Are you comfortable doing things alone/enjoying your own company?

Question

Like going to the cinema watching a movie? Eating alone in a restaurant? I enjoy my solitude. I’m my best companion.

Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I'm pretty comfortable doing solo things.

I had a friend who asked me to watch a movie with her that I've already watched weeks prior.
Let me tell you, I did had a crush on her, I told her over text and there was that.
When we went inside the theater, this girl was looking for someone instead of watching the movie. I was watching the movie because it was good. Weren't at the movie part just yet, but when the movie started, she saw someone that she knew and shrunk back in her seat, using me as a shield. She told me that guy right there, who just walked in, was one of her friends and that she was shy to approach him.

Long story short, she used me as company at the movies, during a movie I've already seen weeks prior, just so she can wait for some guy. She completely ditched me. When I confronted her, she blamed my feelings for her. Just because I have feelings for you, doesn't give you the right to assume and jump to conclusions.
This is why I'm always by myself. I've never found the right person to do things with and I'm afraid that I may never find that person. What that girl did to me was wrong in so many ways. She asked one of her friends to join her to the movies to a movie her friend already saw, but she used that as an excuse just so she could use them for company and ditch them later after finding another "friend."
She really called him a "friend." Lol They were legit cuddling a few rows down.
If my mama let's me go to the movies alone at the age of 15, then her mother should too.

Wasted my aunt's money...

All the reason why I'm so independent on doing things. Relying on others just slows you down.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

I always do things alone all the time. I followed what I really wanted to be and do and it led me to being alone and it’s great. Being alone you learn so much I can tell how a person is like in 3 seconds. I know what I want and I get it. I’m more confident. I’m not scared of life I pretty much know the reason why I am in this earth.. all this because I stay alone most of the time.
Oh yes darling I have friends but a small feminist , charm, elegant ladies.. I have. I can call them at 3am ask for any help they will be there for me…

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Accepted Answer

More and more so.
I keep bumping into attractive girls all the time now - but most strike me as far too risky - either because they look like they are actively pursuing sex (for sex sake, as a sport - and it isn't one) - or because they seem far too demanding for what they offer (in terms of getting attached/getting involved long term - which, for me, at this stage, means wanting children and a life together - preferably for the next 40 or 50 years (my ideas about that being very, let's say emotionally mature - not overromanticised, not oversexualised, but in the 'enjoying life together and dealing with its challenges, if any' (and there likely are some ahead, the least being raising some children to graduating university and marrying themselves/having grandchildren at that point).
To put it another way - when you see a young chicky who spends time in the gym daily just so she can get fucked, wears tights and has that 'oh won't you love me/feed me/fuck me - but I might still take time to decide how many guys I'd like' - you start to think 'yeah, would love to - except I know any level of not granting her (likely crazy) wishes will get my car scratched or tyres punctured or result in phone calls to my customers making up lies about me'.
There is a surprisingly high number of chicks like that everywhere decent - I figured I'd bet on meeting someone who isn't a sex bunny but a smart girl as well/a girl that can connect thoughts beyond her belly and pussy getting regular exercise.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Especially your two examples , yes absolutely , honestly movies I prefer on my own , I dont want opinions as to which movie to see , and analysis of the topics that were addressed by the writer , Restaurant's same , but I like both , solo and with group , completely different mindset.
So , now with Covid , I was forced into this a bit more ( I like to choose , I dislike rules that force ) , plus movies closed here.
But , yes , always have been happy with my own company , also my original reasons for starting golf and surfing , didn't need others , and started and finished when I felt like it , selfish maybe?

Crazybeeguy · Answer

Yes, I bring a mirror so I don't feel that way.
Also, you think of it as lonely, but think about someone not stressing you out it helps. Relationships and love is really f'd up these days, I've seen the fallout. I enjoy being by myself, I have female friends who complain about guys and how shitty they are. Energetically it's draining, to be considered less than these crappy guys. So, yeah to be alone is a relief. What's worse is after being hurt so many times, they want a guy like me, but not me. >_< good luck

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Yes, I go on solo adventures quite often. I usually invite people and rarely hear back so more often than not I just decide to not waste my life waiting on other people to decide to go out or not... I go camping, boating, hiking and all manner of high risk outdoor activities by myself, sure it is dangerous and ill-advised but it ain't like people don't die in their bathroom / kitchen every day and damned if I'll go out pants down sitting on the crapper wasting away staring at a smart phone like a boring worker drone.

Pummel · Answer

I am, there are times when I really miss holding a woman while sleeping or holding her hand while walking on the beach at sun up... I never knew that much about the bedroom because the last time I was with a woman in a sexual manner I was 22 years old (I was abused from the 4th grade till the 8th grade, the nuns also told me that no one would ever want me as their love interest... well the SATANIC nuns were correct, every one left, so I just gave up) , but the up side is while most of my "friends" are overweight, loosing their hair, turning grey and just overall not happy,..
Me I am 6ft 3in with all my hair and weight 195lbs.

Yo Chazz!! What's your secret Cuz?

I tell them that I never got married or had children, and neither do I date... plus I have never owed a single penny to any financial institution

GoldenAxer · Answer

I like it but I'm an extrovert so too much solitude starts making me feel sluggish and I start looking crazy talking to myself and laughing at my memories. I quickly work towards mental instability and little motivation unless I kind of recharge my batteries periodically, say at least once a week, in social events.

Jake99999 · Answer

I think it’s healthy for everyone to be comfortable alone. At least part of the time. And everyone needs some space for alone time. If you can’t stand being alone at all then there is something wrong that you need to figure out. I have always been comfortable on my own, but it’s not something I want all the time. People need or have their own interests and activities and their own space. Even married people or those in committed relationships. I think it makes you a more balanced person.

justhere83 · Answer

I’ve always been that way (attend theaters by myself, eat a nice dinner, go to sporting events and enjoy my own company and don’t need other people to make me feel happy). Call me a loner if you want but I’m comfortable in my own skin and feel much better being on my own…not that I’m not antisocial or anything. If I’m in a social setting, I am very engaged with people and not shy at all—very easy to talk to. I can start a conversation based on the current environment with anyone anywhere. I’ve been married for 8 years to my lovely wife, and have 3 kids with her…but my line of work has me traveling all across the country 10 months out of the year…and doing just fine. I pretty much thrive in my solitude nature.

MindYourEyes · Answer

Yeah I think it’s great. Although a restaurant I prefer to have someone cause it’s nice to enjoy food with someone. But 95% the time I hang with myself. And I love it xD wether it’s just watching trashy videos, going to the gym or just having a cup of coffee. It’s sweet.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

I’ve never ate alone but I LOVE shopping on my own. No pressure to buy anything and actually get things that I will generally love. I love shopping on my own more than I like shopping with other people lol.

Azura_88 · Answer

How can I enjoy it?
I only enjoy when I'm painting, reading, chilling, watching movie or working alone.
The idea of eating alone at restaurant makes me feel so embarrassed. Like who the hell would I be looking at? If I look at people, they'll stare at me and people are literally all around.

Jlegacy · Answer

Last time I was at the Cinema, I went alone. It was fun but only because I felt like she was there with me and I have found the love of my life. I don't know about other people but I love to always be around the loml. Solitude is to find God and I have. The only time I don't want her around me is when she is working or when I am working.

Nightroads · Answer

I was isolated for 36 days. I was 16. Watching a fish camp, while a historic closer kept us from fishing.

In that time i saw one boat and one plane in the distance. No human contact. True solitude, there were days i just sat in one spot for close to ten hours. The definition of having only your own company. Its intense.

I would say doing things around town by myself I'm comfortable, it would have to be something very important to make me want to be isolated like that again.

Stephie2369 · Answer

Yes I am, I do like to hang out with friends and family but I am totally ok with “me time”. Are you?

ChrisWells295 · Answer

Yes, it's because I've been raising my child for the last 14 years.
If I get any alone time, I'm perfectly fine to go hiking alone or go shopping or watch my favorite shows.
I actually get annoyed sometimes when my friends show up, especially if they bring their kids.
As a parent I don't get lonely, I need some time to myself sometimes.

Dvchill · Answer

I’m very comfortable with being alone… I would say this is a learned skill and it was one I learned when I was like 21-22? I worked different shifts then everyone I new and moved to a new state sooo if I wanted to do something I had to adventure alone

Made4sex · Answer

It’s funny I enjoy my alone time and definitely need it to be sane. But I regally do t enjoy doing things by myself. Like shopping or going to the library I prefer to be alone for obvious reasons. But going to a movie is way more fun with people. And going to dinner is more fun with people. I dont know.. it’s weird.

Ke_vin · Answer

I eat alone and lots of stuff alone and I enjoy that because my family and friends and strangers don’t quite understand me I feel happier alone and sometimes away from them as u said I’m my own companion people always want me to be someone I’m not and always looks down on my for my job (mechanic) bk to the question I’ll eat alone but I’ll never go to a restaurant or cinemas alone I’ll feel weird I don't know why

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes but I am no daredevil, so I don't need company for safety in numbers. I have no problem going solo to anything, it's often easier then rally a company that wants to do the same thing as me and at the same time.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

There is somethings i love doing all alone, like working out, working at my garden, watching some series/movies or shows and cooking too. But going to the movies alone! Actually i have never done it before so i don't know

InventorofWarp · Answer

I wouldn't say I enjoy it.
But I also don't not enjoy it either.
I've just kinda gotten used to it after almost 25 years so now it just kinda feels so normal that I couldn't ever really imagine what life would be like otherwise. So... kinda.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

I am always in some country working by myself. Dinners are always alone. Trips as well. Days at the beaches... alone. It used to make me frustrated by now I love it. I feel lucky when I see my friends come back from vacation all exhausted.

TangBang69 · Answer

Most assuredly , alone time , silent solitude, reflection & meditation promote good health of the mind. I like to think anyway & a large amount of the time I run free in the vast wide open frontier of my mind that is as well as deep as the sea...

stupidgirlllll123 · Answer

Yes! I love spending time with myself! I get to know myself better and enjoy my time to myself. Like, drawing, or taking a walk, it's quite nice, actually.

Bo0pak · Answer

I think there is nothing wrong with being alone in public places. It even a good thing if you do so. But I myself still trying to enjoy doing these things (go to cinema, eat in restaurant, etc) alone. Because everytime I did it, I still feel nerveous like some one is watching me.

igaveyouanickname · Answer

Somewhat and sometimes. I vanlifed for some years and didn't have a social life. It's just not as fun as when you're with someone awesome or a few awesome people.

Starlight420 · Answer

Yes! I’m an introvert and I need time by myself to relax and prepare to be around other people. It’s really relaxing to do things by myself, like reading. I love books. Me time is soooo important.

evilpenguin13 · Answer

Personally some activities are fine, for instance dining is something im pretty confident about doing alone, I'm there for a necessity and my server is doing there job. Other things not so much, I'd feel pretty weird in a theatre alone, or even some kind of live show.

pinaypixie · Answer

Yes! I love many independent activities like crocheting, rollerskating, driving, swimming, and most of all, making music

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah I love solo runs, walk, mountain biking or just listening to music. although over 12 months alone was a bit meh lol.

dustybiker · Answer

Yes, I’m comfortable in my own company. It’s nice to get out with yourself once in a while. You don’t always feel like entertaining those around you.

TiffyBobbs · Answer

I prefer going to the movies alone actually. Friends talk to much, and boyfriend tries to make it sexual, so I just go alone

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Some things I'll go to a coffee shop on my own, to the gym, shopping and for walks with my dogs on my own.

CordetteMonet · Answer

Yeah, I'm comfortable doing things alone. I actually prefer it since I am socially awkward. I don't get anxiety when I'm doing things alone.

VIVANT · Answer

Perfectly fine. I don’t even think about it. I funny start sir ding tone with other people until a few years ago.

Dennisjf12 · Answer

No, I have been married 35 years and have not been allowed sex or to kiss my wife. I did nothing wrong if she even thinks of going to see someone. She takes car keys and won't give me a divorce. And verbally puts me down all the time. and tells me no one will ever take you

Likes2drive · Answer

I got used to going to movies alone and go to restaurants alone but I feel awkward at times eating alone in a restaurant but I never have anyone to go with and I’m not single by choice I just have no luck with that

Kdizzle85 · Answer

Yes, I’m comfortable alone. I mostly game solo around my work schedule and have off two days a week to spend time with my parents.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Hi @Pinay_ako, I'm comfortable doing things on my own as well as I enjoy the peace and quiet at times away from close friends and family. It's a great way to relax 😊👌

llcanon · Answer

yes somethings but always remember loneliness is a lousy companion

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I Haven't done those solo before but I don't think I would mind, to be honest with you. I like being alone!

Cherry234 · Answer

I certainly do but sometimes it's nice to have a friend to do those things with

Queenzee22 · Answer

I love doing things alone  But once I have a boyfriend who really loves will love to do things together with him

NathanDavis · Answer

yes, very much... there's times for all, for solitude and sharing as well

Starwitch23 · Answer

I love that. Eating all by myself in a restaurant, watched movie alone and eating all alone on my birthday in a fancy restaurant.

Andres77 · Answer

My wife is traveling now and my kid was at a friend's house so I did just that. Made dinner, watched a movie and enjoyed alone time.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yeppers, but I guess it can be easier for guys to do stuff alone.

Jansetta · Answer

I am comfortable doing things alone but i always prefer people around.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I used to do it a lot. The problem was, I got a little too comfortable being alone.

qwert1234 · Answer

Yes. I once bought a cinema ticket for one and the cashier had to double take "for one?" lol.

jimmy2 · Answer

My wife passed away and it force me to est alone. I do jot like it m

Recurrence · Answer

I don’t like going out in public alone, but I enjoy alone time to myself

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Very much so… I actually go out into nature with my dog a lot

Kyle-Jackson · Answer

no i would perfer to go with my brother or some of the homies.

misterCage4 · Answer

Yes definitely. I am not socially awkward or anything but I just seem to like my own company more.

Neosporin · Answer

I’ve been single my whole life sometimes I miss companionship

TITAN-IDC · Answer

Actually that means your. healthy mentality and. mature.. Illness comes. from just the opisite. Co. dependent cluster. b etc...

nawtee_me · Answer

I am good with the me time. I can sit in a restaurant at a table by my self and be okay eating there.

Somewhatfriendly · Answer

I have a funny sense of life. Single don't like it feel very ungroomed so I guess yes like doing things alone. Do you enjoy being alone

hydralicride · Answer

Sometimes I like solitude. I like felling that I am OK with just me. I can be happy not being an extension of someone else. But I do enjoy the company of others, but ther is a saturation point.

faeriicloudss · Answer

I am very introverted so I would just stay at home to enjoy my own company, in public I feel awkward by myself so I usually need at least one person to hang out with to feel comfortable

BCA6010 · Answer

Movies, sure. Sit-down restaurants I don't particularly enjoy without being in company anyway, so not so much.

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