Do you think a coworker should stick up for you if they see another coworker mistreating you?

[Anonymous]

One coworker tells me it is not their job. I say yes because we are a team...

Yes

No

Other

[Cynicaldreamer]

In a perfect world? Absolutely. Just like how we should be able to go our managers and/or HR if we feel unsafe or have issues in the workplace, and be able to report said issues without fear of repercussions-

However, real life doesn't work that way. Your coworkers are not your friends, nor should you expect anything out of them. I know, that sounds callous, but I learned a long time ago not to rely on anyone in the workplace but yourself if you want something done right. Otherwise, you'll get disappointed.

If you have someone you can rely on or act as an alibi in the workplace? That's awesome! But I've had coworkers see me get mistreated or lied to- ask me if they defended me? Nope. They only look out for themselves, or are afraid if they say something, they will get punished too.

So yes, a coworker -should- stick up for you. Do they? Rarely. Most people only care about themselves (in the workplace and other aspects of life) and will only help you if it benefits themselves as well.

[Asker]

I think it is sad. Things got so bad for me that I had a mental breakdown (~2hr sleep and needed to have an emergency meeting with manager tell about what was going on with a coworker). I left the meeting feeling invalidated/gaslighted as if I am imagining things. I really hope this is not the norm at other companies.

[Asker]

And he wasn't even there to witness things...

[Anonymous]

Of course people should support each other. Sadly too many people only care about themselves.

[strateguy632]

2nd,,

[Anonymous]

Yes I do.