Kids require attention, especially if there is more than one. Most guys realize that they will not be the center of attention with a single mother, and if they are looking to develop a serious relationship, will shy away from your situation. Other guys will enter into a relationship such as this and then find out how much attention is given to the kids at the expense of the guy and their relationship fails.
Some guys can deal with it better, but it also takes some adapting by the mother. She must find ways to show him attention, yet not seem to be taking any away from her kids. Hard to do.
A single dad, as someone suggested, is a likely candidate. He already is dealing with the same problems on his own, and would feel less put off by your need to give attention to your kids. That is not to say to give up on single guys altogether, but it will be harder.
Here's a story...of a lovely lady...and they became the bunch!
Some guys, yes, will not date you because of the children, but when I divorced and entered the dating scene, I had a child and thought the same.
It will simply take you a bit longer to find a more specialized man, but if he were that easy to find, it probably wouldn't make finding him that much more special.
you'll find better men that way. the bad ones will be out of the way.
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If I were divorced I'd find it most natural to get serious with a woman who also had kids. We'd be more in a similar space in life. I love kids and would need a partner who did too. I wouldn't mind having a bigger family but I wouldn't really want to have more babies. So a woman who has had kids would probably make the most sense.
So I'd guess you're looking more at divorced guys then never married.
It's not that they're afraid of it. It's that they aren't interested in the potentially financial burden. They don't want to take on the responsibility of raising and paying for someone else's child while receiving much less attention from their partner. It's not worth it in the eyes of a man with no children. Plus there's baby daddy drama to deal with as well. My advice. Date other single parents.
Most men who have their life together don’t find a woman who ‘lets life happen to them’ as a high value person to build a life with. Sounds more like a chaotic, immature person who should never have been a parent in the first place. You need a therapist not a partner.
well, yeah, to be honest some wouldn't.
i wouldn't date a woman with children, but only because i don't like children much.
personally i would never date a girl with kid"s"
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