Why does my boyfriend of 3 years treat me like crap?

[Anonymous]

i've been with my boyfriend for three years now, we are both 23 and we have 2 kids together, a 4 year old and a 1 year old. we live in Texas currently with his parents.. I am from north Carolina but have been in Texas since I got with him, and I have no family here. I don't have a job because I stay home with our kids while he works. I don't have my license or a car, so just leaving is a complicated thing for me because I have to call my mom and see if anyone from nc is willing to come get me and the kids.. here is how my life is, I do anything and everything my boyfriend asks me to do but no matter what its never good enough, he talks down to me and lately I feel like he don't care for me at all. he makes me feel like trash, I'm miserable while I am living here in his parents house mostly because his mom don't like me and never will because he's Mexican and I'm white... he's a big mamas boy and he was raised that the woman bows down to the man, but that ain't me I would never do something 4 a guy just because he said so, until I got with him, and I told him this before we got together, I do everything for him now because I love him and I'm just trying 2 avoid the argument. he gets mad 4 everything. like 2nite we were just talking and he blows up on me because he says I do everything half ass and I said that's only because you compare everything I do 2 your mom, and he gets pissed talking bout if I think I'm wasting my time and if I want him 2 send me somewhere, I really don't wanna leave him I love him and my kids need their daddy, but I eventually want to be happy... anyone got any advice?

[eatmymochi]

Giiirllllllllll, you do not need that type of BS in your life! You are the mother of his two kids and that's more then enough reasons why he should treat you right. No woman needs that BS in their life. Your still young! If this guy won't treat you right someone else will... and that's what you have to let him know. Because this guy is treating you like this because he knows you can't leave him. Your living in his world with no license and bascially dependending on him... all the power goes to him and he knows this. He knows you can't just take the kids and leave. But you have to prove him wrong and just leave... I know this is a lot harder becaause he is the father of your two children... I'm pretty sure when you start making moves on leaving him... he will change. This guy is obviously taking you for granted... people don't know what they have until its gone... I know you love him but just teach him a little lesson... if he really loves you he won't let you leave... and if you do leave he will come chasing you... let him chase you... Don't be afraid of making changes... You can do it... if you don't no one can. only you can help yourself..

And his mother needs to realize this is the 2011 and this is america! not mexico! US WOMEN DONT NEED TO BOW DOWN TO NO MEN! DOES SHE NOT KNOW THERE WAS ABOUT TO BE A WOMEN PRESIDENT?!? THINGS ARE CHANGING...SHE OVBIOUSLY NEEDS A REALITY CHECK. Just don't be afraid... if you don't leave him he will continue to treat you like sh*t... just remember if he isn't the one then he isnt.. don't force it, don't make excuses by saying he is the father of my kids... I understand you want your kids to have their father but your kids can't be in a house hold where the father treats there mother like sh*t. trust me it will be a disfunctional family... and you will not be happy.. I'm sorry for the kids but he needs to change first.

your young, there are a lot of other fishys in the sea... no one should live their life being treated like that..

good luck xoxo!

[LisaLeigh777]

Look, you're young and you have your beautiful children and a wonderful life ahead of you!! If you stay with him I guarantee he WILL get worse! He's controlling you by putting you down, demeaning you because he has low self esteem! Y
Sounds to me lik you're being emotionally and psychologically abused by a guy that's not worth it, even when it comes to your children! You don't want them to grow up in a home where their father is abusing their mom in front of them, because eventually the verbal abuse will turn physical and most violent acts occur in front of the children! Men have even killed their wives and girlfriends in front of the kids!!
In fact, violence escallates in front of children!
Please, do yourself and your children a favor, think of finding a way out, because one day you'll wonder why you stayed and you will hate him!!
Run from that coward and don't go back!!
I wish you and your children the best..
God Bless!

[sassyg1rl]

Run. Fast and hard.

No woman needs a man to be happy. Make your own happines and take care of your children without fear of judgement or threats.

[Imsodone101]

This guys sounds like my step dad. He knows you don't have family there and really no place to go. So he can treat you however and what are you supposed to do? I can't say for sure considering I don't know this guy, but it seems like it's only going to get worse. I understand the kids need thier dad and all, but you have gotten yourself in deep. You are going to have to weigh out all of the possiblities like if you stay what is your life going to be like, and if you leave what is life going to be like? You can try talking to him and telling him how you feel, but I have a feeling that he isn't going to care. No offence but this is why you should not get married young, because people change with time. I am sorry to hear about your situation, but sometimes you have to be selfish and do what makes you happy. Your children probably won't understand until thier older and can understand what was going on. I hope you find a way to make a great future for yourself and your children. With out without this guy. Good luck!

[SeeingEye]

You don't deserve to be treated like this and I think you need to /Leave/ him. Not what you are thinking, more like move out for abit and let him fend for himself for abit. He cannot seem to appreciate what you do and neither does the family. It is not right and he needs to learn how important you are. If he can't appreciate that then you are just going to abuse yourself as much as he is abusing you.

[SrSmokesAlot]

cause he's an asshole. plain and simple. if he doesn't treat you right, he ain't right