If a girl wants to be friends first, how do you transition from friend to eventual boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So this girl I've been sorta dating is a real slow type of girl. She wants to be friends first and then see where things just naturally go from hanging out, spending time together, etc. I know people say that if you get stuck in the friend zone your doomed, but for this situation there is no other choice. I've been told by her brother and others that's just the type of person she is and I like her enough to give it a shot. What I'm wondering is at what point should I try to make it more, to attempt the crossover from friend to boyfriend or at least friends to dating... I've gone out on a couple dates with her in a month but we're both really busy and I know we both like spending time with each other. I just know for a fact she doesn't like to be rushed into labeling things...

[thetheme]

When a girl says this it's best to just move on. Being "friends" first is never the way the go. This is a way of her saying that she isn't attracted to you sexually. Don't chase her because she will get her kicks from that and turn you down even more. Attraction comes natually, you can't force it. If she hasn't felt it for you now she never will, especially if you are always next to her or always there. Moving on not only saves you from the friend zone, but it gives you your power back, keeps your self respect, and you would have a chance to be with another girl that will appreciate your worth. Don't talk to her anymore, don't text, no e-mails, nothing.

[caveman8]

"...but for this situation there is no other choice"

Yes there was, you should've just walked away - "that's not good enough for me, thank you very much".

But now that you showed her that you will jump through her hoops, she knows that she can call all the shots and you'll just settle for whatever she wants.

[micgirl]

Sound like she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and only wants to be friends at the moment. A kiss changes things so if you were to make an attempt to kiss you back then perhaps she likes you but if she doesn't and turns you down then perhaps she's not that into u. Then again you can always ask her how she feels about you that way you will have a clear answer.

[Gregs]

read my story "passing women's tests" I'm my profile, parts 1 and 2, in 2 there is a section about "lets just be friends"