I'm surrounded by guys at least 5 days per week, 8 hours per day. It's only normal that I have a lot of male friends. I have no romantic interest in any of them. Yes, some of them are attractive, but that does not mean I'm actually going to sleep with them. I find a lot of my female friends attractive, too, but I don't sleep with them because they are my friends.
I've gone out with male friends, gotten drunk with them, slept over at their place,... and nothing have ever happened or has even come close to happening because we're literally just good friends. Hell, I've gone to one of them in the middle of the night to comfort him because his relationship ended and NOTHING HAPPENED. It's not because you're both heterosexual that you cannot be close friends without being more. No one thinks two lesbians or bisexual women can't be just friends.
So of course men and women can be friends, it would be very weird if they couldn't.
Most definitely. I had the best guy friend ever that was like a brother to me. He passed away in March. And it’s probably the hardest thing I went through.. ever. But anyway having a Friendship with a guy is always great because you can talk to them about certain things you can’t talk about with a girl friend.
Ofc, there a just some people who are great as friends and r male, not coz they've been friendzoned but coz they're cool and not looking for a relationship. U can also be friends with ur partner as well. But in non-sexual relations I don't see why not.
Sure, but it's quite difficult when boundaries aren't immediately established.
The problem happens when there is initial interest between both parties and things like sex and romance happens and then it fades in one person and that one person (usually the female in my experience both based on questions asked here and in real life) expects a downshift to platonic friendship.
This leaves the one that still has feelings in an awkward position where they either have to suffer through unrequited love (super painful when the other person actually has someone in their life that they ARE now into) or they move on, in which case the other person is usually pretty upset about it.
This happened to me recently and I chose to remain friends for as long as I could but I just had to put a stop to it recently.
Why is this questions asked every day? Just yesterday there was another question like this. Of course men and women can be friends, even if they find each other attractive. I would not consider dating someone just because they are attractive and I would not have sex with my friends without marriage.
Why do people get offended by seeing this question? I haven't seen it yet but everyone keeps annoying me. If you've already answered such a question then just ignore mine.
I personally think the question is a little bit off. Can you establish and maintain a friendship by someone you might (eventually or not) be sexually attracted to?
I think you can if you try. They can make great and caring friends. Of course it is the same for males, but females are more how to say it.. Sensitive, emotional. Women can at times give you the support you just need at the time where as men can't do it as good as them and same for other situations where men can help out better purely out of their personality and characteristics. (Yes I know it is quite a bit of generalizing. Just to make a point).
Yes. I met my best friend when I was 14. Our freshman year of high school. We’re almost 24, so it’s been 10 years of friendship. We’ve slept in the same bed before during one of our road trips and he divided the bed with pillows saying to stay off his side. Lol. Our senior year, during truth or dare, we were dared to kiss and it was pretty gross, afterwards we agreed to not talk about it and admitted that it almost felt like kissing a sibling. Don’t get me wrong, he’s attractive and when he looks nice, I pretend to flirt with him. And he does the same to me. But it doesn’t mean anything. We like to hype each other up. And to be honest, I think guys make better friends than girls. They give awesome relationship advice. Lol
I have a childhood friend whose a guy and we were pretty close but never intimate. We never had the problem of emotions being more than platonic simply cause we were never attracted to each other. His not gay (as far as I know) and Im into guys so its not that. We just weren't into each other.
I don't have to believe in it, because I do have male friends. And honestly, I don't know a single person IRL who doesn't have several friends of the same sex. The only place I ever encounter people who are doubtful of same-sex friendships, is on the internet. I have a hunch why that is...
I'd say mostly yes but depending on the person. I have a female friend whom I met when she was dating my best friend. Times we were almost better friends than me and my buddy. But that line was never crossed because that's just how it was. Other girls there's been times where it started out as a friendship but feelings developed and that took the feeling farther than a friendship could allow, yet going back to that simple friendship again seemed impossible
Over the years, I have gained so many female friends. From Elementary school to middle school and even high school. I've had a female friend since 7th grade and nothing weird has happened between us. I have 10 female friends currently and nothing is weird between any of us. Weirdly, I have more female friends than I do male friends🤔.
I think men and women can be friends. However, it's not easy and it really depends on the situation. If both friends are single and have any level of attraction to each other that goes beyond platonic, then most likely there will eventually come a dilemma that will complicate (and even end) the friendship. If there's no physical attraction at all, then the friendship should be just fine. I may be wrong though.
If it's two people one on one hanging out and hanging out together regularly then no. There is a reason it's only them hanging out and not in a big group of friends they also invited, they specifically want only to be in the presence of that other person.
Nah. My best friend of 10 years have gone on road trips, vacations, etc together with it being just me and him and it has never been romantic between us. He’s like the guy version of me. He’s told me I’m not his type and he’s not my type either. We don’t hang out with a big group all the time either mostly because we find the same people annoying. Lol. But wanting to be in the presence of someone, doesn’t mean you want to romantically be with them.
@Vflores1994 see, I'd have to be with that person. Who you described sounds like the perfect mate for me. Similar interests, ways of thinking, comfortable with one another, the female version of me! Sounds like heaven.
The reason I could never be with my best friend is because he’s exactly ME. Lol. He’s hard headed/stubborn, he hides his emotions, and I’m exactly like that. I need someone that’s the opposite of that. Plus, me and my best friend have never had the type of chemistry that you would need for a relationship. He feels like family.
I don't think falling for your friend and wanting to express your love sexually is misogynist. It's normal behavior, you find someone attractive who makes you happy. Why would you not have sexual desires for them? Just because they think about sex does not mean the sex is for a selfish and dishonorable cause. It could be because they care for their friend and want to be more than just friends. More than friends with benefits even.
@SirRexington I said, if a man says “there is no way I can have a female friend; I only approach them for sex or romance” that is misogynistic. If you get to know a girl in order to hop in bed with her, that’’s misogynistic. That’s just how it is.
Yes, but attraction can develop, so you need to be extra careful in some cases how you relate to each other. One female friend and I are very careful never to be alone together in private because we both know there is attraction.
I mean.. Gay people exist.. So that's a friendship with 100% no complications of feelings if a gay guy and a lesbian become friends. As for straight people, yeah, they can be friends too. It doesn't really matter tbh.
Everyone I know in a relationship gay or straight have there moment where they rather put a front on to make everyone else think that they're life must b perfect but they still broken behind closed doors
No. Eventually one of them or both will develop feelings and even when they don't, the possibility is really high that something will happen when they're alone together.
It always turn into love... I've never heard of cases where male and female or just friends. They always have at least one sexual encounter. Same for male male and female female
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