Don't Let One Night Ruin Your Life

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Don't Let One Night Ruin Your Life

I'm in my 30s, and I have never had an alcoholic beverage nor have I ever done any form of illegal drugs. When people hear that oftentimes it's met with disbelief, or they feel like I've not lived life, or what have you, but these two things have never held me back from doing what I've wanted in my life, nor have they changed my life in such a way that I felt like it was ruined. Sadly, the same cannot be said for a lot of people in the reverse.

I don't think, at least in the case of alcohol, the only way through life is not drinking anything at all, because there are plenty of people who can have one or two drinks, and who have designated drivers, and don't drink to access, and do just fine, but there are also that other set that unfortunately drink or do drugs to the point where they don't know who they are, what they're doing, and often times in those states, one night of so called "harmless fun," can have extreme consequences.

Don't Let One Night Ruin Your Life

I have a dear friend of mine who has wanted to be a police officer his entire life since he was a little kid. He went to school and studied law enforcement, and has applied now to three departments, but each time, despite high scores, and praise, he has been passed over. When he was in his early 20s, he and some buddies of his were out drinking on a curb near their house, and he got really drunk and as a car passed by, he threw a glass shattering the drivers windshield.

The driver was okay, but they called the police and as a result, he has this black mark on his record. A record that now is being used as a means to reject him from his lifelong dream because to a police department, if you are entrusting someone with the law, here it is, someone who has already broken the law, and was drunk while doing it. That doesn't exactly say to them, "this is someone whom we can trust with a gun or to remain sober whilst doing it."

Now I know him, and I know he is a good man, a great family man, and a great friend, but this one drunk night has altered his life and he may have to change his dream job because of it if he's rejected yet again. Also don't be fooled into thinking that people will just automatically give you a second chance just because you've had a good record previously. Once you land in the system, often people just see that you've been in trouble, and don't even look beyond that on things like job applications, because it's hard to know who's really a liability and who just made that one mistake that one night.

Don't Let One Night Ruin Your Life

I think a lot of people just think it's funny when someone gets drunk or high and does stupid things like that, but rarely do people think of the consequences and the affects they can have. If you are a woman in particular, there are sadly some unscrupulous guys who would try to take advantage of you being unconscious. You may not even remember what happened to you or whose bed you're in when you wake up, and that is a frightening feeling that you just never want to have. Nowadays, everyone has a camera, and images of your naked body or you in a sex act even without you being aware can end up on the internet. I know with my last employer, they monitored social media, and pictures coming up on it, and especially becoming public, did lead to people getting fired even when what they were doing was not on company time.

Often, employers have a clause in your work contract that specifies that anything that you're doing whether in or out of work that could essentially make the company look bad or call into question your ability to handle the job, is grounds for firing you. Social media has taken down quite a few people, and if you are the person who is drunk or high, often times, you have no memory of not only what you were doing, but of people taking video or posting pictures of you. Once those things are up, they get spread around, your boss, your family, your friends, everyone sees them, even the police in many cases, and that's it for you.

I say all this because, while you're hopefully sober and have your head on straight enough to read this, I hope you really consider avoiding setting your life goals to get really wasted or really high in order to have a good time because one night can really F up your life. It's the same sad story where people say these things to you, and you think, well drunk driving accidents happen to other people, or no one ever did anything bad while on this or that drug, or no one is going to rape me at that party because those people are my friends, but that simply isn't the case and bad stuff does happen. People get arrested, go to jail, lose their jobs, lose friends, and in the worst case scenarios, kill someone or themselves, harm themselves, or harm others. Those are nights you don't want to have to wake up to. You don't want to put yourself in a position where you lose everything for four or five hours.

Don't Let One Night Ruin Your Life
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