I hate my job and I can feel myself growing distant from everyone, including my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have been very unhappy in my job for a while. If you ask anyone, my job is a dream job, which honestly makes this whole situation worse. I should love my job, but change in management and some new awful coworkers really changed it and I have been stressed ever since. I started going out with my girlfriend about a year ago and up until then, the job was manageable, but it got significantly worse since then.

My job is pretty public facing and I get a lot of hate online, which only makes it all worse. It culminated in getting a death threat recently. I’ve had issues with a stalker through work and this was the last straw…luckily I have recently been getting scouted for other jobs. But the issue is, in my line of work, pretty much any job I get will be in another city. I told my girlfriend months ago that I was looking for another job, she knows how much I’ve been struggling.

I think because I have made the decision I have to leave this job, I have been growing distant from everyone…and I feel terrible because of it. I am just really struggling and my girlfriend loves me and relies on me a lot, but I am not ready to move in together and I also don’t think she’d be able to move to a new city regardless, she has never lived anywhere else and she basically takes care of her entire family.

I know I need to leave the job, and I will deal with whatever consequences that brings, but I guess I could use some advice. I can’t be there emotionally for anyone because of how much I am struggling and knowing how much my girlfriend’s happiness depends on me is also making matters worse (not to put any of this on her, just how the situation is)

[Anonymous]

Sorry you’re going through that, I went through it with an ex, we were together for almost two years and his job offered something much better but in another state. It was very heartbreaking and he wanted to stay, but if you love someone truly then you want them to be happy, even if it’s not with you. So we made the very hard choice for him to move and I stayed behind. It’s been years now, he’s thriving there and I’m in a new relationship equally as good if not better. But my moral here is, do what’s best for you and your mental. Your girlfriend sounds more codependent of you than anything and you can’t stay miserable because you’re trying to hold her up. If there’s a chance to live better, then take it because life is short bro. If you two are meant to be it will work in the future.

[Anonymous]

What job is this if you don't mind me asking