Don't make my mistakes

[Whatthefluff]

Don't do something that feels wrong.

Even if you have a TRACE of doubt or unease about something that will affect others, seriously take that doubt into consideration. When people you love are involved in a decision you are thinking of making, talk to them about the matter.

I abandoned my family for no reason, and it's coming on four years since I did that. I feel so hopeless-

What do I do?

It will never improve

And so guilty-

Why did I do this

I'm so selfish

I'm a horrible person

Because of one selfish decision where I didn't take my loved ones into consideration, I and them have suffered immensely, for different reasons. I still don't know what to do. It feels helpless and it was all my fault.

This could ruin your life.

Don't do this. Take people into consideration. Their lives matter more than a feeling you're temporarily experiencing. Because there is no reversing the trauma you created.

Thank you for reading. I'll probably delete it.

[Shamalien]

You could be wrong right now. Have you no doubt about regretting this? Are you familiar with emotional manipulation tactics? Sometimes, everyone around you will tell you not to remove someone or some group of people from your life, but at the end of the day, you HAVE to trust yourself.

Maybe you made a mistake, maybe you're making a mistake right now, I don't know, only you can say, but I would urge everyone reading not to put too much weight on doubt when it comes to making decisions you genuinely think will move your life forward in a positive way (like something constructive, hedonism related shit doesn't count)

[Regmorus]

yeah, wanted to encourage to think about similar things in addition. But to me it felt like they are out of place.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You know it could be reasonable you did it but you just have that habit of blaming yourself. And also another reason why you couldn't succeed is you focus about your past more than focusing about your future. That's the real mistake you're making not living your parents. Also remember this you are only 17. You have nothing to lose so mistakes are kind of like blessings in disguise by the way so make all the mistakes and learn from it. Don't focus on how you stupid you think you are because everyone did stupid things. i wish you luck by the way.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*leaving your parents

[yucychan]

I'm not sure what trauma and hurt you have caused your family. But I have done some things that I'm not proud of, and hurt my family.
What matters most is that you move on and try to be better for them and for yourself.
No point hanging onto past mistakes and feeling sorry for yourself.

[Gwenhwyfar]

💗💗💗💗💗

[winterfox10]

I don't know what led you to cutting contact with your family, but what I can tell you (beyond doubt) is that people seem to go out of their way to take things in the worst way possible. I always take a moment to think twice before I do something, because I have had so, so, so many things blow up in my face; despite my best efforts to avoid problems.

Whatever you are trying to prevent from happening; some dumb MF is gonna come along and make that shit happen anyway. All you can do is act with integrity: ALWAYS.

[raven6933]

You learn by making mistakes, no one is perfect and obviously you are learning from yours. All you can do is ask for forgiveness without justification for what you did. If they wish to give sometime after that you may explain why, but not before. It defeats the purpose of asking for forgiveness if you justify it before hand and try to move on as best as possible.

[Hermes-Paris]

Work, Life, Health, Debts, Wives, Kids Family can all pile up on you to the point you break. Many wives don't understand a man has limits and will break if loaded down with too much. If you broke for that reason you are not alone. Many of us have. Just put yesterday behind and fix what you can and one day you will accept it and move past it. That day is coming. And next time be very careful and honest with yourself before entering another similar situation.

[cheapshotbob]

you know for someone so young you picl up on things most kids your age dne even think on yet, you need a mindset on how to do things you have to weigh the pro's and cons of everything. there is way more too life than jealousy, hatred, arrogance and those other things that interfere with your life everyday.

everything you touched on is just the tip of the ice berg but you can learn soo much from the small things like your talking about.

[Jjpayne]

While it's still here. Don't be too hard on yourself. What important is the fact that you feel it now and now is still here and you can change it. Seize the day! :)

For me, my father as you know passed on... Did I do all the right things I could to keep him alive... I'll never know but for you embrace and work with those that are alive with you now :)

[Regmorus]

My heartfelt compassion. When you realize what the situation is now, you just have to start new from here. Past is past. You can improve the situation certainly, just start here in that sense a kind of new life inside your old one.

And thank you for this advice and your personal example. It can be helpful for me personally.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Unless your whole family is all dead now... Why not just reach out apologize tell them you're sorry that you were young and made mistakes that you wish there was a way to change them that you love them and want them in your life... You'd be surprised how much family can forgive. Who knows maybe your mom and dad will hold you while crying and say our little girl has come home how we've missed you.

[Enochian]

You are the exact opposite of a horrible person. And I know what it's like believing things won't get better, but after time I realised that I don't really know what can happen. Things might get better, it can even get worse but in reality, we can never know. The only way for us to know is to live. Live with forgiveness in our hearts, but most importantly we need to accept that what we did is done and the only thing we can now do is use that to shape what we become (and that is our choice)

[COMMODOREII]

This reminds me of a parable. Take time to listen and think about it. Then make a choice. You may still find peace. May God bless you my friend. *hugs*

https://www.youtube.com/embed/14epxvU8XIA

[DCooper]

The clock only goes one direction, so there's nothing you can do to change the past. Dwelling on it and punishing yourself doesn't produce positive outcomes. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and do better going forward.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Never too late to start over. I ruined my life at a young age, and again in my late 30's. Bad decisions, selfish. I can't fix what I broke, but I realized that I could fix ME. I did it, and I'm terrible at this stuff, so I'm sure you can too.

[Rocco7070]

So true, dont buy a loaf of bread if someone buy8ng one before you found a razorblade in his, and something inside warnsx you

[JackSmy]

So you are elevated to 'Editor' and suddenly, now, there is some 'soul-searching,' and maybe some form of 'penance'? What happened?

[scorpy04]

Your not alone my X walked out from My daughters hadn't seen her in 16 years she has been in contact for 4 years now but left it to late She also did the same to other children she hasn't really changed still can't commit

[Grond21]

This sounds like Jordan Peterson. Even if you don't know what is right and what is wrong, some of the things that you do you know are wrong. And stop doing those

[anon1903]

Are you a student of psychoanalysis? I wanna have a chat with one of them. Please hit me up on DM if that's all right.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I know I made some mistakes in life age 21 that wish I never did now I wish I could take them years back

[sensible27]

Don't delete it. It might be too late for me but maybe not for someone else.

[msc545]

Everyone makes occasional bad decisions. Stop beating yourself up over this one, and try to figure on what, if anything, you can do to mitigate or fix it. We are all human and we all make mistakes.

[venomhbk1313]

Family is the most important thing in life if you had a good reason I can understand that to leave but later on hopefully you can reconcile