I hate my stepmother with a burning passion. What do I do?

[katiehalper]

I never told my dad this cause it would be useless. I don't really have a good father he has never been there for me. my mom divorced him because of this fact when I was 5 months old. after that I would spend Saturdays there. recently my dad has remarried im happy for him because he was stressing over my mom for 10 years. im very happy for him but the problem is I hate that woman she has 2 children from her previous marriage. she yells at her kids like there is no tomarrow there is constant screaming in my grandmas house. she is very annoying. I was reading one time and she told me to clean up so I stood up and asked my little sister to help me clean her dolls up. she said leave my daughters alone they cleaned there room all day next time ill make u help them (its there room thier responsibility) I said I asked my little sis to help not them she's like okay. she then said your dad bosses my children around I can boss you around. then she said u run to your grandpa and granma (moms side) when ever you don't like something. you are a lazy bitch who doesn't do anything to help around. because of her I dont see my uncle and aunt anymore. my cousin avoids the house because last time her kids almost choked him. her kid also almost choked me to but I pushed her of of me as soon as her hands touched my throat. after she came to the house my dad got him self double jobs because she sits on her ass all day dosnt even help. the house is a mess. her oldest child is disrespectful and only cares about herself. she marched into the house and said everyone bow down to my feet. her own children want to live with their dad because she yells at them when something isn't her way. I wish my dad could have married a woman whos quite and pretty. she is super mean. she is not my mother and never will be. She is inconsiderate of how I feel of her presence. I tried my best on getting along with her I just cant. what do I do?

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+1 y

My little sister is her and my dads child so Im watching my little sister get all the love from my dad that I never had. I feel out place now becuse since they moved into my grandmas house I feel like I don't belong

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+1 y

I visit them once a year since we moved to nj

[adilynn]

Oh Cinderella I feel so bad for you. If I were you I'd make sure the one day a yr you go your father is there. Spend as much time with him in that day and if it becomes to much just go home. Or maybe see if your dad will take you and your little sis out. Even if its just to the park just so you can have some real family alone time. Don't keep all this bottled up bc one day you're going to explode. If that does happen I guarantee it'll be you cussing out that evil step mom. Im sure she needs so mental help considering she's so rude to her own kids as well as you. Her oldest daughter seems to be following in her foot steps also. I hope things get better dear!

[katiehalper]

Thank you but I can't spend time alone with him because if we go to the park her kids have to come with them. im surprised my dad has the patience. I would already kiked her out but kept the kids cause its not thier fualt thier mom is like that. I told my mom she said if my dads wife dosnt move out im not going to colorado.

[adilynn]

Has your mom talked to your dad about all of this? Something needs to change maybe your mom can tell him to talk to his wife or something.

[Anonymous]

This is very common. Men seem to bond with our children through the woman. Once the bond with the woman is broken, often the man will choose a new woman over his child. This is where the idea of the evil stepmother comes from.

If you can go live with your mom. Cut your father completely out of your life if possible. You are kidding yourself if you think things will ever be different with him. He has already made his choice, and it wasn't you.

[molan]

Tell you mom and dad you what to live with you mother all the time and can't deal with your father new wife. He won't understand, but he doesn't have to, he just have to respect that fact that this is how you feel.

Your father can then visit you when he needs to. If that prices is too much for you, then stay those Saturdays and live with your stepmother - one day a week isn't too bad anyway.

[katiehalper]

I only visit them once a month I told my grandma she said her heart aches for them and hopefully they will be out for shure. none of my friends know I even have a dad exept one when I heard about it over the phone my friend was comeing to meet me when she came I broke into tears and told her everything

[katiehalper]

I can't tell my dad I want him to be happy and If this makes him happy then fine but I can't deal with it.

[katiehalper]

I mean once a year for a whole month

[molan]

He is the adult who has to deal with it, so either you tell him and let him find a solution or you cope with it.

[toutatis]

From your account, she is a mean woman. I wish your father realises that.

[katiehalper]

I feel like he is makeing a mistake. he has become more stressed out lately I can see it in his eyes. he also has bad teeth they weren't a bother before they came her but now he gas to replace all of them