Why do some women always have to have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

What I mean is how come some women feel the need to never go more than a week being single?

I've known a few women that were this way. One woman in particular I knew at my old work straight up told me she was just dating her current boyfriend for the summer because she didn't know anybody else.

What are some of the real reasons women do this? I would love to hear from some women on this topic.

[Robertgc]

My philosophy over this topic is simple this: Woman are social creatures, or at least the majority is. The extremely social ones tend to feel the need for a companion. This may satisfy one of two needs:

1) Security:

Having a boyfriend(even if there is no chemistry) is like having cheat codes for a game. It gives you an upper hand with many things. He provides her with food, shelter, money, socialization, and therefore security.

2)The Social Hierarchy:

As many have noticed, woman tend to form cliques. Inside these cliques there is a social ladder that consists of one alpha and her let's say, "minions". Having a boyfriend separates you from your clique and give power the her. Because of this power, she gains rank among her clique eventually becoming the alpha. It also drives out the fear of rejection among friends and makes her feel like another person depends on her.

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[LittleMissGriff]

This is a common trait of 'desperate women'. They define themselves by the arm they're hanging off of and have no self-confidence of their own. In their mind, a girl is only validated if she has a man, therefore, without a man, she has no worth. It's similar to the girl who bounces from guy to guy, leaving them chasing after her. Both are to give themselves proof SOMEONE wants them. It's not a good idea to become involved with these sorts of girls because they will invade your life, smother you, and then be the 'crazy-ex' when you finally can't take it anymore.

[BooDestroyer]

But then, how do you actually get into a relationship?

Women don't have to put so much effort into getting to know a guy and then go from there. But guys have to do all this work for it and put so much effort into actually getting into a relationship. Women just do nothing but look pretty for guys.

[LittleMissGriff]

Ask around. Go with your gut. Learn from experience. I can pick out these type of girls in five minutes flat without a saying a word to them because I don't want to be their friend any more than you want to be their boyfriend. You just listed a major trait. If the girl is never without a boyfriend, ever, she's likely not in it for the relationship, but for the attention. If every dramatic even she talks about paints her as the poor, helpless victim, it's bullsh*t, particularly if you just met.

[SociallyInept]

Probably because they're desperate. If I were in a relationship it would be because of a stupid reason like that. I'd be in a relationship with that person because I wanted to be.

But like I said before

they're probably have self-esteem issues and can't feel beautiful when they're not in a relationship, and desperate too

[ravenlily318]

What SociallyInept said. Most of the time it's because some girls are insecure about themselves and believe the only way to feel secure/comfortable is to have a boyfriend, someone who validates their existence. Also, just having a boyfriend kind of elevates your social status, both in your inner circle and out I suppose.

[SavingHer]

I agree with sociallyinept as well as ravenlilly.

I'm usually alone most of the time and it takes a while for me to date someone. I'm not the type of girl to be with someone just because someone else is dating or something silly. It's being happy with someone that's important but also being happy with oneself. Not allowing some guy to make her happy or just to do it for a title.

[Anonymous]

I like it because with the title it makes me feel secure knowing that the guy isn't seeing anyone else at the same time he's seeing me. Makes me feel special to know that he's really into me. Therefore I don't have trust issues, and always question him about stuff. Also it makes me know that he's not going to leave so I can focus on myself without distractions of meeting other guys.