Why does my boyfriend treat me like shit?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend has lied to me, hit on other girls while I am with him and a bunch of friends, texting a ex girlfriend about times they had fucked, helped a friend cheat on his wife multiple times, practically cheated on me, likes to film other women when he's out at the club (whether I am with him or not), letting other people treat me like shit and not defending me or standing up for me and several other things. And every time he gets caught for something. He gets mad at me. He treats me like I am the problem and like I have caused all these problems. I know I am stupid for staying after all this but he keeps promising that he will change it and he will get better. And I keep having faith... like an idiot. Why does he do these things to someone so loyal and faithful and loving and caring and who gives several chances and who never has or will do anything to hurt him.

[caligirl03]

Who knows exactly why he does the things he does, but what I will say is that people who are generally happy and satisfied with themselves don't feel the need to go around actively tearing others down and treat them like crap. It could be as simple as immaturity on his part, or it could be he has some deep-seated emotional issues. Either way, unless these harmful behaviors are acknowledged and actively dealt with, they will only continue.

You can't control what he does, but you CAN control how you respond to it. You sound like such a sweet girl and you deserve to have your relationship be at the VERY least mutually beneficial. Honey, please KNOW your worth and act within that belief. No matter how much you love the guy, you have to love yourself first and foremost above all else. I know it's so hard, trust me, I've been in your shoes. And it might seem counterintuitive, but the moment you put your foot down and let him know he can NOT and will NOT stomp all over you, you might actually be very surprised by the end result.

Check out the book "Why Men Love Bitches" if you get a chance. It was a game changer for me; maybe it can be for you too.

[Asker]

I have tried to deal with them in every possible way except for leaving. I'm not sure what else I can try. I've tried taking to him and it only makes him more upset with me for some reason.

I'm not sure how else to put my foot down. What are good ways to do that?

I have seen that book before but never picked it up or even looked at more than the name. I will have to check it out!

[caligirl03]

Honey, if he's being a straight up asshole, then simply make other plans and don't hang out with him until he shapes up. This will make him realize he can't just walk all over you and that being with you comes with a certain set of standards. All this is outlined in the book- I highly recommend picking up a copy :)

[Booboo210]

Because he is a ass hole don't deserve you maybe you should fuck another man
even try to seduce the woman he make you mad with
Question have you ever been with another woman and she eat your pussy
Try it I'm sure you will enjoy it and treat him like shit

[BlueEyedHipsta]

Because he's an idiot. You'll be one too if you stay in this any longer, trust me the long term effects of this aren't worth the effort in waiting for things to be fixed. I had a boyfriend complete opposite of this, he was possessive, he'd expect a reply to a text within 5 min, if I didn't reply I was absolutely cheating on him in his mind. Showers and bed time we're the only times I had to myself but I'd have texts at like 6am trying to talk to me and I usually woke up at 9 so again I was cheating at 6am in the morning. Or if I took a long shower. The joy to be out of that relationship are endless.

[Cmasterson]

Simply because you let him, sounds like you don't stick up for yourself just because you're basically walking on egg shells around him. He gets caught and you forgive him so he to make him feel better about the shitty things he turns it on you. He promises he will change but he would've already changed by now, its time for you to let go because if you let him treat you like this it won't change. Its who he is

[Anonymous]

You're getting payback for what another woman has done to him. Being loyal to a turd, cool story. Why are you rewarding this behavior? You deserve it for not nipping it in the bud. I'm sorry that I'm not sorry.

[Asker]

I have tried everything to nip it in the bud but I guess leaving him is what you're talking about.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, you should have been fed up a long time ago.

[AlphaMale1]

You must enjoy being treated this way. I do not understand why anyone would stay with someone who did this other than the convenience of having a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Because he can. And you decide to stay, so he knows he can. Either move on and find somebody better, or accept what he's like. Really don't get why you'd stay with a guy who treats you like shit though... like do you really think that little of yourself?

[Tenseven]

Because he can. You let him get away with these things. Why would he change? YOU have to make a change, not him.

You make that change by leaving and finding someone BETTER.

[selmo93]

Because clearly he doesn't respect you or your relationship

[SomeoneImportant]

Forget about why he's like this, and just leave.

You only have yourself to blame for being unhappy

[ichot]

How is he still your boyfriend...

/facepalm.

Take some imitative already.

[Trending]

You like that treatment? You give the guy several chances and he keep doing the same thing, he doesn't care about you, get out of that relationship and find someone who will respect and put you first , Your weak

[Booboo210]

Really you need to texting another man even fuck him or suck his cock

[somedaylove]

he doesn't love you, he doesn't want you, he feel obliged to be with you because he is not brave enough to tell you it's over. just leave him

[Vesuvius87]

You're allowing yourself to be treated that way.

[Asker]

I guess I'm just having faith that he will get it one of these times when I talk to him about it. Guess it prolly won't make sense or affect him until I leave. :(

[Vesuvius87]

Or you can break up, stop playing the ''taming the jerk, trying to change him'' game and find a worthy guy that will respect you.

[Snipes]

Better question why are you still with him?

[SovereignessofVamps]

Because he sounds like he nvr truly cared.

[gobsmacked3]

because you allow him too

[luisnunez]

That's why some guys say girls love jerk

[BeastRB]

Ffs break up with him already

[PrettyBama]

He hates you lol

[ginny_weasley]

Because you let him.

[Anonymous]

All lies and half-truths...