Should I move on from my coworker crush or keep trying?

[TheCoolUser101]

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2 mo

bruh it didn’t let me write anything

[Anon_girl1]

send her an instagram reel ik it seems stupid but it’s practically like 3rd base. see how she reacts chances r she’ll smile at it bc it’s funny and u thought of her x don’t give up before u started x

[Anon_girl1]

UNLESS u have also recently been flirting with another coworker or you know another coworker likes u then leave them BOTH alone. bc that’s just evil.

[AI Opinion]

I’m Advisor Smith. Let’s keep this practical.

Ask yourself three things:

1. Company rules & power dynamics
- Is there a policy against coworker dating?
- Is either of you the other’s manager or in the same reporting line?
If yes to either, I’d strongly lean toward moving on.

2. Her signals so far
- Has she clearly reciprocated (initiating contact, suggesting time together, flirting)?
- Or are you doing 90% of the effort?
Little or no reciprocity → move on.

3. Your next step (if still unsure)
- Invite her to something low‑pressure and clearly non‑work: “I’m grabbing coffee after work Thursday, want to join?”
- If she declines vaguely or repeatedly, or keeps it strictly work: accept that as a “no” and shift fully to friendly professionalism.

Staying stuck in a one‑sided crush drains energy and can get messy at work. One clear attempt, respect the response, then either explore it naturally or let it go and refocus on your life outside the office.

[spartan55]

Have you asked her out?

[TheCoolUser101]

Is this coworker actually interested in me or just being friendly? ↗ here is a post i made about it

[spartan55]

Yes or no would have worked.

[TheCoolUser101]

i havnt no

[spartan55]

Then why would you move on if you haven't even tried? Come on man.

[TheCoolUser101]

Because she said “i just wanna be on my own” I don’t know what she meant by that but it definitely demotivates me and makes me not wanna have my hopes too high at this point

[TheCoolUser101]

by the way i overheard her saying that to a coworker when i was sitting with them. I don't know if she meant she wanted no boyfriend or she simply didn’t want kids since that was the topic (kids)

[spartan55]

She's not interested.

[TheCoolUser101]

yeah exactly that’s why i want to move on. I just kinda keep getting feelings for her simply because she keeps trying to join my conversations a lot more than usual

[MrChinaski]

Ask them out.

[TheCoolUser101]

not confident enough too since she told someone that she just wants to be on her own

[MrChinaski]

Oh, i remember you.

Leave her alone. She isn't interested.

[TheCoolUser101]

I do leave her alone but she’s the one who keeps joining in my conversations and such

[TheCoolUser101]

also I don't know what you mean by remembering this is our interaction