My grandfather was the one who basically raised me.

[InYourHead]

So my mom passed away shortly after my little brother was born. I was 5. My dad buried himself in his work and my grandfather moved in with us. He basically raised me. I love him for it. I have no animosity towards my dad. I love him too, I try to comfort him. He says I remind him of my mother so I know it's tough on him. Especially around the holidays. Sometimes he drowns himself and Alcohol and that is tough. My grandfather helps me a lot. He taught me to drive. He drove me to my first date. He was there for each of the proms I went too. He meets my bfs. He's my rock. Anyway that's my ramble.

#Family #Life

[Finchie40]

Your Grandfather sounds like my grandfather , My Grandfather was more of a Dad to me then my own father , my father was an alcoholic and always drunk so i didn’t get much of son and Father Time, But my Grandfather stepped in and I looked up to him, he was a big influence in my life, He taught me things that helped me prepare for my future , And he was such a ladies man to the point he taught me how to treat a lady and how to respect her and protect her and love her , He loved my Grand mom like no other, When my grandmom passed my grandfather was devastated and losing her was pretty much the end of his journey , He passed shortly after her , I always wanted a relationship like he had with my grand mom , Losing him was one of the hardest things I experienced in life but I always feel he is keeping an eye on me. My mom passed away a few months ago and that was devastating to me as well but I know my grandfather was waiting for her with open arms. So my advice cherish every second you have with your grandfather and realize how lucky to have him in your life

[InYourHead]

Thank you very much

[Finchie40]

No problem , you sound like you have an amazing Grandfather

[BarryLiverstone]

Sorry your mom passed way too early. Do you often remember her? That’s too bad your dad defaults to alcohol to cope at times, good to have family around him tho. It’s kinda like you have two dads tho as your grandpa sounds awesome. Did your grandma also move in? Seems like with all that testosterone you learned about guys all your life

[InYourHead]

I don't have many memories of my mom. I think I miss the idea of her more than her. But I've been the woman of the house for awhile.

My grandma passed before I was born. I am the only girl in the house. So yes that's a lot of testosterone 😄

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you for MHO

[Staximus]

Try to talk your dad into seeing a counselor or therapist. Most people can't drink like that forever. I'm 44 and a few of my friends who have been drinking every day for the last 20-25 years are not in such good shape. He needs to want to live again and enjoy life, I'm sure that's what your mom would have wanted. I didn't lose my wife or girlfriend but I lost my mom when I was 20. I drowned myself in whiskey and fast food. I was slowly killing myself. One day I just woke up and realized that it wasn't helping anything and that's not what my mom would have wanted. She would have wanted me to make a good life for myself and find happiness. Not move on and forget but move forward, continue living

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow I'm sorry you had to go through that I could fathom being without my mom that young but thank god for your grandfather and as for you biological father I don't know how your not make cause I'd be pissed you didn't ask to be born his child so its his responsibility to be a good father you you and your siblings

[InYourHead]

I feel for him. His wife died and he's lonely. I can't be mad at him. I try to be the best I can for him.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow I'm impressed that's a very grown up thing to say and I get that he's suffering to but your a parent shame it off and keep moving you have children who need you. Just think about if your grandfather wasn't there then what

[InYourHead]

Then it might be different. But that's hypothetical. I'm dealing with reality

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you lost your mom so young, but glad you had a couple of men who did the right thing and gave you a childhood and raised you to an adult. Sounds like your grandfather did the "mothering" and your father paid the bills?

[InYourHead]

That's one way to put it

[Waldoe]

you're lucky to have such a strong man in your life.

[InYourHead]

Thanks

[DanielBlack1904120]

My granmah stepped in to raise me too. if not for her I would be in prison or dead. to this day I don't even have a speeding ticket because of how much I owe her

[Honestguyopen]

So sorry for your loss. I don't know if it was anything medical involved but please take care of your health. Hope your situation improves as much as it can.

[Wise4myage]

I think its awesome your Grandpa was their for you.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It's tough being the only female at home isn't it?

[InYourHead]

Sometimes yea

[Aakash_Hangargi]

How do you cope with it?

[InYourHead]

I'm use to it.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Do you have more restrictions or more freedom

[InYourHead]

Well I'm 18 now so, I don't really have any rules necessarily

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It isn't about age it's about concern that family makes rules in order to ensure your well being , so in that sense or let's say how was it when you were under 18 especially you would be treated with more love as you are the only gal.
My guess is they spoiled you more than they restricted

[InYourHead]

Yea I was spoiled... ngl

[boobliker]

so what is you want from us here at GAG? come on girl spit it out

[Flower7]

That photo is so cute! 😊

[Agape93]

Im glad you have each other

[BillyBalls]

Sounds like he is a good man.

[lycanthrope3]

Grandads love their granddaughters

[TrillXHippy]

How sweet

[Gobluebigtenchamps]

I love the picture