No there is nothing WRONG with this type of family, and it can work perfectly fine if both partners want it that way, but it isn't quite natural.
Now, I am not saying that the wife shouldn't have a job to provide additional income or that the man shouldn't be spending time with his kids. I'm just saying that, as far as roles of the family go, it is easier and works better for the man to be the breadwinner and the girl to be the stay at home mom. Men tend to get bored if they don't work, and while there definitely won't be time for boredom when raising children, a man is more inclined feel like he should be doing more or is not fulfilling his purpose. A girl can feel this way as well, obviously, but in the large majority girls, especially mothers, not only prefer to, but are better suited at both holding down the house and caring for children in a stay at home way. This is never meaning that she is inferior. Both the breadwinner and the stay at home mother have very important roles in the family, and most fathers of grown children will tell you that it was his wife that raised the kids as well as she did, and he could never have done it. Working full time to appease your family's financial needs puts a lot of stress on the breadwinner that just isn't as hard to take as a man who has been raised to take on this role throughout his life, and raising children full time puts a lot of a different kind of stress on the mother that is just easier for her to take because of what she is, and how she was made. Both roles serve an important purpose, and I believe that keeping the man as the breadwinner and the girl as the stay at home mother just simply works better in a family.
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While I don't think there is anything wrong with reversing traditional gender roles, I do think it is important to understand that there are reasons they exist, and also that there are cultural implications that exist outside of the family structure.
For example, a stay-at-home dad might feel emasculated being supported by his partner, and would almost certainly be on the receiving end of jokes from friends and family.
On the other hand, modern society has only very supportive views about women in either role.
A decision like this would have to be made with consideration for earning potential of each partner, the disposition toward housework and childcare of each, and level of trust and dependancy tolerance in the relationship.
My dad tried working at home making only supplemental income for a few years when us kids were young, and it definitely created some issues for my parents.
That’s what my parents situation is. My mum has always been the breadwinner, though my dad used to work tough jobs at first he eventually had to drop it because he hurt his back and couldn’t do same jobs anymore so he became a house dad instead which was fine because he loves cooking and working in the garden, and I was very sick at the time while in school so he took care of me.
Personally I think people should just do whatever works best for them in their family. If female bread winner and house dad or vice versa works for them then good for them, and if switching around the responsibilities work for them then good for them too. You should work with everyone’s personal strengths and weaknesses. There is no specific roles that works best for everyone.
I believe that someone should stay at home to care for the home and the kids. I'm a strong believer that this situation is best for the overall success of a family AND marriage. People always forget about the marriage aspect in this.. 😒 In today's day and age it's a lot to ask a specific gender to stay home. Men being the househusbands is the next best thing and is still better than both parents working. I do think that women should be the ones to stay home especially in the first year of a baby. I've read about husbands staying home during this year and I just wonder how the baby is being fed if the mom is the breadwinner during this time?
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I`m actually for it, I`ve always wanted to work but if I ever have kids I want them to have a parent at home. That kind of relationship is ideal for me.
I know three families like that. Where the woman works and the guy takes care of the kids. I don't think it was intentional. The women's careers were just more successful and so when they had children it just seemed natural. I wouldn't be want to do it but I can see how it's beneficial for them. I work in the non-profit/ social work field tho so I'll never make enough to be the primary breadwinner.
For the first few years I don't think it's a good idea, mainly because I think that babies should be breast-fed. Some people say that she could pump milk but the milk supply, thickness, antibodies in the milk from the Mother to fight off bugs etc. all respond to the baby in a way that they don't respond to a plastic pump, so that usually means lower quality milk and not enough milk. It's not a realistic option most of the time if you understand how it works.
Later on though I can't see it being a bad thing. In the younger years children need their Mothers more, but as they get older they need their Fathers to be more involved. And if the Mother can afford to provide for the family then it's no problem.I was raised to believe that a man always has to be working and providing for the family. The money he makes belongs to the family.
I was also taught that this doesn't say anything about the women in the family. They can work, but any money they make ultimately only belongs to themselves. They don't have to put it towards the family unless they want to, since it's the man's job to work for the family.
So I guess in this case, I believe in Stay at Home Dads as long as they're also trying to make a living (there are work at home jobs), and I see nothing wrong with the Mom in the family working and supporting the family (if it's her choice to do that with her money) as long as the Dad is at least contributing something to it.To each their own. I don't care what others do and don't look down on men who choose to be house-husbands. As far as being in that type of relationship; as long as he actually performs the duties of a house-husband (cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids), and as long as I can support us both, I wouldn't mind being in one.
Honestly I would prefer if we both worked. But if there was a situation where this would happen in the future well then it won't happen 😅 that's the whole point. But I can very honestly say that I will definitely be working. I cannot be a stay at home mother. Although very noble and extremely sacrifical I don't want that in my life. My significant other may or may not wish to do that, it doesn't matter. Although I would prefer if he/she worked as well.
Um... I guess though I would prefer if it was more equal. With the mum and dad both working and sharing the child care and housework and all that. I would prefer that the father and mother work no later than 6pm. So they can both come home and take care of things. For example if mother does housework on Monday, Father takes care of child on Monday. Then the next day swap over.
This is my family. It used to be traditional, but my dad became disabled in 2010 and my mom had to start working.
Still like this now, and we have all of our needs met so I'm happy :D
personally I want to work and have a working husband.A good friend of mine is the stay at home dad after being the breadwinner in a job that burnt him out. I didn't vote for any option above, as I think 'I see nothing wrong with them' should have been a choice.
I wouldn't mind being the breadwinner, and my SO being a stay at home dad. If he didn't want to, I'd take maternity leave , but then I'd go back to work. I wouldn't give up my career all together after having kids.
it depends on the couple. it might work really well for some, not too well for others. personally... i would love a fairly 50/50 set up where we both work and we both take care of the house and children.
I agree, it's totally fine if that's what works for your family. But I know I'd much rather be a stay at home mom when the time comes. I'm just very passionate about childcare (I've worked as a nanny and also as a daycare worker) so I honestly can't wait until I can raise my own kids. If we can afford it, of course.
I voted for the first option primarily because I have a career that I like that I'd rather not give up for the sake of a relationship. If a relationship demanded that I give up my job, I'd consider it as a temporary solution, but I still see myself as my career.
I've seen it work and I've seen people who would rather it that way. My mother likes to go out and work because it keeps her out of trouble and she likes a guy who likes to cook and clean. Let's just say she's always worn the pants in her relationships.
Stay-at-home dad maybe but I had a stay-at-home husband and it was not good! He refused to get a job and I supported him for 10 years.
I wouldn't mind it that much, but I would prefer at least contributing to the finances in some type of career. If it was $2000 a month, at least, It'd be something.
In my career, unless I find an official job working for someone else, and it actually pays decently, I will probably be in that situation quite a bit - provided I ever get married or get into a long term relationship. I'd rather at least work from home and make some sort of financial living.
I am completely fine with it, but I would rather both of us split if possible, at least after the first year. I do not know how either parent can be 100% stay at home without going insane. I'd lose it either from stress of being the sole provider, or from having no life outside the home with a screaming kid. I would much rather an equal split IF possible.
When I have to leave in the morning and say "good-bye" to my girlfriend and our kids - and I think of all the little things that I miss (first day of school, some new discovery they find in the backyard, etc), I envy the stay at home dad.
No complaints, but it is hard to know the things that you are missing when you leave the house. Not doubting that the "stay at home" parent does not have hard work - but they get some nice rewards on the other hand that I miss and will never get back.I don't have a problem with them and I'd be fine with being in one if I could realistically support the family on my wages.
If they can work it out, then that's totally fine. However, depending on what country you are in, sometimes it's necessary for both of them to have a job in order to make ends meet.
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