Polls: Dating

ex broke up with me not because l did anything bad, I was good. But she felt resistance and that we would clash. She was a little dismissive/mean at the end. She did say we could be friends.

I unfollowed her and told her not to contact me again as I was hurt. It has been 7 weeks with nil contact between us. It was a shorter relationship but we met each others parents, stayed overnight and she is literally the most beautiful girl in the the world.

Message: (I will start the conversation asking how she is)

I do understand there’s a good chance you may have moved on. Looking back on our relationship, I thought what we had was special and unique! Despite how it ended, I would like to try one last time to reach out to you as I thought what we shared was genuinely meaningful!

It would be nice to meet and catch up with you again!

I respect your decision if this is simply not what you would want.

My ex broke up with me. It wasn’t a nasty breakup. Although she was a bit mean/dismissive at the very end. Nothing bad happened. I met her parents she met mine. Marriage talks despite a shorter 4 month relationship

I stopped contacting her and removed her off of socials. I have spent the last 6 weeks really depressed. I lost a connection and literally the most beautiful girl in the world 😭😭

I’m a guy I can lose my pride/dignity for a girl I like? Who cares?

I won’t beg her or send her an essay. But reach out check how she is and explain how I think what we had was really special. But also be like I understand if she has moved on.

No pressure or desperation in the message.

Hello,

So I recently just turned 24. I've noticed a lot of people still classify me as young looking and look I just got out of high school. Reality is that I actually just recently got out of the military after doing 4 years. I have 0 dating experience. I'm looking online and I noticed I actually find some 18 and 19 year olds attractive and in person as well. I actually had a younger girl (below 20) hit on me a while back. Is it fine for me to date 18 and 19 year olds or no? I don't have a problem with it but that's just me. How old is too old to date an 18 or 19 year old?

Reasons for breaking up, guy didn’t make her feel special enough, feels resistance inside.

Girl was a bit mean and dismissive to the guy at the end.

Shoukd you ever wait for the dust to settle and then try again despite being rejected once? If you really like the girl. Or do you lose self respect and dignity?

When I got dumped by my ex I was shocked as we were so compatible and I was good to her.

But suddenly the emotional tide changed in her head. Her feelings turned to resistance. Seeing a person change like that when you were open emotionally to her, and let her in is sooo painful.

Like girl’s feelings are just uncontrollable and change like the wind.

It seems like you hear stories about a woman saying a guy kept chasing a woman for like a year then after she finally gave in then she became in love with him. What is it with that?

How come you don't hear about a woman who kept pursuing a guy, after he was acting standoffish, that didn't stop her, once she kept trying he gave in and the rest is history

After a breakup to go ghost and immediately unfollow. They never reach out and just disappear. No way or mutual friend to find out how they are.

If a guy was overall good to you and not rogue. Do you just tend to remember the good bits about the relationship

Do you believe in this? That if two people are meant to be together it will just work out in the end. For example if two people break up if it is meant to be they will find a way to come back to each other somehow.

What has she thrown away?

I am a good guy, sensitive and I don’t drink/club/smoke. We got on and had chemistry. I am a guy who ticked all her boxes on paper, same culture and religion. In the same top career like her, I’m from a really good family that is very wealthy. Her parents liked me. I’m tall, good looking and in shape. It’s like I’ve got every gift out there and still wasn’t enough :(

In the end I was fighting for her which is kind of crazy because she should be fighting for a guy like me too.

In the end I didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong I was a good boyfriend. Her reasons were just a bit retarded thinking I’m a player, it could get messy, didn’t make her feel special.

We all make small mistakes, but I tried to be a good boyfriend and invested a lot of my time and energy and was committed. I don’t think I will ever understand how she just let me go. Very painful.

I am crazy about this girl. We had a short but full on relationship. The last two weeks there was arguing then we broke it off and it was mainly her not wanting it. She did consider getting back, but felt a weight off her shoulders when we broke it off as she thought it could get messy, thinks we could clash. Rang her the next day and she agreed to take a break. Then she rang me back a few days later and rinsed me.

Saying I didn’t make her feel special, didn’t provide for her and loads of reasons, and I agreed to make the necessary changes, apologised said I really like her. She was like ‘not sure not sure, you’re a nice guy.’ Said she just wants to be single for a couple months then get back to dating a new guy, and to delete the account we set up together.

It has been 1.5 months with no contact. I removed her off of instagram as soon as we broke up. Told her to never contact me again - as I thought that was it and was hurt, bit impulsive. She hasn’t blocked me off WhatsApp.

I was a good boyfriend to her. I didn’t do anything wrong, we all make small mistakes but nothing bad. We have met each others parents, a lot of marriage discussion. I thought we got on soo well. I am messed up. She was insanely beautiful as well. Once in a lifetime girl.