respect for and have fostered healthy friendships with after that. Nearly every girl who has never given me a straight answer right off the bat I've lost a lot of respect for and things have remained hazy.

[Dhi99]

Maybe she is shy.
Is she shy? Or outgoing?

[eaeaea]

Maybe...Maybe not..

She might have felt jealous, and played it off..

She might not have felt anything at all...

If I were interested in a guy, and later saw him with a girl.. It's huge turn off for me.. and I lose interest almost instantly!

I wouldn't feel jealous at all... maybe a sense of disappointment but only for an instant... then it's like whatever.

[Asker]

well, considering I was going nowhere with her as it was, I don't think it matters if she lost interest instantly when seeing me with her, if that was the case. Because that supposed interest wasn't getting me anywhere with her.

[eaeaea]

Then don't give it much thought.

[Anonymous]

First you shouldn't play games trying to make her jealous , If that was your attentions . But you can't always go by that , If she likes you but she's trying to hide it . She 's always going to act like a lady if she anything like me . She's not going to give you the satisfaction of giving you what you're trying to accomplish .

[Account]

a 100% times this ^

[Asker]

no that wasn't my intentions. I gave up on her. But obviously there's some feeling there if I'm thinking about this.

[Opinion Owner]

You like her , I think your in denial .

[calialltheway1993]

Sounds like you still like her. otherwise, this question would not have been posted.

So, you're trying to actually move on by bringing a date to a party. She greeted her nicely and politely. I'm not shocked. Did you expect her to explode and pull your dates hair?

She might have feelings for you. Just because she played it cool, doesn't mean she's doesn't have feelings. In fact, she might not have feelings anymore and might be heartbroken.

[RedSmartie]

She might not like you, or she might have given up on you.

I did that once. A friend of mine wanted to go out with a guy I liked (she didn't know) and he liked her back. I was really happy for them when they agreed to go on a date, even though I was a little upset, I also wanted him to be happy. I even consoled him after the date didn't work out and didn't make any moves toward him. Sometimes people just aren't the jealous type.

[thisusername2]

She might not like you or she might like you but is mature enough to know how to act in that situation.

You didn't really elaborate on this but if she has frustrated you for years then she probably doesn't like you in the way that you like her. It was smart of you to move on in my opinion. I am sure she cares enough to be happy for you that you met someone.

[toulouse]

no. If a person does not get and or act jealous they have self respect. self contol. and dignity.

nothing to do with liking someone. its about self respect.

[harveykinkle]

I like you. I wish there were more people in the world who thought like this.

[liltabbixxo]

She might just not show jealousy, ya know? Some people get jealous more than others too. Not showing jealousy doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested, but maybe she isn't interested. She could have just been being a nice person.

[anon1192]

She noticed you were into someone else and got over it.

She probably wouldn't wanna seem hung-up on you when you've moved on.

You don't seem to be over her...

[Asker]

she was the one holding me in flux, not the other way around, so of course it's harder for me to get over her. But on her side...I guess there's nothing for her to get over.

[polkiju]

Well you can't be sure. When I get jealous I rarely show it especially because I'm shy and I don't want the guy to know that I like him. I depends on her personality really.

[Asker]

well, she wasn't shy at all.

[Dhi99]

True, it depends on personality. by the way

Could you please help me. I called this girl and it is not like I always call her. We were talking on phone after one month. I got her number from her.
She is usually a very sweet person. But kn phone she sounded v rude. She said to me “why did you call me”. Furthermore she went on to say “ I have a boyfriend and I am very happy “
I was not asking her whether she was single, so I was shocked with this. In shock I slowly told her “I didn't ask for a date, I just needed some information (regarding school)” . She heard me and she said to me “what?”
So I repeated it again for her. Then she asked what information and without even telling me handed the phone to a guy.
Why would she randomly over my call to a guy?
If she is so annoyed by me she could just tell me to not call her.

[Dhi99]

Are you sure she is not shy. Plus how many guys has she dated before. Maybe she doesn't know to react because this is all new to her. Has she dated before and had serious relationships?

[MochaKisses]

That's not necessarily true. She just might be confident within herself and that's OK. She still could be interested in you. Keep your options open. Best of luck.

[desidoll]

Yes probably but there is also a possibility she was acting that way because she knew you wanted to make her jealous.

[Asker]

nah, she wouldn't know I was trying to, since I wasn't.

[Anonymous]

if she truly isn't jealous then no. but you can't always tell by her actions. she probably doesn't care though. however, if you like this girl it is pretty rude of you to be stringing your date along if she thinks you like her.

[Asker]

nah, I like my date more. But this girl and I had this thing for a while, so I was wondering because first time she's seen me with another girl.

So you don't think she cares, right? that's pretty much what I judged from her actions.

[Opinion Owner]

probably not

[Anonymous]

she might be sweet and not the jealous type. she could easily hide it if she's like that. I think you're going to need to look for other signs to be sure. I know I'm good at hiding when I'm a little jealous

[justme20]

Some girls aren't jealous. She either wasn't into you or she used to like you and moved on

[ilovecats13]

She is jealous I am telling you I know how girls are very jealous never introduce an old girlfriend to a new date wouldn't you be made if she had a boyfriend who did that.

[Asker]

but she was smiling and said "nice to meet you" and everything. Very accommodating.

[BackAgain]

No she could jus not be the jealous type

[Anonymous]

Yeah she doesn't like you the way you want her to

[Anonymous]

Nope she could be hard to get

[Anonymous]

Means she can keep her cool.be happy