Why I Hate The "My Little Girl" Concept

[shatteredclouds15]

What I mean by the My Little Girl concept is how for some reason people think that the father of a girl needs to give permission to marry or go on a date and things like that, because she's "his little girl". Now, I'm sure there are some traditionalists on here who are already offended. Just hear me out.

Firstly, I have nothing against people who want to follow this. You do you. That's your choice. Me, though, I think it's completely controlling of a parent to do this. I'm an independent woman and I don't need anyone's permission to get married, and I don't think girls should need permission to date when they're younger. Girls (and boys, but they don't really have a concept like this) should be able to decide for themselves who they are to be together with, not their fathers.

The fact that some dads say "my little girl" is honestly disgusting and creepy to me. I'd feel so weird and uncomfortable if my dad said that to me. Our relationship isn't great, so that could be why. If you're okay with that, then fine, I can see someone thinking of it as family love or whatever. I myself don't believe in family love, I see love as something you give to your significant other rather than your child, sibling, parent, etc. That's more of a side note to this, though.

This is a practice that's been going on for far too long in my opinion. Times are changing, women have rights now. I don't need my dad's protection. I can handle myself out there in the dating world.

Some ladies I'm sure might take comfort in their dad doing this and see it as kind and loving, but I sure don't.

So do you agree/disagree? Tell me what you think!

(this picture is pretty cute though. :D)

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[lovelyhoneybones]

It's in a fathers nature to watch over his children, especially his daughter/daughters. Dating is no joke, and a lot of girls take it as one. Men are able to spot out a mole way before a female can, which is why fathers are that way with their daughters. It keeps them safe. Women need protecting to a certain degree. It's just how we are. It 's in our nature. You can bark at me all day about how that's sexist, but the reality is that it's true, whether it offends you or not.

My sisters are always going on about how females are taken care of in this society, which is a good thing for us women in the first place, and it's absolutely ridiculous. Why is it so hard to accept the fact that there are males that care about you and want to make sure you're okay in life. You're father will ALWAYS be the number 1 male who will watch over you. A father would go to jail before letting some man hurt his little girl.

It's a good thing that your father sees you as his little girl.

[Bananaman177]

For most women, whether they like to hear it or not, their father might be the only man in their lives who views them as anything other than a little piece of chicken.

Most women's problem nowadays is that they've been protected so much, and so well, for so long, that they have no fucking clue what they are even being protected from, and that is exactly when things get dangerous for girls moving out on their own and going off to college and bright lights and big city nights.

Too many women find that out the hard way, but they don't want to hear about it, so they're all going to downvote me for saying it.

Downvote this:
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[fabulouspancakes]

I agree partially. The only time I think a dad (or mom) needs to step in to a daughter's dating life is if she's very young, or clearly being mistreated. Dads do not need to be interfering in their adult or older teen daughters' relationships.
But I DO believe in family love for sure, and part of a parent's job is to protect their kids from those who would hurt them. For example, if a 25 yr old is trying to date a 14 yr old, or a girl's boyfriend is hitting her, dad (or another family member) needs to step in. Just common sense really.

[sodaa_popp]

Sorry to get a tad religious on you, but my answer stems from that background so that you understand where I'm coming from.

It is not about doing absolutely everything your parents say down to a tee. Parents are human too, and therefore imperfect beings. What it comes down to is honoring and respecting your parents simply for having brought you into the world. Yes, at the end of the day you make your own decision. But at the very least, the honorable thing is to consider and acknowledge your parents' wishes.

[JustinTheGreat]

The only time I would ever control who my daughter (my son too) dates is if she was young like 14 and she wanted to date someone who was 18 or older. No way in hell, I'm letting my child date someone who is technically an adult. Not happening.
But once she's a little older, like 16. I don't have a say in who she sees anymore. Even if she dates someone I don't like, I'm not going to tell her she can't.
Needing to get permission for marriage is absolutely ridiculous when you're a grown ass adult.

[HonestGirlAlways]

Well I do believe in family love so I don't think there's anything wrong in saying 'dad's little girl', because most dads will still see you as their baby who they need to protect even after you become an adult. That's just paternal instinct and it doesn't make me uncomfortable. That being said, the mentality that your parents (or specifically your father) own you and making statements like the shirt above are two really creepy things that should by no means be encouraged. I do think parents should have an opinion on who you date, mostly because they're wiser and want what's best for you, but absolutely not like that. It's sick and it's gross and it oppresses daughters.

[Nyx_85]

My dad and I have a closer relationship than my mom and I have. I'll always be 'daddy's little girl' in a sense yet he's never tried to control my dating life once my parents decided I was old enough to date. Also probably because I've managed to stay out of trouble for the most part. He's there for me but he respects my decisions.

[LittleLila]

I don't understand how you managed to twist this into being oppressive towards women. Men are the ones who have to 'prove' themselves to be WORTH your daughter's hand in marriage. All us women have to do is say yes or no. Men are the ones that have to build up the courage to ask the parents for our hand in marriage. We don't have to do jack shit haha

[rjroy3]

" I myself don't believe in family love, I see love as something you give to your significant other rather than your child, sibling, parent, etc. "

That's pretty fundamental lol. Most girls who had a good relationship with their father growing up will be just fine with it. Good, being a close relationship with their father that didn't lead to her having daddy issues down the road.

[CubsterShura]

Somewhere in between. My father is an experienced man and obviously he cares about my safety and honor. But if I ever choose to like a guy I'll show my dad that I'll be happy with him and that should be more than enough for convincing him. It would be utterly disrespectful to go against your dad.

[PropagandaMinister]

this is still ok compared to those cockroach brothers who want to have a word when it comes to who his sister likes, loves or sleep with.

when a father cares a bit to much for his daughter then you can still see it positive somehow, but when a brother plays the parent role for his sister and start to not allow her things i want to puke.

[lovelyhoneybones]

It honestly depends, brothers are looking at for their sister's/sisters best interest as well. My brother who is younger than me (almost 15) looks out for me. Not as much as my father, but he does it with best intentions. He's the same way with my other sisters, but especially with our baby sister.

[zagor]

So, 13 year old girls have the judgment to decide who to go hang out with, and where, and how late to stay out?

If everyone felt like that, there would be a lot more pregnant 14 year olds walking around. And 30 year old lowlifes would be hanging out at Jr. High dances.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Most adult women don't even know who to date. It's sad, but most women are not capable of being a good partner.

[zagor]

@lovelyhoneybones I sadly have to agree with that.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I meant *picking, lol. Not being. Even though that's true a good amount of times.

[Anonymous]

Someone needs a hug.
I actually like that my dad and older brother are protective of me and it shows how much they care and love me. I would call it unconditional love and knowing they have my back is the best feeling in the world.

[BuchitaBuchys]

A benefit to dating me, my father isn't in my life, so I never needed permission lol
Still didn't choose to date until I was 19.

[karahiri]

Its more a respect thing than an actual permission thing.

[Sloane]

Dads being highly overprotective of their daughters just makes me think theirs something inappropriate going on. And later in life these girls like to get abused by men.

[Rissyanne]

I take it you dont have children. You will probably feel differently when you have a teenager wanting to stay out all night.

[Anonymous]

Just like all feminists you are melodramatising something trivial and why not use that phrase. It hardly counts as disgusting either and why be offended then tell others not to be offended and all the time you think it is ok to use words like creep and weird. Hypocritical or what.

[Opinion Owner]

And you are clearly the offended one here and are most likely bitter at your Dad and men in general.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/THfCdBNoARE

[sp33d]

He's her father and when she's too young, he would naturally protect her. I commend him for that.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. It makes girls wanting to date another version of their dad.

[DontStepOnTheCat]

That my friends is why single motherhood is on the rise and divorce is through the roof.