Are you comfortable doing things alone/enjoying your own company?

[Pinay_ako]

Like going to the cinema watching a movie? Eating alone in a restaurant? I enjoy my solitude. I’m my best companion.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

Yeah. I'm pretty comfortable doing solo things.

I had a friend who asked me to watch a movie with her that I've already watched weeks prior.
Let me tell you, I did had a crush on her, I told her over text and there was that.
When we went inside the theater, this girl was looking for someone instead of watching the movie. I was watching the movie because it was good. Weren't at the movie part just yet, but when the movie started, she saw someone that she knew and shrunk back in her seat, using me as a shield. She told me that guy right there, who just walked in, was one of her friends and that she was shy to approach him.

Long story short, she used me as company at the movies, during a movie I've already seen weeks prior, just so she can wait for some guy. She completely ditched me. When I confronted her, she blamed my feelings for her. Just because I have feelings for you, doesn't give you the right to assume and jump to conclusions.
This is why I'm always by myself. I've never found the right person to do things with and I'm afraid that I may never find that person. What that girl did to me was wrong in so many ways. She asked one of her friends to join her to the movies to a movie her friend already saw, but she used that as an excuse just so she could use them for company and ditch them later after finding another "friend."
She really called him a "friend." Lol They were legit cuddling a few rows down.
If my mama let's me go to the movies alone at the age of 15, then her mother should too.

Wasted my aunt's money...

All the reason why I'm so independent on doing things. Relying on others just slows you down.

[iclonger69]

First of all what she did was reprehensible and I understand why you would do things on your own. Second thing I must point out is you really don't want to do things on your own. You agreed to go to a movie with this person even tho you had seen it a couple weeks ago. Also you said it yourself that you told you liked her which sounds like you really don't want to be alone. So you went with hopes of a different outcome. This shit sucks, but we make wrong choices sometimes. I hate to say this but it will happen again. When, it can depend on you. Making a better informed choice. Ask questions, put out some feelers and see what comes back. Nobody wants to be alone all of the time. We need each other. We're social beings. I may be wrong about you but this is how I would go about it the next time. Just my opinion. You do what's good for you. What works and stick with it.

[cryscrys1]

I always do things alone all the time. I followed what I really wanted to be and do and it led me to being alone and it’s great. Being alone you learn so much I can tell how a person is like in 3 seconds. I know what I want and I get it. I’m more confident. I’m not scared of life I pretty much know the reason why I am in this earth.. all this because I stay alone most of the time.
Oh yes darling I have friends but a small feminist , charm, elegant ladies.. I have. I can call them at 3am ask for any help they will be there for me…

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

More and more so.
I keep bumping into attractive girls all the time now - but most strike me as far too risky - either because they look like they are actively pursuing sex (for sex sake, as a sport - and it isn't one) - or because they seem far too demanding for what they offer (in terms of getting attached/getting involved long term - which, for me, at this stage, means wanting children and a life together - preferably for the next 40 or 50 years (my ideas about that being very, let's say emotionally mature - not overromanticised, not oversexualised, but in the 'enjoying life together and dealing with its challenges, if any' (and there likely are some ahead, the least being raising some children to graduating university and marrying themselves/having grandchildren at that point).
To put it another way - when you see a young chicky who spends time in the gym daily just so she can get fucked, wears tights and has that 'oh won't you love me/feed me/fuck me - but I might still take time to decide how many guys I'd like' - you start to think 'yeah, would love to - except I know any level of not granting her (likely crazy) wishes will get my car scratched or tyres punctured or result in phone calls to my customers making up lies about me'.
There is a surprisingly high number of chicks like that everywhere decent - I figured I'd bet on meeting someone who isn't a sex bunny but a smart girl as well/a girl that can connect thoughts beyond her belly and pussy getting regular exercise.

[molonski2]

Especially your two examples , yes absolutely , honestly movies I prefer on my own , I dont want opinions as to which movie to see , and analysis of the topics that were addressed by the writer , Restaurant's same , but I like both , solo and with group , completely different mindset.
So , now with Covid , I was forced into this a bit more ( I like to choose , I dislike rules that force ) , plus movies closed here.
But , yes , always have been happy with my own company , also my original reasons for starting golf and surfing , didn't need others , and started and finished when I felt like it , selfish maybe?

[Crazybeeguy]

Yes, I bring a mirror so I don't feel that way.
Also, you think of it as lonely, but think about someone not stressing you out it helps. Relationships and love is really f'd up these days, I've seen the fallout. I enjoy being by myself, I have female friends who complain about guys and how shitty they are. Energetically it's draining, to be considered less than these crappy guys. So, yeah to be alone is a relief. What's worse is after being hurt so many times, they want a guy like me, but not me. >_< good luck

[CasuallySamsonite]

Yes, I go on solo adventures quite often. I usually invite people and rarely hear back so more often than not I just decide to not waste my life waiting on other people to decide to go out or not... I go camping, boating, hiking and all manner of high risk outdoor activities by myself, sure it is dangerous and ill-advised but it ain't like people don't die in their bathroom / kitchen every day and damned if I'll go out pants down sitting on the crapper wasting away staring at a smart phone like a boring worker drone.

[Pummel]

I am, there are times when I really miss holding a woman while sleeping or holding her hand while walking on the beach at sun up... I never knew that much about the bedroom because the last time I was with a woman in a sexual manner I was 22 years old (I was abused from the 4th grade till the 8th grade, the nuns also told me that no one would ever want me as their love interest... well the SATANIC nuns were correct, every one left, so I just gave up) , but the up side is while most of my "friends" are overweight, loosing their hair, turning grey and just overall not happy,..
Me I am 6ft 3in with all my hair and weight 195lbs.

Yo Chazz!! What's your secret Cuz?

I tell them that I never got married or had children, and neither do I date... plus I have never owed a single penny to any financial institution

[GoldenAxer]

I like it but I'm an extrovert so too much solitude starts making me feel sluggish and I start looking crazy talking to myself and laughing at my memories. I quickly work towards mental instability and little motivation unless I kind of recharge my batteries periodically, say at least once a week, in social events.

[GoldenAxer]

If I go to a restaurant by myself, I go to the bar section rather than getting a table for myself with the hope of finding some company, and ideally a friend.

[Jake99999]

I think it’s healthy for everyone to be comfortable alone. At least part of the time. And everyone needs some space for alone time. If you can’t stand being alone at all then there is something wrong that you need to figure out. I have always been comfortable on my own, but it’s not something I want all the time. People need or have their own interests and activities and their own space. Even married people or those in committed relationships. I think it makes you a more balanced person.

[justhere83]

I’ve always been that way (attend theaters by myself, eat a nice dinner, go to sporting events and enjoy my own company and don’t need other people to make me feel happy). Call me a loner if you want but I’m comfortable in my own skin and feel much better being on my own…not that I’m not antisocial or anything. If I’m in a social setting, I am very engaged with people and not shy at all—very easy to talk to. I can start a conversation based on the current environment with anyone anywhere. I’ve been married for 8 years to my lovely wife, and have 3 kids with her…but my line of work has me traveling all across the country 10 months out of the year…and doing just fine. I pretty much thrive in my solitude nature.

[MindYourEyes]

Yeah I think it’s great. Although a restaurant I prefer to have someone cause it’s nice to enjoy food with someone. But 95% the time I hang with myself. And I love it xD wether it’s just watching trashy videos, going to the gym or just having a cup of coffee. It’s sweet.

[kyleelyn199723]

I’ve never ate alone but I LOVE shopping on my own. No pressure to buy anything and actually get things that I will generally love. I love shopping on my own more than I like shopping with other people lol.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes I can be in a store for an hour and nobody be rushing me to go

[kyleelyn199723]

@Pinay_ako exactly!! No pressure to buy unnecessary stuff and I can take an hour or so to see if I really want to buy something

[Azura_88]

How can I enjoy it?
I only enjoy when I'm painting, reading, chilling, watching movie or working alone.
The idea of eating alone at restaurant makes me feel so embarrassed. Like who the hell would I be looking at? If I look at people, they'll stare at me and people are literally all around.

[Jlegacy]

Last time I was at the Cinema, I went alone. It was fun but only because I felt like she was there with me and I have found the love of my life. I don't know about other people but I love to always be around the loml. Solitude is to find God and I have. The only time I don't want her around me is when she is working or when I am working.

[Nightroads]

I was isolated for 36 days. I was 16. Watching a fish camp, while a historic closer kept us from fishing.

In that time i saw one boat and one plane in the distance. No human contact. True solitude, there were days i just sat in one spot for close to ten hours. The definition of having only your own company. Its intense.

I would say doing things around town by myself I'm comfortable, it would have to be something very important to make me want to be isolated like that again.

[ChrisWells295]

Yes, it's because I've been raising my child for the last 14 years.
If I get any alone time, I'm perfectly fine to go hiking alone or go shopping or watch my favorite shows.
I actually get annoyed sometimes when my friends show up, especially if they bring their kids.
As a parent I don't get lonely, I need some time to myself sometimes.

[Stephie2369]

Yes I am, I do like to hang out with friends and family but I am totally ok with “me time”.
Are you?

[Pinay_ako]

Yes I am.

[Dvchill]

I’m very comfortable with being alone… I would say this is a learned skill and it was one I learned when I was like 21-22? I worked different shifts then everyone I new and moved to a new state sooo if I wanted to do something I had to adventure alone

[Made4sex]

It’s funny I enjoy my alone time and definitely need it to be sane. But I regally do t enjoy doing things by myself. Like shopping or going to the library I prefer to be alone for obvious reasons. But going to a movie is way more fun with people. And going to dinner is more fun with people. I dont know.. it’s weird.

[Ke_vin]

I eat alone and lots of stuff alone and I enjoy that because my family and friends and strangers don’t quite understand me I feel happier alone and sometimes away from them as u said I’m my own companion people always want me to be someone I’m not and always looks down on my for my job (mechanic) bk to the question I’ll eat alone but I’ll never go to a restaurant or cinemas alone I’ll feel weird I don't know why

[Ke_vin]

But sometimes I feel lonely and I feel like I need someone else other than family at my side

[Adam1978]

Yes but I am no daredevil, so I don't need company for safety in numbers. I have no problem going solo to anything, it's often easier then rally a company that wants to do the same thing as me and at the same time.

[Jaximus-Lion]

There is somethings i love doing all alone, like working out, working at my garden, watching some series/movies or shows and cooking too. But going to the movies alone! Actually i have never done it before so i don't know

[InventorofWarp]

I wouldn't say I enjoy it.
But I also don't not enjoy it either.
I've just kinda gotten used to it after almost 25 years so now it just kinda feels so normal that I couldn't ever really imagine what life would be like otherwise. So... kinda.

[Hermes-Paris]

I am always in some country working by myself. Dinners are always alone. Trips as well. Days at the beaches... alone. It used to make me frustrated by now I love it. I feel lucky when I see my friends come back from vacation all exhausted.