Obviously, it would depend on the specific man, but I do understand what you’re getting at. I think it’s natural to feel some tinge of discomfort over a man babysitting your child, probably due to a number of biological reasons. Maybe you don’t want your child to get sexually abused? Physically abused? Yelled at? Maybe the physical appearance of a man seems threatening? These are just some possible considerations. I would personally feel more comfortable having a girl or woman babysit my child, as I think children might respond to women in a more positive way and I do think women have a better way with mediating and communicating with children during sensitive moments especially. If anyone would like to comment and refuse some of the things I’ve said, please feel free to do so. I’m stating what I believe to be the true and what my personal feelings are
I've known way too many women who would spill a bunch of pills on the floor and not clean it up and then go check out her cell phone while the baby is crawling around unsupervised to think that all women are good at taking care of children.
So why would I then turn around and think that all men are bad at it?
People raised by a single father tend to be relatively healthy and happy, but you check the statistics for people raised by a single mom, they're way, way more likely to be depressed, have low self-esteem, be addicted to drugs, commit crimes, commit suicide, etc.
So I don't know where the stereotype that all women are natural-born nurturers and all men are just clueless comes from, because the studies and statistics done on children of single parents has shown the opposite to be true.
I'm not sure. Almost every child, especially girl child faces some form of child abuse from people who are supposed to be taking care of them. And it's always from close people. Relatives, friends, neighbors. People we trust. You don't hear news about 2 year olds getting raped by strangers. You only get news of them getting raped by an uncle, cousin, neighbor, and so on.
Even I myself have some memories of facing inappropriate behavior or touches from close people in my family who were supposed to play with me, babysit me. When my parents thought they were taking good care of me, they weren't. If I ever have kids I don't think I will trust anyone other than their father to look after the kids. Especially not a man.
I was molested by the families “favorite uncle”. He brought us to theme parks, fairs and the movies. Until 7 years later when we all exposed him and he has done thing to me and all my male and female cousins. Luckily he only fooled with me twice. My other male cousin is still messed up from the things done to him. Uncles? Cousins? Ha. Trust NOONE
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I find the answers here very interesting because in all off the top of my head, I have babysat over 20 girls from the age of 2 to the age of 15 and at least 6 boys. Out of those kids I in my care, only 5 of were related to me and some I barely knew their parents when I sat with them. So how did they turn out? The children loved me and I loved them too. And in fact after I sat the first time they requested me back every time, even insisted on me to come back, that's not exaggerating at all what so ever. The little 2 year old, her mother practically abandoned her with me and I ended up loving her like my own and wanted to adopt her. I was both mom and dad to her for 7 months and it hurt like hell to see her go. After she left my care i only got to see her once after she was grown through facebook. She is now in her late 20's or early 30's and has her own children.
At least 3 of those children have passed away one was murdered and 2 of them along with their cousin side by side they all past away in their sleep at ages, her 9, him 12, cousin, 13. Their obituary is that link.
And now as of today, to learn that just because I am a HE, a man, that I can't adopt a girl, I am denied because of my gender, it's an insult, it's outright humiliating and disturbing, and it's beyond hurtful to put it mildly and say the least.
Yeah i would, heck i would probably hang with him to get to know him.
Even tho i do agree it seems to be more comfortable with a girl.
Ps all my babysitters have been girls apart from one, he was pretty cool he just played halo with me. Then all the girls i kinda had crushs on.
So maybe if i ever did have son i would try and find a gamer guy which shouldn't be hard or a girl so my son could have a little crush on her. Then he can thank me for been a chill dad or just steal my money cause that's what kids do instead.
Although I don't have a child myself, I do essentially treat my adopted sister like a daughter and she sees me as a mother figure. In that case, no. I wouldn't let anyone babysit her because she's very emotionally vulnerable and I don't trust others to look after her.
I have experience dealing with her having nightmares, panic attacks and flashbacks and both I don't trust anyone else apart from my girlfriend and her girlfriend do to that and I know that she's extremely uncomfortable around strangers and that could cause a panic attack on it's own.
LOL i’d rather a man then woman. Have you seen how many women abuse kids whens the last time you seen a guy do that? You wouldn’t because men have a genetic predisposition to protect their mate and offspring with their life men will literally die to protect their loves ones. Women on the other hand well let’s put it this way we have marchs for equality, feminism abortion etc. But men? Not really I mean wheres the special day for all those men who protected kids and women when sabre tooth tigers existed or dinosaurs without those men none of us would exist today. I mean hows it different to ww2 men protected women and kids from hitler we have a special day ancient humans? Na sorry. As you can see if any gender it would be men.
C... sort of. I think a guy who has had background checks, years of knowledge and experience, taught (or in a similar field) previously, good references, kept an "open door" policy, etc would be fine, but that's because I've been around kids a good majority of my life; I've done all those things.
That being said, I'm watchful, but that's with most people, not just guys.
I won’t even let a woman babysit my child, unless he’s 7 years old, and I prevented him, about every dangers he may face with strangers, so that he can report his babysitter ( who will be a relative or a close friend) if he tried something bad. our world is too much fucked up. So leaving an innocent fragile toddler is impossible for me. Before he will be old enough I will only trust my mother, to babysit him.
If it was somebody I knew very well then yes - if it was somebody else - I would not. People say woman are more trustworthy with children the men - but there are a lot of evil woman out there too - I would not hire a woman I didn't know unless - I felt she seemed very sweet and trustworthy.
I wouldn't let a man or a women who was reccomend or had a 5 star rating on care. com watch my kid. I would only allow a trusted individual who I know and have associated with for many years watch my children. Man or women makes no difference
Only if I know him. But that goes for women as well. The only exception I guess is if he's an actual professional who has studied child development and pedagogy, and it's his actual job to look after and teach children.
Only one that I know and I'm familiar with. Same goes for a woman. I can't trust someone I don't know to watch my child, until they give me that trust. Granted, a few people that I do know are not exactly that good with responsibility. Those are the only ones I know that I wouldn't trust to watch my child. Otherwise, most men I know I would.
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Nope when i was 8-9 my mom used to leave me in care of my male relative and that guy sexually molested me SO MANY times and i didn’t understand it back then my mom TRUSTED him and when ig rew up i blamed my mom for leaving me with him i have nightmares about him to this day... obv not all men are like this but i can’t trust any after what i endured
This is a bit strange, Im the oldest of 5 siblings and I have been around kids all my life. I know I'm good at babysitting if I'm asked to. But still I would trust a woman over a man a little more. Only to have someone I really know to babysit. But the fact is there are more female abusers then manly abusers when it comes to kids.
I wouldn’t let anybody babysit my child if I had one.. too many bad stories on the news and I had a bad experience as a child with a family member. I trust no one!
Most people would let a female stranger watch their kid rather than a man that they and their kid knew for years. That is reality because society is sexist.
That option with someone you knew personally, i think it applies for women too. I wouldn't ket my kid with a random person unless they had good reviews
I babysat my neighbours children several times. But, they did that because I was a trusted friend. And I was very good with their children too, making them laugh and having a lot of fun.
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