My Boyfriend sleeps with his mother, is it right?

[LotusLotus]

My boyfriend is 23 years old and he says to me that since his childhood, every night he sleeps with his Mother. He says that he love his mother so much so he always sleeps with his mother and he says that he feels so much proud while sleeping with his mother, he feels too much good he feels that he is in heaven when he sleeps with his mother. He says, "I sleep with my mom because I love her so much" and he says that he feels so much proud that he sleeps with his mother. Please tell me, is this normal? I also love and respect my father but I'm never ever willing to sleep with my dad, me and my dad never ever kiss and cuddle and never ever sleep together and this does not mean that I don't love and respect my dad and my dad don't love me. So is my boyfriend's this behaviour normal? Is he momma's boy? I love him so much and I'm happily ready to sacrifice even my life for him and I know if I will say to him that he's wrong and if I will try to stop him sleeping with his mom then it will hurt him and I never want to hurt him by my any words and actions but please I would know that is his behaviour normal or is it right not wrong? Is he not momma's boy? It's true that if he is a momma's boy and his these behaviours are not normal and wrong but still I will love him and I would always sacrifice anything and everything for him and I would never stop him doing what he likes to do and which makes him feel happy and good, but I would know, am I right and is my boyfriend right that he always sleeps with his mom and he loves it? Please reply me and my boyfriend also always says to me to never ever talk to any guy except him and to never ever make any guy my friend even not brother, he wants that no boy except him talk to me and I say that I have not any guy friend and I would never do this and then he says to me that he have beautiful girls as his friends and they every day meets to him. Please tell me is it all normal and right?

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My age is not 99, don't know how by mistake that age selected and I don't know he love make or not but I can never doubt on him so I would say he don't love make with her and he seems decent so I can't think so and I'm never willing to ask him this question and he is a Muslim and a Pakistani but I'm not.

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+1 y

I did not mention his religion to say that it's allowed in his religion or it is because of his religion, no it's not allowed in any religion and in any culture, it's allowed neither in his religion and nor in my religion and culture, there's no connection between people's wrong doings and the religion. I've mention mine and his religion and culture to clear the confusions of some people who were asking about me and him that from which culture we are. So please I request to everyone to not to te

[emmabee11]

Okie so i read this and i read your other answers to people and all i can say is
1. Being under 18 your a minor so i hope you haven't had sex yet or if you have that you haven't told anyone you have because it's illegal for someone 18 or over to sleep with someone under 18, so be careful.
2. He's definitely too old to be sleeping in his mums bed for sure, he should of grown out of it, however it's nice how he loves his mother and that she makes him love her so much, not many parents are too nice these days. I do however think that once your 18 and you do start sleeping in the same bed he might grow out of it and start to love sleeping with you instead.
3. He does sound possesive though, it's not right for him to tell you not to have any guy friends yet he's aloud to have girls as friends? this is quite the 1 sided thing to do and you should tell him you can have guy friends if you want to, if he starts getting super jealous and possesive you need to tell him to not behave this way, so you need to talk to him about that and how he isn't being fiar on that.

[nandyme]

1) the fact that you are asking this question shows that you believe at some level that it is not normal. But you want someone to tell you that it is because you love him. follow your instincts girl.
2) no. It is definitely not normal. My dad is the biggest mommas boy around. so is my best friend. Neither sleep with their mothers. Its normal at 8 years. Not 23. Especially the feeling in heaven part? Definitely not normal.
3) what the hell? He does not want you to talk to other guys? Not even your brother? But he can regularly meet other girls?
Sweetheart I'm sorry to say this but this guy is definitely not someone you should stay with. he is cutting you off from having real friendships ( not that girl - girl friendships are not real , but still.) Anyone who tries to do that is very insecure and if you allow them to do it , they will slowly start blaming all their problems on you and will take out their anger on you. You deserve so much better.
4) he's 23 and you are 16? What? That's nott just illegal its also very suspicious.

[bijinbijinbijin]

When a child becomes an adult, they are suppose to leave their Mama bird's nest so they can start a life and a family of their own. If a guy is still dependent of the nest then he can never create his own birds nest.

I would stay away from guys like that. They never know how to take care of themselves and expect someone else to take care of them.

How old is your boyfriend? How old are you? I noticed you said that he is muslim and pakistani. People from different cultures have different norms. Here in the USA it is not normal for a child to sleep with his mother if he is older than 8 years old and 8 years old is pushing the limit. I say 8 years old because Every once in a while a child may feel scared and have a scary dream so they run to their parents room to sleep however parents typically do not encourage the behavior of sleeping in bed with parents after the age of 3. Sometimes the 3 year old will sleep with the parent but parents are typically trying to get the child to sleep in his own bed by that age.

[becca123]

He is overly attached to his mom, and she with him. It is just not normal; I question his mom that she allows it. This can be a sign of serious mental issues for both of them.

He is also controlling and possessive. He can have lots of friends that are girls but thinks you should not be permitted to have friends that are boys. Again, not normal and sadly this thought process tends to lead to abusive relationships.

I know you aren't 99, lol. Is this your first boyfriend? Seems odd that you allow him to treat you this way if not.

My advice is get out. There are too many red flags warning of the dangers in pursuing this any more.

[LotusLotus]

Thanks for your advice which you gave to me for my well being. But I would kill myself for his happiness, nothing more important than his happiness and smile for me, even not my life. And I can never ever hurt him I don't want to hurt him ever in fact one time by mistake some words typed by me which had hurt him and then as a punishment I burnt my fingers. And if I will get out so it will be painful for him because he says he loves me so much and cannot live without me and I also can not be alive without him because I really love him too much and till the last breath of my life I love him, I really love him forever so it's impossible for me to get out, I will suicide but being alive can never do this, even no matter if he will want to kill me. Yes he is my first boyfriend and even my first friend who is guy and he is my first and last love and he also also says that I'm his first and last love. And yes my age is not 99 I'm going to be 16.

[becca123]

Sweetie I do not know what else to say. Your first love is always the hardest to get past, but you need to know this guy is Bad News. If you know that and remain with him you will end up getting hurt. Badly. He is showing signs of mental disturbances that none of us here can overlook. The fact that he has you wrapped up this tightly frightens me for both of you.

I can promise that if you get out, you will find someone who will give you the unconditional love that you deserve. I know you can't see that now. Just be careful.

[Booboo210]

I agree get out now you will meet some one that will treat you special

[BertMacklinFBI]

at 23 I would definitely say its not normal. fuck d00d I stopped sleeping in my parent's bed when I was like 8 or less can't remember that long ago but I was small as shit. he's just a mommas boy still.

[LotusLotus]

Is it true that son who love mother so much sleeps always with mother as my boyfriend says and do? And bro me too, can not remember my sleeping with parents and since the day I born I never ever slept on the same bed my dad.

[kambo_trick3y]

Seems legit. Especially coming from a profile that was just created and with a user age of 99 years old.

[Strider90]

so true.

[LotusLotus]

My age is not 99, I don't know how by mistake that age selected, sorry :(

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yeah he is way too old to sleep in bed with his mother
hell he is old enough to get erections in bed with her
hey this stuff does happen eww and he won't tell you
but you need to tell him I'm not coming between you and
your mother but your way too old and it does seem creepy.

[LotusLotus]

What's erection in bed?

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Means a hard penis ( erection) sexual arousal all the same

[LotusLotus]

I don't know much about sex and never had any sexual arousal and I don't think he love make with her so how can he have erection?

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

well, males get erection ( hard penis) and don't tell no one
it happens but not saying this is happening with your BF
but things like this take place and it would be bad if he act out

[LotusLotus]

Opinion Owner, I don't know it's happening with him or not but I can never ever ask him about it..

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Okay i see

[Nik1hil]

He is Mommies boy. A bit mentally underdeveloped. Best way, if you spent time with his mom and he will like you too, then his brain will trigger and he might sleep with you.
But LET ME WARN YOU HE IS A PSYCHO AND WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE, IF YOU WANT TO WASTE YOUR LIFE BEHIND AN IDIOT, I CAN NOT STOP YOU BUT TAKE PRECAUTIONS LIKE LEARN MORE OF SELF DEFENDING TECHNIQUE BUT HE SHOULD NOT COMES TO KNOWS ABOUT IT. (HE TOLD YOU NOT TO MAKE FRIEND - 'WHAT IF SOME DAY HE, CAPTURES YOU AND SEXUALLY ASSULTS YOU, AND THEN PLANS TO KILL YOU AND BURY YOU, AND YOU HAVE NO OTHER GUY BEST FRIEND TO COMES TO HELP, OR SEARCH FOR YOU OR TALK TO COPS THAT YOU HAVE GONE MISSING) IT MIGHT BE THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE. Never be with a boy who says you to cut contact from those people who are your friends and not his friends. There are always 2 sides of every coin. There is no angle in this world. Never trust a guy 100%. World if full of psychos (dangerous like your mommas boy)

[PureBliss]

Wow. I love this

[Nik1hil]

@PureBliss, thanks, I just hope she wakes up from this dream which she thinks is love, she need to built a career and first needs to get respectable position in society it will take like 5 years they she can date many boys a will come to know, what does boys mean. A guy who will go on walk with her in garden, take her on rides and spoon and Cuddle whenever she needs, swim and dance with her when she wants to, give her a chest and shoulder to shed her tears if she needs. How the hell can someone call it love when your partner has passed puberty and is immature and still squeezes I her mommies bed

[Nik1hil]

@LotusLotus do not go on his words, you are like 16-17 I assume and it's not age of building relationships it's age of building yourself. Grow your knowledge and get physical strength and nice health. LOVE IS VERY BIG DECEPTION, DO YOU REALLY WANT TO LINE WITH A GUYS WITH YOUR KIDS WHO SLEEPS WITH HIS MOM. WHAT WILL YOUR KIDS SAY AND ASK. THAT GUY NEED PSYCOLOGICAL HELP!. ..
MÖDERN TECH CAN MAKE EVENT THE UGLIEST THE LOVELIEST. so do not worry about your beauty much first bring yourself out in society and get respect from people and make a career and if you still think you love that guy then you can use your money to fix him psychologically and even have a happy life with him if your still want that guy.

[Sara413]

That is royally fucked up...

Also, the whole "no other guy in your life but me" thing is fucked up too. And why does he want you to have beautiful girlfriends?

Something is SERIOUSLY wrong with this guy... GTFO!

[LotusLotus]

When I say me that yes I will not befriend with any boy except him and I never did it then he says that, "but I have girls as my friends who are beautiful and she everyday meet and talk to me, we daily meet". And I don't want to hurt him so with a smile I say "it's okay, enjoy, have good time."

[Sara413]

But why would you want to be with someone who holds you to a different set of standards than himself? Why should it be OK for him to have girl friends but not for you to have guy friends?

[Akshay2212]

By sleep you meant , just sleeping on the same bed or making love? 0_o

He is not at all right!!! I mean mama's boy is something , but this is extreme.
What!!! He restricts you from talking to other male friends , even your brother. Thats insane. I mean thats really small thinking and he is reallly damn insecure about himself.

I strongly recommend you to change your relationship , you seriously deserve some 1 better.

[ApostleCat]

Im also curious if they have sex... she made that unclear

[zorro8888]

This is a perfect example of everything that is completely... abnormal. It's fine when you're little but 23!!!

[LotusLotus]

So bro what should I do? I don't want to hurt him.

[Anonymous]

I Think this guy will eventually murder you at some point in time...

[LotusLotus]

but he says he loves me so much and he says even my one tear and my sadness makes him feel faint so how can he ever kill me?

[Hidden_P]

That's not normal.
Regardless how much you love your parent you don't sleep with them. I adore my dad, I don't sleep with him.

I sleep with my boyfriend and I sleep with my cat. Those are the only men I sleep with.

It's regardless of religion, religion is something someone else dictates. Nowhere in Muslim religion does it say you must sleep with your mother.

[Mustachekitteh]

That's creepy as hell! I would run far far away from any guy who did that just no no no no. This picture explains my face expression when reading this. https://i.imgur.com/sTJs5H9.gif

[Anonymous]

Could just be a big mammas boy and be immature. Its a little odd.

But, i mean im an adult , if im at my mom's, we tend to watch tv in her room so I'll just fall asleep there.

[LotusLotus]

You are a girl, her daughter not son so there's nothing wrong if you fall asleep there where your mom is because you are a girl and she is your mom who is also a women but girls usually don't sleep with father.

[Phoenix98]

No that's not normal and it sounds like he's a moma's boy.

[LotusLotus]

Is it good for him? What should I do?

[Phoenix98]

I'm not sure it's kind of a tricky situation.

[Anonymous]

I'd say nope. It's definitely not normal. No judge I am muslim but my brothers never slept with my mom nor did anyone in my family. He might have some issues or maybe it's something they do in his family cause momma boys don't usually do that but yeah if anyone else in his family doea that then it must be a tradition for them

[allmenaredogs]

f*&k, my ex was indian too. I call that guy lesbian. He is such a mama boy and hiding behind women. When he is with his ex- girl friend, he is all of sudden act like a boy. He is girly and I call him lesbian. all indian guys are lesbians.

[allmenaredogs]

tell him good bye. that's the only way. they are very sherewed when it comes to stealing and gang round. I won't trust anyone from there. I had this dark hand bothering me while I was with him. He is bad evil seed.

[LotusLotus]

No all Indian guys are not gay and lesbian. It's absolutely false. And he is Not Indian He is A Pakistani, not at all Indian.

[allmenaredogs]

pakistan = indian. they are the same race. stop your drama. he knows and he is using you.

[LotusLotus]

And Opinion Owner bad and good both types of people exists everywhere if some Indians are not good then it does not mean all the Indians are like that, you should not blame all the Indians, all Indians are not bad and all Indians are not good and also all American, Australian, etc are not bad and all are not good, you should not stop trusting everyone just because of some people who are bad and does not deserve trust and my bf is Pakistani Muslim and I'm Bhartiya and Sanatan Dharmi.

[LotusLotus]

No Pakistanis and Indians are very different.

[allmenaredogs]

ok good luck

[LotusLotus]

Indians and Pakistanis are not same, there's so much difference between Indians and Pakistanis. Indian and Pakistanis are so different from each other, there culture and religion are different from Indians except Muslims and also the India is much more developed rather than Pakistan and India never ever send terrorist in any country.

[RationalMale]

I think the last time I slept in my parent's bed, I was three or four years old...

[LotusLotus]

@RationalMale Me too. And is it good for my bf to sleep with his mother forever? I should try to stop him or not? Any advice?

[RationalMale]

I have no clue, it just seems extremely weird and borderline incestuous. By American standards, at least. We only sleep with lovers.

[LotusLotus]

Also in India no one sleeps with parents after growing up and no one cuddles with parents after becoming adult in fact here in India usually adolescent kids not even hug their parents and in India patents and children never ever kiss each other on their lips except on forehead sometimes. Me and my bf first time met in Canada but now he is in his country Pakistan and I don't know about Pakistan's culture so much but I must say that I can surely say there also adolescent kids and aduts don't sleeps with parents.

[LotusLotus]

And in India people sleeps only with their husband and wife not even with boyfriend and girlfriend. In India one boy and one girl can sleep with each other only after their marriage and after entering into adolescence girls and boys can not sleep with their mother and father because boys and girls are allowed lying only with husband/wife on the same bed in the same bedroom otherwise sleep alone and especially boys can not sleep on the same bed his mother, sister and daughter or any female is sleeping and especially girls can not sleep on the bed her father, brother and son or any male is sleeping.

[Takkunlee]

It doesn't matter how much I love the guy, I'd run for the hills. He should probably seek a psychologist to delve into why exactly he feels that this is a healthy behavior for a grown man to engage in.

[sergeykaldov]

There is nothing to prevent him from loving his mother
There is nothing to prevent him from having sex with her
If you love him, help him and accept it, you will find pleasure in it
She may be a single mother and wants a man in her life
Love him, love his mother, and have sex together, there is nothing to prevent that

[findingdreamland]

He is overly attached to his mother. That is not good.
And there is no relation with Islam and sleeping with a mum. How can be >.< lol

[LotusLotus]

It is forbidden in Islam to sleep with parents after growing up and I'm not saying that there is relation with Islam and sleeping with mother. I stated this because some people wanted to know that from which culture we belong that's why I said that. His over attachment to his mother is not good for him or not good for me? If it's not good for him so I would try to stop him but if not then I will not try to stop him and question him because it will make him feel upset, it will be painful for him and I can never ever hurt him I don't want to see him upset ever, even as punishment I burnt my fingers when accidently some words typed by me which had hurt him.

[findingdreamland]

I am a Muslim and I have not came across such a thing. And I don't think it is forbidden either. We just don't do, like many other people.
well overly attachment is not good for you and him. You need to tell. This behavior is not something good for your relationship. He needs to reconsider this habit.
If not, seriously think about leaving. Because this behavior is not a good sign. She will be forever part of your relationship.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

No, it's weird and strange and icky.

[LotusLotus]

What should I do? Am I doing right? What would you do may God forbid if you were in my place, in my condition?

[Born2shine01]

I feel like he is a adult now, he should be sleeping on his own.. who is he going to sleep with when you get married to him? He needs to get his own room.

[LotusLotus]

He will sleep with his mom after our marriage and I will sleep in another room and I know it will be painful for them if I will try to separate them so I won't do it I' not willing to stop them to not to sleep on the same bed because I don't want to hurt him because I love him too much till my last breath.

[Born2shine01]

That's just plain weird...

[Anonymous]

He need to grow up. I use to lay on my mother even as I was grown and sleep cuz I loved her but I don't know anybody who sleeps beside theirs and say it's heaven. All I gotta say to you is don't be no dummy girl 👧

[LotusLotus]

But I love him so much and nothing except his happiness matters and I can die for his happiness so no not even for a second, I'm not able to say or do anything against him so it's not in my control to not be a dummy girl. And yes there's nothing wrong in sleeping in mom's lap, it's good. And yes every night he sleeps with his mom and proudly says that while sleeping with his mom he feels to be in heaven.

[LotusLotus]

My previous comment shows my attitude for him if he was just a momma's boy so I would not breakup with him but now I can not be dummy anymore because I can tolerate his sleeping with his mom but I can not tolerate his bad habits which I confirmed yesterday after our conversation that really he has bad habits of smoking and usually drinking alcohol and he likes to flirt with girls and so many times he had kissed so many girls and now I'm thinking to break up with him and even I warned him about it. If he do net give up his bad habits and bad manner then I would breakup with him.

[smilesarenice]

This isn't real. You aren't normal. This guy isn't normal so you're perfect together. Who would let someone do any of these things and expect another human to put up with it.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

That's weird af. Ole Norman bates lookin ass

[LotusLotus]

What should I do? Should I try to stop him but my heart can not allow me to do this because it will hurt him, it will make him feel upset.. :(

[NExPats12]

I think it's time for his own bed, I'd be questioning their relationship. Please don't take offensive, but his excuse is ridiculous.

[BelleGirl21]

Crap, this is si going to be my son if I don't change things lol

[Levin]

Aww, he just wants a cuddle. I know the feeling :)

[BelleGirl21]

@Levin, there you go being all cute again.

[LotusLotus]

But what should I do? I mean I hope it's not bad for him so I should not stop him doing it because if I will stop him so it will be painful for him, it will make him feel upset. So I just want to confirm. And your son also feels in heaven? Really any miracle happen while sleeping with mom or it is heart's feeling due to love and attachment?

[BelleGirl21]

Ewwwww just ewwww.

[Levin]

Do you like it when I'm cute? or do you prefer it when I'm a womanising bastard?

[BelleGirl21]

@Levin, woah, did you take what I said before to mean womanizing bastard? I'm a little shocked if you did.

[Levin]

tbh it doesn't imply a lack of seriousness with my relationships with women. that they're a means to an end or something.

[Booboo210]

Seem your boyfriend has problems no it not right maybe he is scared to sleep by
his self . He don't want anyone know he a pussy candy ass

[Booboo210]

May I ask do you know that he not fucking his mom or he might not want to give up her tits

[blondfrog]

Sleeping as in sex or just sleeping in the same bedroom?

[LotusLotus]

I only know that he proudly sleeps with his mom but I don't know they love make or not but I can not doubt him and I don't think he love make but it's true that may be they cuddle and he also often hug his mom.

[blondfrog]

I don't see the problem then

[LotusLotus]

You don't see the problem but it's the problem that I can never know they do it or not and I can never ask him about it. If I'll ask him and if I'll try to stop him so he will don't like it, he will be upset and he will be so angry and I don't want to make him upset, angry and embarrassed. Few months before his mom ordered me to burn my fingers as a punishment. I have no idea they love make or not and I can not ask him these types of questions. May be they do it may be they don't. I don't know they love make or not because how can anyone know that who is doin they don't love make but I'm not sure they love make or not. So because I don't know, I can not say they love make or not.

[LotusLotus]

And if they don't love make if they only cuddle but in India even adolescent kids don't cuddle with their parents so if they cuddle so for me it peculiar but if he gets happiness and pleasure doing it, if it makes him happy and makes him feel good, if he enjoys cuddling with his mother and sleeping with his mother so I won't stop him. But it's true in India no one do it and I don't know about his country. I can tolerate everything but his some irreligious bad habits, life styles and thoughts I can not tolerate because I'm so religious and raised in righteous family, yesterday he said to me that he likes smoking, alcohol and flirting with girls and so many times he had kissed so many girls and I warned him to give up his bad habits otherwise I will be compelled to break up with him and he said that he will quit smoking, alcohol and flirting because he don't want to lose me but I did never talk about his habit of sleeping with mother because it is not just his habit but his life.

[LotusLotus]

You don't see the problem but it's the problem that I can never know they do it or not and I can never ask him about it. If I'll ask him and if I'll try to stop him so he will don't like it, he will be upset and he will be so angry and I don't want to make him upset, angry and embarrassed. Few months before his mom ordered me to burn my fingers as a punishment. I have no idea they love make or not and I can not ask him these types of questions. May be they do it may be they don't. I don't know they love make or not because how can anyone know that who is doing what in their bedroom. I think may be they don't love make but I'm not sure they love make or not. So because I don't know, I can not say they love make or not.

[blondfrog]

Wow that's messed up here in America its wrong to and in my country too now come to think of it it is weird cause I don't sleep or cuddle with my mom either. I think they are having sex with each other though it just seems weird that he is that attached to his mother and you should leave him to be honest if he kissed other women while he was with you cause that is cheating.

[singlebee]

Eww... what? he sleeps besides his mother? Seems like he is a momma's boy... its really creepy..
And no its not normal...
And change your age...

[Mesonfielde]

You can't really do that although you can contact support to do it for you

[LotusLotus]

Yes bro he proudly sleeps besides his mom and proudly says that he feels to be in heaven when he sleeps with his mom. What should I do? Should I let him do it forever? Because I don't want to stop him doing something which makes him feel good and I don't want to hurt him by saying his doing wrong. Here some people are saying may be one day he will kill me but he says that even my one tear and sadness makes him faint because of sadness and anxiousness so I don't think he can do it and he is a Muslim and I'm Hindu, I can not even think and imagine this because he is great and seems he really loves me but I would ask can it be love jihad?

[LotusLotus]

And since so many months I had doubt about his some bad habits and his lies but yesterday after talking to him on phone I realzife my doubt are reality actually he himself said that he likes alcohol he likes smoking and he likes flirting and then I warned him to give up his these bad habits forever otherwise I will break up with him, it was the first time I said something like this to him because I can not tolearate any irreligious activity because I'm so religious and has been raised in a righteous family and he promised he will give up his these bad habits because he don't want our breakup but I'm confused I should trust him or not. And yesterday again he said to me to not to befriend with anyone except him and never ever be bride of anyone except him.

[SakuraChii]

It doesn't matter if he's a moma's boy, he's a grown man..

[This_guy_here]

As long as they don't engage in anything beyond plain sleeping, I would not be too worried. He just probably had a bad experience as a child and does not feel safe at night by himself so a wife will also fill those shoes.

If anyone goes with the "ewww", I say... you are the ones who needs to grow the FUCK UP.

[LotusLotus]

Not only plain sleeping, I can say with much surety that they cuddle and people says to me that after my marriage with him, I will be unsafe in his house in my room in night because he will be sleeping in his mom's arm in another room and I will be all alone. And no not all absolutely not, he had never ever any bad experience as a child and he is so much brave he even don't fear death and no matter any bad happening and any accident, he is too much fearless no words to describe how fearless and how brave he is. He is a absolutely Macho man. He had a perfectly normal and very good experience as a child even better than mine. He absolutely don't feel unsafe at night by himself. Really nothing like this.

[LotusLotus]

@This_guy_here So after knowing about his perfect normal and great childhood, so now tell me is it normal?

[This_guy_here]

OK, time to break up then.

[LotusLotus]

Okay I'll try, in fact after asking this question on this website, I talked to him on his number and questioned him about some of his more bad doings. He also likes smoking and likes alcohal which I got to know after few months of our relationship and yesterday after talking him I got to know that he really likes smoking. He even said he had kissed some girls. After talking to my parents, about breakup I'm thinking and even said to him about it yesterday. If it is the only way then after all the attempts I would do it.

[GoldCobra]

Well apparently his gf is a 99 year old doll so yeah. He must be crazy!

[LotusLotus]

My age is not 99, I don't know how by mistake that age selected, sorry :( Please bro now tell is that normal, I'm 6-7 years younger than him. And he daily thousand times says that in the whole world he never ever saw any girl who is more beautiful than me.

[OnceUponADream143]

6 -7 years that would make you about 16 and he's 23? Your a minor...

[LotusLotus]

OnceUponADream143, Yes but we have planned to marry after 4 years.

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is sicko with the whole sleeps with his mother, and not allowing you to talk to other guys. Frankly you are quite pathetic for putting up with that.
It's not normal, and it's certainly not right.

[phanindra554]

Sleeping with mother is not bad but are talking about kiss and so then it is holy shit.

[LotusLotus]

They cuddle while sleeping and people says to me that after my marriage with him, in his house in my room I will be unsafe because he will be sleeping with his mom in his mom's arm and in another room I will be all alone.

[phanindra554]

What makeimg you alone is very wrong if he is your husband then he have to be with yo.
I can understand that he love his mother and everone loves there mother bit this is not fair

[phanindra554]

Her mother has also his husband
Everyone loves to sleep with therhere husband better tontalk with him

[Mr187canada]

https://i.imgur.com/bQQIh5o.jpg
Troll...

[LotusLotus]

No it's not troll.

[Anonymous]

I smell
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[LotusLotus]

NO IT'S NOT TROLL. NO NO NO NO NO NOOOOOO! If you can not help and give any advise then please don't say these things..

[JeanCam]

eh... a little creepy but wahtever

[LotusLotus]

What should I do?

[JeanCam]

well... i think that depends on how much it bothers you. Why don't you question him about that, try to understand as much as you can, then see what issues you have with that and tell him

[JeanCam]

eh.. wait a minute dear, i just read:

"never ever talk to any guy except him and to never ever make any guy my friend even not brother, he wants that no boy except him talk to me and I say that I have not any guy friend and I would never do this and then he says to me that he have beautiful girls as his friends and they every day meets to him"

[JeanCam]

WTF IS THAT? ARE YOU MAD? whatever, it's your life

[JeanCam]

bet... you are 28 and accept such things? you may have a dire problem of self-esteem
(hey i not trying to bullshit you, it's just that it... shocks me a little :) )

[JeanCam]

i did not mean to be harsh, just want to help

[LotusLotus]

Opinion Owner, that thing can not bother me which makes him happy because even I would kill myself for his happiness, nothing more important than his happiness and smile for me, even not my life. And I can not question him about these because it will hurt him and I don't want to hurt him ever in fact one time by mistake some words typed by me which had hurt him and then as a punishment I burnt my fingers.

[JeanCam]

Are you serious? Then i respectfully maintain that you may have a self-esteem problem. Happiness does not come from other people. What do you think?

[LotusLotus]

And I just wanted to know that it is normal and not bad for him, that's why I asked. And I'm so afraid I can not even imagine that may God forbid anything happened with his mother so how tragedic and painful it will be for him so I pray that may God give me death but may never ever anything bad happen to his mom.

[JeanCam]

right... i absolutely can't help you, we are way too much different. Just try to be happy with yourself first, then with others

[LotusLotus]

Yes opinion owner, I'm serious and thanks for your opinions and advices.

[JeanCam]

tell me lotuslotus is he pretty much the only guy you've been with?

[LotusLotus]

Yes Opinion Owner he is even my first friend who is guy he is my first and last love.

[JeanCam]

but i don't understand why he forbids you to see other guys?

[JeanCam]

most couples don't behave this way after all

[LotusLotus]

And not only with any guy in fact anyone, he wants that no one except him talk to me, he desperately wants that I have no friend except him and he wants that except him anyone not even touch me so because of this reason during the festival Holy he feels so stressed, feels anxious about it. He wants that except him no one see me. He always says to me to not to befriend with anyone except him and not to talk to anyone except him. But he says that he have beautiful girl as his friend who daily meet and talk to him to whom today again he have to meet her. I can't understand how can I convince him because he always says to me that he's always too much worried and so afraid that I will become anyone else bride and he always says to me to never ever do this and no matter how much I convince him that these all never ever going to happen, not to worry it will never happen, to be relax but he says he is never ever able to make his this fear away from him and he can never ever be relax.

[LotusLotus]

And he says he can not see me with anyone except him and he says he will murder/kill the one who will try to come between him and his girlfriend ( me ) and I requests him to not to think & talk about killing and I requests him to be relax because that's never going to happen but still he says he will not let him alive and he can not be relax and very aggressively says that if any guy will come then he will definitely kill him murder him and then to make him calm down I try my best to convince him, try to make him believe but that attempts don't work.. I don't know he says it's true and heartly or just flirts but He says that for him he can never ever find any girl beautiful than me and also loving and caring than me and except him my befriending and marriage with anyone else, he will never ever let it happen, he'll destroy everything.

[LotusLotus]

And He says about me that he know I can not do it but still he is always afraid that I will leave him and about lossing me, he always says that he always every second feels too much worried, anxious and too much afraid that he will loss me and he says that he thinks and feels that his fears will make him mad, he will be mad because of his these fears. I don't know what to do? Please any advice?
Some people were saying that one day he may kill me for any matter and he's probably any pyshco and cyco and after seeing him my mom said to me that "he looks cyco, he is good looking but he also looks cyco" and she will be always so afraid that what's he doing with me. Everyone says it but don't know why I don't think so, I think he is just good looking not cyco but it's true usually he looks aggressive. Is he really cyco as everyone says or He's not? Am I right or not?

[LotusLotus]

And everyone says that after my marriage with him, in his house in my room I will be unsafe because he will be sleeping in his mother's arms in another room and I will be all alone. And my mom says that she will be always so worried and anxious that what's he doing with me if I'll stay with him. And sorry I meant that his mother ordered me to burn my fingers as punishment which I thought I should try to do it for her but I did not burn my fingers And people says me to spend some time with his mother before my marriage with my bf but she lives in Pakistan & I don't live there I live in my country so usually we can not meet, seldom I meet to her. And some people also says to me that it can be love jihad so to be careful. And yesterday on our phone conversation my bf told me about his some bad habits which are smoking, liking alcohal, likes to flirt & he had kissed so many girls. And I warned him to give up his all these habits otherwise I'll breakup with him & he promised he won't do it.

[LotusLotus]

And now I'm confused that what to do? After knowing about his real face after seeing his real face now I should trust him or should not trust him anymore. I can tolerate anything but I can never tolearate anything irreligious, any irreligious activity because I'm so religious and I'm raised in a righteous family.

[JeanCam]

i suppose you realize that you are a free being and worth to be happy and be loved by someone who is also confortable with himself, not a.. possesive, insecure and jealous.. freak? :) You don't live in fear do you?

[JeanCam]

i already told you, happiness doesn't come from other, i fear you bf has never mastered that and it's bad for both of you i think

[FantasyGeek05]

i slept with my mom until i was 12..
i had anondonment issues

now i won't dare do it

[SpicedPumpkin]

That is definitely not normal! Very bizarre. Wtf.

[LotusLotus]

What should I do? Should I try to stop him but my heart can not allow me to do this because it will hurt him, it will make him feel upset.. :( And what would you do if it was you in my condition, may never ever this happen with you but just asking.

[SpicedPumpkin]

Oh boy I don't even know :( honestly I would just sit and have a talk with him. Ask him why he does it and if the mood seems right then tell him it makes you uncomfortable. That is just so tough. I don't know what I would do. I would find a way to talk to him without upsetting him. Like I never slept in my parents bed, not as a baby, toddler, or kid. Always my own room. I can't imagine being 23 and sleeping with one of my parents. It would be a turn off for me :(

[SpicedPumpkin]

I do kind of agree with the other people too, it seems a little unsettling because he may have some issues... Be careful :(

[Jack-Shepard]

its kind of creepy to be honest.

[Anonymous]

wow
much proud
too much good
many love

[LotusLotus]

Sis is that normal and right?

[Rocky96]

Not believable, Its not our culture!

[LotusLotus]

It's culture of no where and he folllows Pakistani and Islamic culture but I'm from Bharat and not Muslim.

[LotusLotus]

And we both have not this type of culture and religion in which adult sons and daughters sleeps with parents. Neither in his religion and culture and nor in my religion and culture. It's culture of no where.

[Rocky96]

I am from India, you shouldn't post this type of question. lets not know about us to others such silly things. Honestly are you a BOY/GUY? coz we Indian make fake account that is not good.

[Rocky96]

Don't mind please. Before go to ahead clear about yourself mala /female? If you tell the truth I will guide. But still don't like fake?

[Dreamonyou]

itis not normal ,

[LotusLotus]

So should I stop him?

[cmale123]

i remember slept next to my uncle till like 10. if you think carefully if its was his sister or brother that he sleep next to. what you would think. In the other country that fine. i think he sleep with his mother is not ok though because it prove that not man you can relies on. do you want a boy or man?

[Booboo210]

Yes Yes Yes stop him now

[Strider90]

I can't believe this is still here...

[Rachael98]

That's very odd

[miserybusiness]

What a Mama's boy.

[Z1pTD]

No. . .

[2014raser]

WHAT. THE. CRAP.

[bananatossing]

lol Troll thread.

[LotusLotus]

If you can not understand my feelings it does not mean it's troll thread.. What if you were at my place!