It seems like a lot of high schoolers today (at least the ones i've been exposed to) seem to want to always party and do whatever happens at those parties. I feel like i'm unique because i've never partied or anything like that. Which makes me unique because i'm considered popular, but never invited to any of those parties. Because of this I have stayed single throughout high school. I honestly don't know how I feel about. As a guy I feel like it's expected for me to be in a relationship or having sex and if i'm not that makes me different in a bad way. I know i've said this before, but I just need to get this off my chest.
Because of me not partying I don't see my friends as much as most do because they are probably partying and doing illegal stuff. I do take this personally sometimes. Other times I literally could care less. Sometimes i'm secure. Sometimes i'm insecure. Sometimes I have FOMO. I don't think anyone understands that. I don't want to do drugs or drink alcohol by any means. I'm not into any of that. But it seems like everyone else is. Even the people you wouldn't expect, they do it as well.
The point of me writing this was to say this. Not everyone in high school is the same. Not every guy in high school is a guy who wants to party, have sex, and don't want a relationship with you. Is every guy at those parties like that? No. But I can tell you that a lot of them are. I also know that the guy that really wants to be with a girl (and wants to treat her right) might not be at the parties because he is either shy and/or insecure. Because of this he may not of had a girlfriend or had sex before. It feels like he is the only one who is experiencing this as a guy.
In my high school experience I have learned that most people want to party and do those things and if you don't do so you either have friends who just so happen to not party or you are not invited to those parties. I personally have experienced both. I still have one more year left in high school and I hope all goes well, because high school nowadays seems like it's for fun (doing illegal things at parties) and it seems like you must be in a relationship. I don't believe any of that to be true or necessary. I certainly don't think i'm alone here. But none the less that seems to be the narrative that is pushed forward by most people, even though it shouldn't be.