Can you think of a situation in which you would find it difficult to be honest?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

99.9% of the time it doesn't matter I'm going to be honest because I dont need to lie about anything. If and when I do something I do it for a reason  Not to long ago I was doing a job for a lady she asked me how I was going to do it.. I told her. She said no. I want you to do it this way I told her that not the right way but it can be done that way but it's going to cost her 5 times the money she said no her way was the correct way and that's how she wanted me to do it.. for 1/2 hr back and forth. Finely i said OK fine walked out of her office the guy that work for her was with me he ask me what I was going to do. I told him I was doing it my way. The reason why she hired me because I told her I new what I was doing and that I would save her money. Plus I new the owner of the company and I could see where all his money was going 5 hr later walked back in the the office we are finished. She said great she said how did you do it. I said I did it my way and she just looked at me I said I could have lied to you and said I did it your way but I said I'm not a liar. And I saved Paul the owner of the company over 7 thousand dollars she said thank you she said anyone else would have lied I said maybe she said after you left, I did some more research, and you were right. We should have done it your way. I'm glad that we did it your way. But anyway, to answer your question is, if I had to protect somebody
I'm not saying that I would lie to protect them, it depends on so many different things. But I'm not gonna say that. I wouldn't lie to protect them. It just all depends on everything.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

definitely a bit more challenging to be completely honest in some situations, as in... explaining a situation to someone who is still or might be still to young to full understand certain things and when they're already affected by it, so...

they just need to know about it to a certain degree

to find that balance between how much and which things they should know, can be very difficult sometimes

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

I find it more likely that people find me to be difficulty honest. I am contracted mainly by defense attorneys to evaluate their clients. This is really only done so they are prepared for the prosecution's psychologist and what his or her view is and what they might say on the witness stand. Sounds really exciting doesn't it? It isn't. The real truth is i spend much more tike in the county prison than a lot of the inmates do and peer into the minds of some very twisted people. I do believe that a lot of people dont want to believe the professional truths I have to share. Lawyers tend to not want to hear the bad news even when they have realized it themselves long before me. Slimy bunch but they pay well. As for me I dont have much of an issue just being honest with other people or myself for that matter.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

When I know, or worry it's going to hurt someone I care about. Standing up to myself. Those are the worst times. I'm anxious and scared that I'll push people away... or just, simply hurt them

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I really try to avoid making affirmative statements about things that I don't actually know to be the case. If I have to speak on something I don't actually know, I try my best to caveat the hell out of what I'm saying and ensure that the gaps in my own knowledge of the situation are being communicated.

Sometimes I find myself in situations where communicating the truth doesn't really serve any benefit, and the knowledge would only alienate and antagonize.

Like last summer, my brother got married and didn't invite any of our side of the family to ceremony. We got invited to an afterparty, but not the ceremony. He and I didn't have a particularly close relationship before that, but it certainly wasn't bad. Not getting that invitation was one of the most hurtful things I've experienced in a very long time. My mom just told me to me to try to find a way to look passed it. So that's what I've tried to do... I've never told him how much that hurt. I don't plan on ever telling him.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I from personal experience it’s when the cost of the honesty outweighs the relief.

Situations like admitting your no longer feeling the same for a partner , or telling your friend that their partner is cheating on them when both of them are your friends

Also when it’s deeply personal like owning selfishness or admitting to a fear or insecurity.

Maybe even if your honesty has been used against you , I know I personally have some wounds there

Honesty is truth with judgement though right ? Sometimes it’s honesty with restraint

sawno · Answer

When someone is compromising my safety. I have absolutely no problem misdirecting or outright lying in those circumstances. Tends to be at work and if I have to due to danger I am amazing at it.

In normal circumstances though I just straight up don't lie. For me its a last resort defense.

One of the more difficult ones was during the lockdowns when in front of all my colleagues I got asked a personal thing that could risk my job. I was still honest about it, and explained my reasoning. It got some pushback but ultimately earned a lot of respect. Colleagues afraid to speak up then DM'd me that they agreed with everything I said.

AviatorTom · Answer

Off the top of my head, even after thinking about it, my answer is No.

I always follow my father's advice...

Always tell the truth, but the truth is not always told.

Meaning, never lie, but you don't have to tell more than what's necessary.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I’m usually too honest for my own good

But there are times when honesty is a “lose lose”
So I chose a lie by omission.

For instance if I have feelings for a woman who’s taken and we’re friends, I wouldn’t be honest about my feelings because no good can come of it.

Does that make me a liar? I don’t know.
But life is too complicated for black and white decisions.
All we can do is avoid harming other people with a lie

Tarifa · Answer

Expressing feelings for someone when you know there's nothing to expect. Yet, I've done that more times than I care to remember. It's like banging your head against a wall, in a conscious way, knowing you're going to get hurt. These are moments when logic tells you not to, but you follow your instinct anyway.

live2dance25 · Answer

Sometimes sugarcoating is a necessary evil when it comes to making someone feel welcome or wanted. I’ve unfortunately had to do it with managers that were 100% sure their sales or marketing strategy would work, even though I strongly disagreed as a soluutions architect or designer.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes, many times on EMS calls when we have to treat multiple patients and they are asking about their loved one who you know did not make it, but you tell them I don't know, they are with another crew and I know they are receiving the best care possible. Let focus our attention on you.
All while you know what really happened.
It sucks, but that is what you have to do.

Stevepro68 · Answer

Where honesty is strictly for a personal clearing house. Just to say your are being honest. Lying is most negative when it is done totally for personal gain or to inflict pain on others. Honesty is bad when it is done strictly for your own personal gain or to hurt others.

Unycorn · Answer

I am invited to a meal and I don't like what is cooked or it is not good and I am asked how I find it. I do'nt want to say anything negative because I respect what people do.

loveslongnails · Answer

By honest, if you mean "the whole truth" then yes. Depending on who I am talking to and the specific situation. I have to gauge how "much truth" a person is capable of handling, for their own good.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

Talking to my parents lol. I've basically become everything thing they hate, so I need to lie to them about everything

TwoDecisions · Answer

Yes, I always find it difficult to be honest when I know my honesty is going to hurt someone.

Bricealan · Answer

@nikki1989 When she asks: "Do I look fat in this"?

RandomGirl42 · Answer

You mean, like, actually confessing I took the cookies?

Agape93 · Answer

Not really, I'm blunt. If I don't want you to know something, you'll never know.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Each time when I speak with my boss. I don't want to lose my job 😁

FreyaRed · Answer

I don't want to lie to people I respect. Otherwise such situations where I find difficult to be honest don't exist

MannMitAntworten · Answer

During an interrogation while held at a prisoner of war camp if captured.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

If I feel someone has let me down I find it difficult to tell them.

purplepoppy · Answer

Yes, when I'm trying to get away with something I haven't done

Daytoday79 · Answer

I can think of difficult situations but I would never put myself into them

MoonElena · Answer

In situations when I don’t want hurt the person feelings

LiamJHayden · Answer

If the Klan showed up at my door and asked me if any Blacks were there.

David__951 · Answer

I can think of a lot of situations what about you?

ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ · Answer

The fact that I'm a loser

CubaPirate · Answer

When your speak to your boss lol

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Anytime a cops asking me something…

itsannalee · Answer

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