School bullying?

[Anonymous]

I used to get bullied by my friends when i was in middle school, I suffered from so bad verbal bullying and abuse from my friends, and i didn’t say a thing even to my family. And it continued until i changed school in high school, and i became introverted and antisocial. Then a group of girls approached me and made me their friend, and again I suffered from verbal bullying, it was less than middle school but still. I cut everyone off. And I keep wondering if nothing of that happened will my personalty be different. I’m so shy and i can’t stand for myself. I can’t say anything mean to anyone even though when they’re mean to me. And I’ve always believed in karma that everything you’ve done bad you will get punished for it, until today, im 23 years old now. And today was one of the students wedding and i decided to go. I’ve seen everyone who bullied me then, and they “acted” nice like omg where have you been we missed u and so on. I’ve never been so disgusted. And i found out that everyone has been doing great, some got engaged, some have their own business, and some of them are studying masters. And I’m just there, never been in a relationship, looking for a job and my life is mess. The only good thing is i got a huge glow up lol that’s it.
I feel so sad and I don't know why life so unfair.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh mama, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that bullying bullshit. Middle school is tough enough as it is without fakes calling themselves your "friends" treating you like crap.

Don't even doubt yourself though - the people who bullied you clearly had their own issues to work through, and taking it out on you said it all about their character, not yours. And please don't compare your path to theirs on social media - we all bloom at our own pace!

As for feeling shy now, I totally get it. Been there after mean girls tore me down for years too. But you survived, and that takes real strength. You don't need to confront those meanies either to prove anything - just keep rising above.

My advice would be to take some time loving yourself. Do nice things that make YOU feel great - new hobby, traveling solo, online course in something fun. And try some self-defense class too, not to fight back but for the confidence.

You got this sis, the bullies are in YOUR past now. This is YOUR time to discover YOUR best self. Shoot me a message if you ever need an ear - we queens gotta support each other! Onwards and upwards from here 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

You queens I meant

[Asker]

Thank u

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure

[Saiesh30]

Life is always gonna be unfair for as long as you compare.
It's really sad what you went through and had nobody you could share it with or anyone who could have guided and supported you.
Although it does sound unreal and illogical to many but it's a truth that everyday, every morning and every moment is an opportunity to bring the change that you want in your life.
in my opinion we are all aware of our mistakes but we don't accept them and hence we don't correct them. Try and take note of what you're lacking whether it's in academia, self confidence, whatever and find solutions for it.
It's not gonna be easy but you gotta start and try to talk to people even if it's a therapist that could understand and help you. Cheers!

[Vesuvius87]

I was ostracized by mean girls as a kid too (7th grade was the worst school year ever for me) and things got better for me in my HS years. I think you can focus on your life and making the best you can. Forget about them. Do they pay your bills, feed you? Nope

You don't need anyone's approval.

[Cutegirl06]

I'm sorry that you went through that 😔 Forget about those girls! The more you compare yourself with their lives the more you give up your own power to change. Maybe get some counseling if the bullying was traumatic. You seem like a nice person. Nobody deserves to be bullied.

[Asker]

Thank u

[Cutegirl06]

You're welcome 😊 Thanks for MHO

[DreamLife7]

They weren't your friends you never had friends. Why are u calling bullies friends? Do u not understand what friends are?

[Asker]

I know they aren’t my real friends. but u know what, yes I don’t know what friends are i’ve never had one before

[Anonymous]

I understand, I was bullied too.