How can I stop feeling ‘common’ and act normal around the rich and powerful?

[Babyseal23]

My husband is a gardener which to most sounds like a pretty normal job to have but my husband is actually a head gardener at only 32 which is actually quite a big achievement at his age most head gardeners are a lot older and nearer to retirement age.

he's very humble but he's worked for many rich, powerful and famous people. Footballers, musicians, lords and lady's etc.

Im very proud of him and will always support him and his dreams the only thing is I have a very normal job and dont deal with the same kinds of people as him.

His biggest dream is to be a live in head gardener on a estate somewhere in the England, Scotland and Wales.

We've been interviews together as live in jobs tend to want to know whose gonna live on their estate which is understandable. I've literally walked around bare foot in some lords houses playing with there dogs and eating dinner they've cooked for us and then I go back to my real life.

I worry I hold my husband back as im common and feel intimidated round them sorts of people so find it hard to be myself and act natural.

I ask my husband how he does it and he says he's just used to it. He's been working with these sorts of people since he was 16 .

Most these people are REAL old money and are actually really laid back and normal but i still struggle its the new money who are actually not very nice if im honest but we have to sign NDAs so can't say names

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I can't even ask my friends or family about it as its not relatable and sometimes people think im talking shit and dont believe me. I can't take pictures for proof as there's cameras everywhere in these kinds of places and its just morally wrong too

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One time i asked what i do as job and id said distribution instead of saying warehouse assistant because I felt ashamed. My husband said that made me sound like a drug dealer 🤣The thing is most these people have children my age and there like brain surgeons with 6 businesses and noble peace prize and here's little old me with my city in guild in warehouse operations

[RavVid]

For a start everybody pisses and poops and wipes shit off their arse holes so it might help to remember that.

They might be rich but are still people and there is no need to relate to them other than on that basis. You say they are mostly nice so just interact with them as you would with any other nice person you meet in the first place.

However they will at least be your husband's boss so you need to interact with them as you would with any spouse's boss.

What you don't say is if you would have any role if your husband lands one of these jobs in which case his boss would also be your boss.

So I think interact with them as you would interact as you would with a nice boss.

Mostly you seem to have stage fright.

[RavVid]

Hoped I helped and thanks for a mho.

[DryGermanGuy]

Ask the King for a knighthood. 🙂

[Babyseal23]

Dont think it works like that