That is very sad to read. I can only imagine how painful it would be to have that happen. It is hard to say what happened but since you were together for only a few months and live far apart, he may have enjoyed the initial fun and spark but then found the effort to stay together was too much. Unfortunately, he may have met someone local.
Oh, and I disagree with those that say you tried too much contact. Any decent person would respond to an initial contact. That he is refusing to talk to you again and again shows me he is completely done with this and 100% afraid of any confrontation so he will not give you the courtesy of saying he does not want to see you again.
I really cannot relate to people who cannot give a call to someone they dated to just say, hey, I am sorry but I don't want to continue this. I have never gone cold on someone, even if we just went on one date. I think it is amazingly cowardly.
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You think he's gonna tell you that he loves you after a few months?
Maybe you're more into him than he is into you. Did he tell you that he told his friends and family about you or did you happen to hear it from them? How long has it been since you sent those messages and couple of texts?
From your info, I take it he was supposed to meet you this weekend? It's now Monday, and you've left a couple of texts, three messages, AND a few emails? Wow. A bit overkill, don't you think?
Assuming nothing happened to the guy, I can't help but think you were into him way more than he was you and he may be one of those types that just leaves without notice. Maybe you came off too clingy and he headed for the hills?
There's really not much info considering the story you gave is really one sided. :/
I have to agree with the other female in that you overdid it by trying to contact him so many times. He knows how to get in touch with you and will if he wants to.
Did he just tell you he told his friends and family about you? Maybe he didn't really.. I dunno. I don't know the guy. Has he ever come to see you?
The biggest problem I can see is the distance. It's one thing to continue a relationship if someone moves away, but to start a relationship out long distance would take too much work for me to want to pursue it seriously.
MIA is a military expression: Missing In Action. (during war operations)
If he's fighting in Afghanistan to protect American interests there you can't hold a grudge if he's MIa: it'sceraily not his wish.
I have no freaking idea. Honestly, are you sure he's ok? Are you sure you didn't say anything the last time you met that might have worried him?
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The only possible scenarios I can think of are:
He had a girlfriend and was stringing you along
He had an ex girlfriend that he got back into contact with
His feelings for you got too strong too fast and he got scared
Let him be for a little while and play it cool. If things were as great as you say they were then I am sure he WILL call you again, I am sure of it!Are you feeling a bit more into him because he does this? good. because this is his intention
Sorry, but I think he has other girlfriends.
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