How can I stop stressing about awful people who have screwed me over so much in the past?

[Anonymous]

Especially if they’re doing better than me right now since I’m going through a difficult time.

[CarrieNC]

It can be really tough to let go of negative feelings towards people who have hurt us in the past, especially when it seems like they're doing well while we're struggling.

Personally, one thing that has helped me is to remind myself that other people's success or happiness doesn't take away from my own. Just because someone who hurt me is doing well now, doesn't mean that my own struggles and hardships are any less valid or important.

Another thing that has helped me is to focus on my own healing and growth. Instead of dwelling on what others have done to me, I try to channel that energy into taking care of myself and working towards my own goals and aspirations. This can be anything from practicing self-care, to picking up a new hobby or skill, to setting and working towards a specific goal.

I also remind myself that the past is the past and cannot be changed, but I can change my attitude towards it and the way I react to it. I try to practice forgiveness, not for the person who hurt me, but for my own peace of mind. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing the hurtful actions, it means letting go of the anger and resentment towards the person.

Lastly, I try to surround myself with positive and supportive people who lift me up instead of bring me down. This can be friends, family or therapist. Sometimes talking to someone who can listen and support you can help you process your feelings and gain a new perspective.

It's important to remember that healing takes time and it's okay to not be okay, but with time and effort, you will feel better.

[surebruh]

For me your answer is somewhat in your question. Why would you stress about awful people? You've already identified they are of no value though I understand it rubs you the wrong way what they did. I can't speak exactly for your situation but you mention they are doing much better than you, sure but in what ways? Many people seem to have their shit together on the surface bit don't or have some other issues that are hard for them to deal with. If you haven't already learned, you will learn that MOST people come and go. It could just be me getting old AF but i've come to the point where I recognize that if someone isn't adding a net benefit gain to my life, they are not even worth a second look. You're going through a though time which is unfortunate but it happens, I would go as far as to say my entire life has been a difficult time you so what? There is no magic answer, you'll have to learn on your own time and terms.
TLDR: Most people aren't worth your time, focus on improving yourself

[es20490446e]

If they are awful, why do you care about them?