Can you girls deal with a boyfriend photographer?

[Rafael151]

I've had two girlfriends who had difficulty with me shooting photos of other women. One couldn't stand it at all and that was partly why we split. Does it matter if that is what the man was doing before you met? One famous glamor photographer had his wife helping to run the business. They've been married 60 years. Are such women still out there?

[Gigi90]

I've been dating my boyfriend 3 years, he's a photographer since before I met him , but he didn't use to do fashion photography at all. He does some now and I feel I can't handle it. Im a very insecure girl I'm afraid even when he always tell me I'm beautiful. When he gets paid for it I dont complain , just get kind of upset and accept it, but last time was for fun , and ignored all my messages from the day before just to dont tell me he was shooting the day after. He knows its dificult for me to deal with this situation, I'm trying hard but when he told me that I felt really bad. I love him so much I can't really think about breaking up with him, but I got the feeling that this its becoming dificult for we both , for me because of what you already read, for him Probably because he must feel like I'm sort of banning him? From what he loves (I've never told him to not do fashion or whatever he wants) and not even show me pictures now of what he shoots, there are things that happens with the time. But anyway! What you said about the wife helping the photographer husband and being together for 60 years was lovely, the problem is I'm becoming a doctor and propably I'll have to split between being a doctor and an photography assistant // wich I already do in fact , for me its very important to be in the shooting I have lots of imagination, so to look how they really work its the best I can do for not getting mad (and help of course)

[blygreene]

Pfft! Yes! Women are still out there! I'm living with my boyfriend in his apartment. Officially but also keep my old apartment which my roommate started a gallery on the ground floor. Next month I am hosting a Nyotaimori dinner, also referred to as body sushi or food art. I have four different models, for different chefs and four different courses, only one traditional in the name of Sushi! My boyfriend so happens to be a chef but he is indifferent to the nude models I will use as a plate. All of my friends are men too. He is comfortable with that and if it was any other way then it was not meant to be. I am faithful! I do admit to sleeping in male friend beds if I stay out late. Usually because we get wrapped up in some debate. My male friends respect my boyfriend, likewise, I respect my relationship. Of course there are times when I can't fall asleep and want nothing more to be next to my mate. I even feel bad sometimes but then I stop myself because that is who I am. A friend of mine is a friend and there is a difference regardless of sexual orientation. I am proud that I can say this is possible.

[Rafael151]

Thats encouraging to hear. It sounds like you have it great. It will be interesting to see how many others can say that.

[blygreene]

Try reverse psychology? 1/8 of the inspiration is to include my boyfriend who knows food is art, take food outside of its context. Weary. Very frustrating! However, he is quite excited now by his "participation" Perhaps this would be harder to do so if food was not involved, yet, it does show that bringing a weary partner into your bubble for a moment, giving them something to do from their job that they apply in your work may result in a greater appreciation.

[ALWAYSclassy]

I don't care if he did it before we met, but I would not date a guy who currently was a glamor photographer. That's just too much temptation and I would get jealous and insecure. Plus I would assume that he's been or tried to get with a girl at least once.

[Rafael151]

If he's a glamor photographer and he's into you, why would you automatically assume that? Why does having a camera and an eye for beauty make him a player? What if he says you can come by the studio any time? And he likes to shoot you too?

[ALWAYSclassy]

I would be insecure about it.

He might not be a player, but if you're my man I am not going to tolerate him taking pictures of naked women. He's still a man with natural hormones just like anyone else. I'm sure he gets turned on by them. I wouldn't date him for him to say I could come by the studio any time, I would be way too uncomfortable with that situation.

[amanning]

I can relate to this. I've only been dating this photographer for 6 weeks, so jealousy is yet to take shape, though I have my own insecurities. I do have 2 concerns. Ladies & guys out there, please do what you can to help, it's scary going through this!

1 - I'd love some good photos as a singer. He's REALLY good. He said, "I'm not shooting you for free, you can't get away with free stuff in life." Which kinda hurt. Why?

2 - He has too much patience. Never chases, but is very nice! What do I do?