I let life happen to me, I did not plan a beat of it. But I do have 3 beautiful kids 7,4 and 2 and as much as I love them and can't wait to continue to watch them grow, I fear most guys are afraid of this. It's cool either way, I just want some opinions.
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Kids require attention, especially if there is more than one. Most guys realize that they will not be the center of attention with a single mother, and if they are looking to develop a serious relationship, will shy away from your situation. Other guys will enter into a relationship such as this and then find out how much attention is given to the kids at the expense of the guy and their relationship fails.
Some guys can deal with it better, but it also takes some adapting by the mother. She must find ways to show him attention, yet not seem to be taking any away from her kids. Hard to do.
A single dad, as someone suggested, is a likely candidate. He already is dealing with the same problems on his own, and would feel less put off by your need to give attention to your kids. That is not to say to give up on single guys altogether, but it will be harder.0