My coworker talks over me and dominates every meeting, and my manager just watches it happen… is it my responsibility to do something about this?

[Anonymous]

My manager is a very passive person, and my coworker is dominant and extroverted. During every meeting, my coworker talks 90% of the time. Her contributions are valuable, but I cannot get a word in edgewise. Also, because she has such a competitive personality, I know if I say something, it will likely result in us butting heads.

My manager doesn’t seem to care. She just sits there and lets my coworker go on and on and on.. my coworker has talked over me, bossed me around, and belittled me in front of my manager and I am getting no support.

I just had a review and my manager said that I’m doing a great job and there’s nothing I can improve on. So I know she likes me as an employee. But I don’t understand why she doesn’t support me.
I’m wondering if she expects me to push back? But then our team dynamic will be a mess because my coworker will see it as a competition.

is it my responsibility to be more assertive with my coworker, or my managers?

Your responsibility

Manager

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FYI, we are the same level of employee (my coworker is not higher level than me)

[Chris_Morgan]

I used to manage a small crew of about 6 employees a long time ago. I do think the manager should be running the meetings so that every employee has a chance to speak, and the workers should be treating each other with mutual respect. Typically all the manager really cares about is that everyone showed up and the work is getting done. If that's being accomplished they aren't that motivated to deal with anything else unless it's brought to their attention. I guess if you really feel strongly that your coworker is making your job difficult you could consult your manager and see if she cares enough to help. Unfortunately not every manager is a good person, or has the guts to keep their workers in line. Your manager may even be a bit intimidated by your loud-mouthed co worker as well.

[Guy13]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/eZHsmb4ezEk

You can do the best work in the 🌎 🌍 🌏 BUT, if you do not have the Ovaries to go…I saw movie cause this old girl died… godfather…. ANYWAY- Ovaries to go: Dead Tone-“ Are you finished talking over me, I am through with it, so, gentleman-ladies, “here’s where we are going” THEN STFU and push your paper and answer phones ☎️. Pick-up the bat 🦇 phone PLEASE 🙏 saying the manager 🤷🏻‍♂️…damn🤷🏻‍♂️.. wtf🤷🏻‍♂️ This woman, man. 🥲

Listen to the references to Daughter.

[Imsmurter1]

maybe talk with your manager privately or talk with the coworker privately. Otherwise just try to hog the convo next time or speak louder than her maybe yell if must be.