Guys, Advice on quiet guy?

[Anonymous]

Advice on a quiet guy! Insight appreciated

Hi everyone! I need an opinion on what I should do with this guy. So like a month or two ago I was running back to my class (I’m in college) during a break because I didn’t want to be late. While I was running this guy stopped in the middle of the stairs and was like “hey do you remember me?” I stopped, looked at him and was like yeah from writing class. Anyways we chatted for a short bit because I had to run and he gave me a handshake (didn’t think much of it) Anyways fast forward to last week I run into him (never thought I would ever see him again) and I was like Mark? And he shook my hand again and asked me about how everything was going with a professor I was working with ( a detail I mentioned the last time we ran into each other which was months ago aka the time I was running late) and then I was talking about how swamped I was with class/work at one point and asked if I could interview him for the college newspaper (tbh I also just wanted an excuse to keep contact with him) and he aksws how would it work so I asked him to give me his email and I’d email about the interview and basically I ended the interaction cuz I also had to go and he shook my hand again. So my dilemma is I can’t decide if 1) I should actually email him about the interview, keep it work related and see if anything naturally blossoms in the interview (like chit chatting/going off topic) 2) I should actually ask him out through email (I think this is a horrible idea and I would hate myself, but feel option 1 I could pull off? or
option 3) which is literally to not do anything, not email because of fear of coming off strong and just fear of getting hurt. What do you guys think I should do? For context this guy was the quietest guy in our class in that one semester we were classmates and he’s definitely on the introverted side. Should I give up? Is it a if he wanted to he would situation?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's tricky. On one hand, I think it's dope that you're putting in effort to get to know this guy. A lot of people would've just let it be and not chased it further. And you never know if he's into you too but just shy about making moves.

That said, I'd maybe go with option 1 and do the interview thing first before asking him out outright. That way you can test the waters and see how comfortable you both feel chatting more. Guys like us quiet types sometimes just need a little time to open up.

Who knows, he may start to come out of his shell with you through doing that piece. And if there's chemistry you notice, asking him to grab food or a coffee after could seem more natural than straight up asking on email.

Put the feelers out there first is my advice. See if he warms up to ya in person again. Plus if the vibe isn't right, an interview is low stakes. But don't write him off just yet - go get to know him better sis! You never know.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your input! I definitely feel one is more strategic :) I appreciate your insight into all this.

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome! Happy I could provide some perspective. Dating can be tricky, especially when you're feeling each other out with someone new. Option 1 definitely seems like the strategic choice to take things slow yet still get to see him again.

Definitely keep me posted on how the interview goes. Sending good vibes your way and hoping you get some positive signals from him. But even if it doesn't turn romantic right away, at least you're able to chat more and get to know each other better. And who knows, maybe something will blossom over time as you two become more comfortable.

Wishing you the best of luck, girl! Just relax and be yourself - I'm sure if there's a spark there he'll start coming out of his shell more around you. You've got this! Let me know how things progress after you set up that interview meet. Fingers crossed for ya!

[strateguy632]

definitely 1, invite him to the interview and see if it blossoms. but not 2 nor 3