Why are quiet guys SO confusing?

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So, I reached out (yes) and texted the super introverted guy that I liked at my school (I have no classes with him but we used to last year) and well, he matched the energy! He helped me out with some classwork, he asked questions about my life, and he told me personal stuff about his life too even though we've barely talked around school before this (like twice). The whole texting ratio was great too, he replied with lots of messages and I genuinely felt a friendship forming. This is really unexpected for him too because he basically has like... no friends. The only thing is, I had to initiate the ENTIRE time. And it got to a point where he was just super dry one day after taking a whole day to reply and since he didn't keep the conversation going, I just left his message on read. But he still smiled and waved at me when we saw eachother in the hallways. It's been 2 months since we last stopped talking and we still wave at eachother but he hasn't initiated ANYTHING. He doesn't even like my stories when I post. How am I meant to interpret this...

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You have to look at it as just the way that it is just the way you describe it Weather they're introverted or extroverted A lot of guys are in their own head, and if they're communicating with you back-and-forth and all of a sudden they stop or become dry, it's because they have something else going on, it's probably another girl.
 And they seem to always want you to bend for them. And when you don't, when you do what you did, that's the best thing in the world you could have done, because she was showing you without him knowing it himself to you, how he truly is, so that's a good thing, but you have to look at it for what it really is, and not what's in your head. It doesn't matter who the guy is or what type of relationship you have with him, guys will prove to you who they are without even knowing what they're doing just by thinking they're smart and they're getting away with something, but if you pay attention, if you listen to a person, they will lie to you and then tell you the truth in the same sentence, without even knowing what it is that they did Once you learn how to read it guy, they're not confusing at all. If they are committed, they're definitely not confusing. But if they're bull shitting you so caught up in themselves that right after the fly, they'll tell you the truth, but you just have to be able to pay attention and listen to The Words that they're using. To be honest , guys are really easy to understand once you understand the way that they work You're either going to be one hundred percent honest with you Are there gonna feed you or tell you what you want to hear so they can get what they want. And they will tell you that truth the same time, they're lying to you. You just have to be able to pay attention here what they're really saying, and
If you're looking at them as they're doing , it , read their eyes and their body language that will tell you the same thing

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

LOL, he’s already shown you he’s happy to respond and interact if you initiate. So do that. He’s different. Welcome to introverts 101.

He still waves and responds. It just doesn’t register with him that he needs to take the lead sometimes.

You’re gonna have to teach him. Ask him why he doesn’t initiate. Tell him you’d like him to start a conversation anytime he has something to share. It may take a long time for him to bond with people. But the bonds probably mean something to him.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

He’s saying “we’re ok” and “I’m not interested” very clearly. A guy wants a friend he’ll go out and get one. A guy is interested in a gal he’ll scale the side of a building to get to her.

If he’s not even answering texts he’s not your friend, he’s not interested, etc.

Say it with me “acquaintance.”

You don’t have to like or follow or do anything. But possibly if he saw you in a ditch he’d call 911 for you.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

The confusion usually stems from the fact that silence is ambiguous. When someone doesn't say much, our brains tend to fill in the gaps with our insecurities or assumptions.

MikeMcMansion · Answer

They’re putting it in the food, but yeah our endocrine system is bombarded with synthetic additives and genetically engineered “new proteins” that cause all sorts of chaos. I blame diet, but also our overly digital society and other aspects of modern culture that aren’t conducive to the proper raising of boys in particular for this rise in introverted/autistic young men.

They're confusing because they’re unhappy with the retardification of modern society (autistic) or they themselves are just confused by life and what it means to be a man today and would rather retreat into comfortable isolation (incel).

snermcger · Answer

I don't get shit like this. Go ask the boy out. He is shy. If he says no, no one will care because nobody cares about his mute ass anyway.
So go up to him and ask him if he wants to hang out. I don’t understand why you’re hesitant. Just go ask the boy out. He’s shy, and if he says no, it won’t matter because no one really pays attention to him anyway. Just reply with something like "No? That's why everybody thinks you're a serial killer!"
So, approach him and see if he wants to hang out. Nothin to lose.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

I can be like this. Someone like that might interpret your lack of communication with him as a desire to keep your relationship with him distant. Especially if you reached out to him for help with homework he might see you as only wanting to be a homework buddy.

Men are a lot more influenced by women than you might think. Women often controlb the pace of the relationship, but men are the ones who finalize and make the moves.

Your subtle hints have not been enough. So here is what I suggest. Find a piece of media like a song or a tik tok you think he would like. Share it with him and say something like this "I saw this and it reminded me of you". This should get the cogs in his head turning.

Twalli · Answer

As a shy guy I'll explain what I can. He will NEVER initiate, so if that's what you were aiming for him to do. It's not going to happen. He also will match your energy mostly, but most shy guys won't be able to keep a conversation going. You have to take the lead pretty much all the time. Maybe volunteer information and then ask him. Like "I had __ for dinner. What about you?" or such. For shy guys even fleeting contact can signal a connection, and since we don't need a lot of interpersonal interaction, we don't see things as wrong if the conversation part ends.

Finchie40 · Answer

Move on from him , if it’s been 2 months without talking then there is something he isn’t telling you , he might of met someone else ,
Or he just likes you as a friend and doesn’t want to give you the wrong impression that it’s nothing more than just friendship

Alex-Snow · Answer

Some guys are just slow to open up and talk. It probably is better than one who won't shut up or brags about himself. Do you follow him on socials? That might be a good start. How old is he? It could be that he is just new to relationships, dating or sex. Would you consider asking him out? It might be a good start. Message me if you want to chat about it... it sounds like we are close in age.

dudeinohio · Answer

Ok. He doesn't know where you want to go with this. Typically, shy guys, especially the introverted ones, need more direct actions to understand how far you want to take things. If you are interested in a relationship, then that needs explained to him.

At this point, he doesn't know what yiu want. He sort of ran out of energy. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you, he wonders if YOU like him.

spartan55 · Answer

That he's like most guys and doesn't like texting much. If you see him why dont you talk to him?

live2dance25 · Answer

Maybe he just wants to be friends; why don’t you ask him how he feels?

Anonymous · Answer

He might be overthinking everything himself. If you are interested in him, continue to talk to him and make an effort. I fit in a similar archetype, and I'm terrible at forming new relations.

Shiprex · Answer

He's maybe not interested in being friends or more with you.

Anonymous · Answer

He’s very shy doesn’t know what to say and doesn’t know enough about social media to know he’s supposed to like your stories

Staximus · Answer

Why don't you try spending some time in person like normal people

Pohjolan · Answer

You don't need to interpret this in any way, you are acquitances. Its not like you expressed romantic interest or something.

Yuyen · Answer

Just go and talk with him about this  Ask directly, he's in anything serious or not! That's it! Not make it very much complicated for you, it's better for your mental health

Anonymous · Answer

Succubus likes quiet guys, they don't cry their souls are being extracted.

moviedude714 · Answer

Well some things will likely always be the same

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

He probably thinks you are just being nice. You are going to have to move harder.

ABC1x1x · Answer

They aren't. They seem that way to you because women only listen to words.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Because they keep their mouths shut which means you don’t know their opinions on things

blackeagle007 · Answer

You’re attracted to mystery. Drop some hints.

Anonymous · Answer

Fellow introverted guy here. Could be a few things. He's either not interested, not trying to assume you're trying to go out with him and just being friendly, or might be catching on and not trying to mess it up.

Levin · Answer

cause it's fun to fuck with your head.

slatyb · Answer

Simple. He's not that into you. Find someone else.

glennos89 · Answer

I think he isn't interested in you

Anonymous · Answer

lol why do u like him

jutletmego · Answer

All guys are confusing not especially quiet guys

Anonymous · Answer

Im not.

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