I’m feeling very unhappy in my new job. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I feel like my colleagues seem miserable as they swear like truckers and rant out loud their problems. It’s a production office job and I feel like I don’t have that loud mouth personality to fit in there. The company has a high amount of people leaving both in the factory and offices. They are always talking badly about others and I feel like I’m too scared to talk to anyone and make connections. On Tuesday the director came up screaming and shouting at some lady and she stormed off him crying and he also chased her down the street from the office I could hear him shouting at her outside

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2 mo

Should I put my notice in or just quit? They don’t have a HR department in my company. I’m really dreading Monday I’m not sure what to do.

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2 mo

Another manager that worked in my department resigned and he was a new manager only in the job 6 weeks

[dynamicyandere]

Sounds like a toxic work environment.


I’d apply for another job, land that job, and then leave the current job.


I’d try to find some place that I’d be happy to work at for at least 3 years.


High pressure is one thing. I’ve done high pressure. I’m in a high pressure role right now. But, it’s not a toxic work environment and nobody complains.


Negativity and complaining and bad attitude is horrible for team morale and slows down operations.


The company I work for, is like Bar Rescue or Kitchen Nightmares, but for businesses. We go in and we help their businesses double or triple their revenue.


But in order to help other businesses reach peak performance, we need to operate at peak performance as well.


When peak performance and productivity is your goal, there is no time for negativity, drama, and complaining.


It’s all about having a great attitude, finding solutions, solving problems, and getting sh*t done in the most efficient way possible.

[Asker]

The owner said to everyone that we needed to ask to go to the bathroom now and that we can’t go as much. It’s crazy because we have a tiny one 30mins break for an 8 hour shift more if we need to do over time which you are pretty much bullied into

[dynamicyandere]

Wow. That unnecessary micromanaging must be stressful. The owner sounds like a control freak.

The irony is that if the owner wants better performance from their employees, if they want “control” of the business’s revenue, then people are going to perform much better through better leadership—not needless arbitrary rules and regulations.

I’d say as long as everyone is has good KPI’s (Key Performance Indictors) then they should be able to take restroom breaks whenever they need to.

Treating your employees better helps motivates them to work harder. Working harder = more productivity.

High standards and high quotas is one thing. That’s fine, as long as it’s been demonstrated (to show that it’s possible). But restricting restroom breaks as a means to achieve that isn’t a smart strategy.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are in a very difficult and uncomfortable work environment. It's important to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being, and if your job is causing you significant unhappiness, it may be time to consider making a change.

Here are some steps you can take:

1. Reflect on your goals and values: Consider what is most important to you in a job, such as work-life balance, a positive work culture, opportunities for growth and development, or a sense of purpose. Reflecting on these values can help you determine whether your current job is a good fit for you.

2. Evaluate your options: Consider whether there are any changes you can make to improve your current situation, such as talking to your manager or HR about your concerns. Alternatively, you may want to start looking for new job opportunities that align more closely with your goals and values.

3. Take care of yourself: It's important to prioritize your mental and emotional health during this time. Make sure you are taking breaks throughout the day, getting enough sleep and exercise, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed.

4. Create a plan: If you decide to look for a new job, create a plan for how you will go about it. This may include updating your resume, networking with contacts in your industry, and applying to job openings.

Remember, it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and make changes if your current job is not a good fit for you. With some reflection, evaluation, and planning, you can take steps towards finding a job that aligns with your goals and values and brings you more happiness and fulfillment.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I don't like using the word toxic as it's overused, but you really do have a toxic work environment! No wonder you're so unhappy there!!! The red flag is when you said there's a high turnover rate of people leaving: that's when you know it's bad there, especially if older or longterm employees start to leave.

Start job hunting...quietly. Just keep your head down, do your job, and when you're not busy? Look for new opportunities. If it's just that certain department that's the issue, you can try to do an internal transfer so you're still there, just out of that area and away from the manager. But if it's the whole company that's the issue? LEAVE. Just don't tell anyone that you're job hunting (or get caught job hunting on the job).

I've had jobs where I dreaded coming into work; it's not a good feeling or healthy for you. It wasn't until I found another job where I felt appreciated, wanted, and dealt with good coworkers that I realized how bad things really were! Best of luck to you.

[Asker]

I was told to go help in another department during a quiet morning and the moment I walked in this lady says “how are you liking it?” “Well you must be fine if you are still here” I’ve heard stories where people didn’t come back and just leave… deffo not a good sign if that’s been said to me a lot

[TenderFantasy]

Yeah if you feel THIS uncomfortable, then yeah, it's not good for your psychological health to be in that kind of environment. Maybe one wrong move and you will be JUST LIKE that lady that ran off crying because the director just found out his wife was cheating on him and you're the easy target!

Been with crappy jobs in the past so I know what it's like.

However, you think you really need the job and you think you can last there and keep quiet and keep to yourself, then that's on you. You really have to listen to yourself and do a pros and cons list. If you need the job, don't quit just yet. Look for something else in the meantime, if you can, otherwise, yeah, it's a ticking time bomb for you and or your company!

[JinRavage]

There are times that a decent job is just in hard times, making it more stressful. Or in my experience any factory salary job can be surrounded by negativity because we can see that it is close to being a good job, or it was better in the past. Being asked how you are liking the job in these cases are often the seniority people asking if new people see the problems like they do.

You don't need a loud mouth to do what you need to do. You just need to look at what you are actively paid to do, and do specifically that.

However I have seen some of your comments and the most scathing thing is that you mentioned the bathroom is in bad shape. I have had training and experienced it personally. State of the bathroom is state of management. Sometimes its just growing pains or drops in economy. But it sounds like that this company it trying to industrialize while still keeping the mom and pop shop status since they did not bother setting up HR.

I would say start quiet quiting for a better job, but if they offer to train you, take it. You own your training, so just take copies of your training certs and take them elsewhere unless you personally see potential in the company.

[OfMiceandMen]

I had one of those jobs for awhile, it is not fun, the negativity detracts from the job. I kept applying while I was working there, till I found a job that I really liked.

That crap job was a stepping stone to the job I am in now, so sometimes you just have to keep your head down, do your work and stay off the radar with respect to those people that tend to complain about everything.

[Asker]

I also thought the conditions were awful like the office for example leaking roof starting to cause mould, missing blinds, horrible old bathrooms the place is dangerous. I was talking to someone is the factory and she said she had a finger accident and said the health & safety is lacking

[OfMiceandMen]

Sounds like a sweatshop, where their employees are just a bottom-line. If you really need the job, then stick-it-out, but be careful, and as I said, use it as a stepping stone to something better.

[Asker]

I really regret applying to this company turned out to be so horrible no wonder people don’t last long in there. I’ve had people tell me they have had people just leave and not come out back

[Anonymous]

okay, it looks like it's time to find a new job. next time, make sure you read the reviews from previous/current employees of the workplace online before ever putting in an application. this is a very important step. in the meantime, go to work, collect your paycheck, and go home. ignore everyone else.

[Asker]

I’m planning resigning and working a temp job

[exitseven]

Wow, it sounds like a really dysfunctional place. I works at a place like that. Every day was a soul sucking ordeal and there was a real undercurrent of paranoia throughout the whole place. People would disappear and nobody would know what happened to them. I lasted 7 weeks before I was fired and they never really told me why and they even admitted that I did everything that they asked me to do. You should start looking for another job.

[Orion76]

Those are the worst kind of jobs the dynamics are strange and the ass kissing Is like nothing I’ve ever seen and so is the conspiracies and back stabbing my advice look for something else while you still there also don’t do an exceptional job just your job anything you do better than those around makes you a threat and isn’t gonna make it a comfortable place for you.

[Asker]

Also horrible work conditions the place is falling apart leaking roof in the office, mould starting to grow, missing blinds , no cleaners as the desks gather dust and dirt and the bathrooms really need decorated looks like it hasn’t been touched since the 80s

[Orion76]

I had a similar job i know exactly how it is and it goes deeper in my case the environment I can handle it’s the coworkers that I quit after 3 months, the economy is at its worst right now and if you are not working you are spending stay as long as you can luv, but keep looking. It gets a bit easier the first months or so you get what I call the new job blues it’s normal that’s on top of what you explained. Best of luck to you

[Asker]

I have a temp that I have lined up to pay the bills until I find something in my field

[Asker]

Temp jo*

[Orion76]

There you go and you got this

[mobiusforniner]

One man or woman can't change the world, but one man or woman can make a difference.

That difference doesn't happen overnight. It comes with years of perseverance and fortitude. You must build credibility, earn respect and lead with humility. I too work in an office full of cussing "truckers". But those "truckers" are still humans- people with lives, goals, and ambition. Win the mob and they'll move mountains for you.

[RockyHammock]

Look for a new job. If a company has a high turn over and when you get there nobody can speak up for the position they sit in then those are neon red signs telling you to gtfo.

Negativity is contagious, before long, like your current coworkers, you will adopt the negatively inherently. No amount of money is worth losing your mental over

[Asker]

It’s a dreadful place it’s Saturday night and I’m overthinking dreading Monday I can’t honestly take it anymore. If I put my 2 week notice in I dunno if I can handle another 2 weeks of that place

[Static_In_The_Attic]

A job is a job & the good news is that there are other jobs out there & if you are thinking of leaving just make sure you have another job in hand.

[LickSmack]

I feel you in many ways. I'm among the only people at my job who maintains a somewhat chipper attitude, while everyone else complains. (I've had awful previous jobs, so I can see the many upsides to my current one)

If your department doesn't have Human Resources, it could be wise to find work elsewhere if you're in a pinch, especially if it could keep you even slightly more safe, in my opinion.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Oh I’ve worked in those places and they will destroy your mental health if you stay long enough.

[Asker]

I’m not gonna turn up on Monday I’m so done

[Asker]

They don’t have a he department either

[ChefPapiChulo]

the cynicaldreamer person gave some good advice. but definitely not a good idea to stay there.

[strlb]

Find another job that is fulfilling and leave. This could impact you negatively emotionally and psychologically if you don't find your way out soon. Additionally, there are a few steps that you could take to address them; 1) h. r. 2) state agency 3) take notes and record this madness. Best of luck!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I guess quit if it's that bad. Every job has it's downfalls though, and it's called "work" for a reason. Not "happy fun time".

Still, if it's making you miserable, I'm sure there are better options out there

[WanderingLoveWizard]

And definitely give 2 weeks notice. It will help you in the future

[Adam1978]

Sounds like you did a poor research of the company before signing the contract. You don't need a bad mouth, you need a back bone to know how to hold your own ground.

[Asker]

I wish I never applied there lots of people have left that company in other departments as well and walked out and never came back

[Adam1978]

You shouldn't be afraid to apply for jobs, it's often required to get a good view of a company and the people working there. What you need to understand is that interviews are for both sides, they should find out if you fit the job, but you should also find out if they fit as an employer. The better merits and economy you have, the pickier you can be when selecting your next job. So make sure you ask what is important for you. If it doesn't match you just leave the recruitment flow and turn down the position.

[BrickBiggems]

Get another job and leave. This place is not worth wasting your time on.

[AviatorTom]

You don't need to work in a place like that... thst totally doesn't fit you. Find a new job and quit.

[Asker]

I’m really dreading Monday I dunno if I could hack it. I’ve been told that a lady before didn’t come back and just left

[Asker]

Before me**

[RealMarek]

Start the job search, just don’t use company wifi or phone to do it.

[RealMarek]

Don’t give notice until you land a new job. It’s much easier to find a job if you are already employed. If you have a new job lined up, give your boss two weeks’ notice if possible.

[RealMarek]

Always give the resignation letter to your manager, not HR.

[Sour-rose]

Fk that job. A mofo who disrespects me and think i'm their rat to abuse, they can go fk themselves

[J060170]

Find another job first so you have something to go into. But yeah I’d leave too.

[helva]

Horrible, try to search some other job.

[MysticDevice]

Get out while you can.