Bullies & Victims: The School Stories That Shape Who We Are?

[Anonymous]

# Think back to your school days, were you ever bullied, or were you the bully?


A ) If you were bullied:

1. What did it feel like in the moment?
2. How did you face the fear and heal from the trauma?
3. How did it change how you trust, love, or see people today?

B ) If you were the bully:

1. Was there a moment that made you realize your actions were wrong?
2. How did you stop yourself from hurting others again?
3. What lesson did you carry forward about respect and empathy?


#Share your story, the raw, the painful, and even the surprising. Your experience could help someone see both sides and heal. No judgment, just honesty.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I was bullied from grades 3-6 because I had undiagnosed autism and was the “weird” kid. I was fully aware of how little people liked me and the few friends I had I clung to, probably in a bit of an unhealthy way. I also refused to speak up, I clung to the walls, always wishing I could disappear from view so I could be left alone. Had I stayed at that school, it would have only gotten worse. Thankfully, my parents moved me to a new school for grades 7-12 and I was able to adjust and find my confidence again. We also were able to get a proper diagnosis and having that explanation ready made my unusual qualities much easier for strangers to accept. My mother noticed it when I was speaking in a group of my peers, saying something or other she couldn’t really understand and how they were all slowly taking a step away from me, until I mentioned I was autistic and they all took a step back towards me. It helped a lot.

[Nikki1989]

Other girls bullied me. The guys always liked me.

[Daytoday79]

A ) I was bullied

1. What did it feel like in the moment?

Emotional/physical pain.

2. How did you face the fear and heal from the trauma?

I didn't.

3. How did it change how you trust, love, or see people today?

It made it much more difficult for me.

[Daytoday79]

I have a lot of stories, so here's just one: I missed hitting the ball in a volleyball game and my team lost. They threw me out of the boys locker room, half dressed, along with all my stuff (no girls allowed in the boys locker room... their words).

[Daytoday79]

Thanks for the mho!

[Cyfris]

I was the anti bully. The guy who punished bullies. Scared a kid so bad he went to a different school where he was known as the kid with the foot print on his face for kicking a girl that rejected him.

[LC75LC71]

I got bullied for about 8 years straight. Then I got mad. School (and later life) was a lot easier when others learn not to fuck with you. Respect doesn't always have to be earned.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't a bully, I prefer to think of myself as kind of like Egg Stork from One Crazy Summer.😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/wulJQrkhgD8