My friends rarely/never ask me to hang out... does it mean they don't like me?

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People say im friendly & got a good sense of humour... Yet my friends never ask me to go out to places with them, They go out without me :/ I ask someone else about it and they said: "maybe they're jealous of you or they think you wouldn't be interested, cos i see nothing wrong with you, you're a nice person Keziah" I dunno what to do! Its so frustrating!! Im friendly towards everyone i meet, unless they're a downright asshole or bully. Have you experienced this before? What's your opinion? :)

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

If I were you I would let the friendships die with whoever it feels one-sided with and keep socializing with people who treat you well and reciprocate interest.

Also they don't sound like real friends if they are asking questions like "why are you talking to her?" and "so I hear that your friends with Keziah? How come?" A true friend wouldn't question that. It sounds like they are fishing for drama and friendships with other people bother them. What do they care? It's very possible this stems from jealousy or some Of course you are allowed to be friends with whoever you want. If you're still in high-school unfortunately there is going to be a lot of BS like this and you will have to rise above it.

I feel for you. I haven't had much luck with hanging out with people lately either. The ones who are the most interested are the same ones who want sex which I'm just not into right now.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When I was in high school I had similar problems. Some of that was because most of my friends didn't get along with each other. More of it was because everyone was weirdly protective of me though, and didn't want me to be around some of the things that they do with their friends at parties, such as drinking and violence.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

Yeah I've experience problems with certain groups
of people accepting me , like for example my Late moms
brother was all for his wife's side of the family and not for
his sisters side of the family, like there was many Christmas
eve parties we weren't invited and if we went none of us felt
in place to be there cause no one would talk to us yes it hurts
to be singled out by people.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

when they've asked in the past how many times have you declined? Sometimes people leave people out of things not born of any malice they just don't think they want to be included.

hhues · Answer

When I was in school, I floated between a lot of crowds and never got invited to much outside of entire class events. When I asked about it a few years later, I found out it was because since I was in all groups, I didn't really belong in one! I had tons of friends, but no best friends. People liked talking to me, but it always just happened when we ran into each other, neither of us ever reached out to each other outside of school.

They always told me that if I wouldve asked or if I wouldve texted anyone at any point, I wouldve been invited to more things. They always thought I would be busy because I talked to so many other people!!

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Mhmm... mostly with former female friends when I was younger. They usually assumed I wouldn't be into what they were doing or where they were going, so they didn't invite me with them. Which I guess was... nice of them? (Usually they were right, I wasn't into some of the same things they were, lol)
But at the same time, it annoyed me to be left out or them doing things without me considering I was their "friend."

Eventually I outgrew most of them anyway since we didn't really have much in common or they proved they weren't really my friends so... yeah.
You might want to assess if those people really your friends, or just using you and just claiming to be your friends.

FreshOutaIdeas · Answer

It's like everyone else is saying, they aren't really friends and are most likely jealous of you - whatever their reasons for being jealous are irrelevant.

I've had so much of that myself that you soon begin to realise that it's probably your own qualities that outshine those around you. Just be who you are and I'm sure you'll stumble across people that are more like minded.

ColoradoKid · Answer

Why on earth are people not wanting to be friends or ask why people are friends with you? I would be your friend no matter what. A few exceptions aside being that if you abused children or the elderly. Every thing else is not a problem for me. If you can accept me for what I like and who I am. I love to wear heels and paint my toenails I have also found that I love to wear yoga shorts and pants around the house. Most people think that I am gay and they dislike me because of what I like to wear. If anyone can accept me then I will be happy to be their friend. If not then I will leave them as they were.

roryror2010 · Answer

First this happened to me also people didn't invite me, but you know i stopped that from annoying me, if they don't want me then im better without their company.
Second you seem like you are too friendly with your friends that it makes them jealous and a piece of advice: don't put too much thoughts in people don't deserve it.
Good luck.

Pinay_ako · Answer

How often do you ask them to hang out? Maybe they're also wondering the same thing about you... Initiate to hang out with them. Also maybe they think you don't share the same interests as them and they don't want you to feel bored when they're doing their thing...

Poppykate · Answer

Sweetie, you sound a little... stressed? For a lot of your questions, you seem to be stressing about this or that. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming for some people, especially when they have their own stuff to deal with. You need to relax and just chill a little! If you don’t get invite, that’s ok. Make your own fun. Do your own thing. But take a deep breath and relax. You will be fine. And everything will work out for the best! Best of luck

Ciscoin · Answer

A relationship goes both ways, romantic or otherwise. I'll ask that you forgive me for being preseumptuous, but do you ever ask them to hang out, or do you wait to be invited? If you express interest in them by offering first, they will be more willing to do the same for you.

emmily2396 · Answer

They are either busy or not real friends. I am in a similar situation. One is always busy, i know this because if i ask her out she makes an effort. Even if she doesn't feel well, she still agrees. The one that is not interested will always have an excuse.

Alice2398 · Answer

I've always had this too. Maybe bring it up or start organising hang outs your self and if they still aren't interested it's probably time to find new friends. You seem nice and your still at that age were it's not too difficult to make friends maybe start talking to new people at college, gym, work were ever you go.

Burgerboy21 · Answer

I know this feeling all too well. (At least I do now post-college.)
All my not many friends:
1. Live too far away since we met in college, and/or
2. Are often busy with and/or tired from work and/or classes.
So I've been trying to initiate conversations more often.

DivineMatriX · Answer

I had an ex with the same problem😑 like nobody liked her but she was pretty and the nicest human being on the planet. I think it might be jealously or a past grudge held against you which would be very immature on there part. Just fimd some new friends🙂 and most importantly focus on you! Have a great day

Tornado_ · Answer

If they don't like that you have more than one group of friends then they are either jealous of you or assume you are busy doing stuff with other friends so why ask you

Try organising things yourself, if they are your friends they should go.

If this doesn't work they probably aren't your friends

UrsTrulyKrish · Answer

Why to wait?
You Plan for a movie or hill station or any other places
& Invite your friends at least 3
But don't spend whole money
Friendship is all about sharing
Every month we plan for a place like hill stations, beach, etc.
We share everything equally.
That's the reason we still have no problem.
If your frnds didn't come with you then you've to ask your frnds what's the problem?
Don't be rude ask casually

WindowLicker · Answer

Did you turn 18 recently or am I making that up? If you did, happy birthday. If you didn't, no happy birthday 🤚

PrincessFluffy · Answer

Its pretentious friends and if they were real friends they would of invited you to join them, I know gow it feels I had a group of friends who only knows me when the need help or need something, but never invites to hang out. Instead of having a tone of friends just find that good one friend.

AidenRich · Answer

I often feel like this myself and go through the same troubles and sweetheart all I can say is you do you. Only you'll ever make yourself happy, if you ever wanna hang out with people ask them and if people want to be involved with you they'll make the effort too. It's fine to have expectations like that.

DrHonesty · Answer

You're probably too pretty. You intimidate them. They don't want someone far superior than them, it feels awkward. Go find some prettier girlfriends and hang out with them instead.

Paris13 · Answer

Yes... Even with Family. You and Me? We Deserve Better... xxoo

amaranthblossom · Answer

This is me. I'll ask to go hang out with someone but they'll be too busy. Whenever someone asks me to hang, it's to go out to eat or something that I can't afford. So eventually I stopped giving and receiving invites.

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