Why can't I get hired?

Question

I fear that past employers seen me have meltdowns at my old job or heard me cursing. I get called in for interviews but I don't get hired even if the employer seems really pleased and happy. I fear my employer now is sabotaging me because first of all they barley make money and I think if I leave (which I wasn't I was going to get a second job) then her business will suffer. I don't know if maybe previous employers are calling my recent job and she is sabotaging or if the word got around about me. Sadly you can only run from job to job before the whole state knows you. It wasn't my fault I either was bullied at half the jobs or something happened where I couldn't stay. I fear also that at the time before I got hired here I probably messed with a group of witches or warlocks and that could of cursed me to be stuck at one job or unable to get hired. Also ever since I stopped wearing makeup and I know I look kinda young for an adult woman. I don't know if acne scars are seen as dirty but they aren't that noticeable. Maybe having them makes me look like a teenager or maybe they think I am not putting an effort because I dare let my natural face or any scar show.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The reason is always us. Any other thinking is, dangerous, unproductive and means we don't learn or grow.

It's easy to see the faults in the situations we are in and our employers; Way harder to correct our own shortcomings.

It's clear in your message that you realise you've made mistakes. Reputation is hugely important in employability but that reputation is for delivering on the job, and being someone who encoruages other employees and fits in with the team.

Rejection in employment is hugely typical, and can happen for so many reasons. Its very important to any employer the employee is resilient and able to focus on their work. The only way this is possible is if we have sorted ourselves out. Life can throw many issues making work difficult, relationships, family and many other factors can negatively impact our performance as an employee (not to mention financial and so many other factors). Employers need employees that are, as far as getting the job done, problem free. Employers don't, generally, listen to gossip of other employers. It's true to say that they listen to friends advice and if you worked for a friend of there's who has a reason to be unhappy with you, then yes, you will find getting a job dificult

However, the ace in any employees hand is that any employer will be very willing to take on anyone for employment if the balance of reward to pain in stacked towards the reward side. So, what you should do is realise what value you hold to an employer, what job you will be willing to pour your heart into and how much pay you need to keep you content to do that work. All tricky quesitons whe your young, and the best approach is to try positions. Do ANY work, and do it well, but be ready to move on and make sure your clear and honest communicating to your employer. If you do that, continuously, the your reputation and "a girl which gets things done" will carry you far (double if your reputed as a girl, who isn't difficult to work with, so consider how you can avoid becoming embroiled in situations you know you will kick off withinn).

Best of luck