Comfortable? Ehhh... no not really, I mean I'll always be thinking "man I want to kiss, cuddle, and fuck you" while I'm talking to her. So the comfort can come over time I guess but not really.
By the way, that means she's not actually my friend since I'm attracted to her and want to fuck her. Boys and girls can't actually truly be "just friends" in true platonic fashion if the guy is physically attracted to the girl. Doesn't exist. Because deep down, he will always want to fuck her, and would, if he got the chance to and the situation was right.
I could hold a conversation with them, but I couldn't do the friends bit if I was attracted to them. I would not be able to stomach seeing her being with another guy or talking to me about him if she knew I liked her, it would eat at me. It would be like being one of her girlfriends and I wouldn't want that. I would rather be her first choice.
Comfortable? I don’t think I would be. Because I’d want to get closer to that person and not precisely as a friend. But if I see that he doesn’t feel attracted to me, I’d have no problem just treating him as a friend even though my feelings might be different. That’s the beauty of unconditional love, you’d love them and be happy for them even if it’s not with you.
Attracted to in what way? If I simply found them highly attractive but emotionally/mentally and spiritually we aren't compatible, than I can still hold a friendly convo witn them. However if there is an emotional bond that grows to a personal one where it builds on a level of romantic intimacy, I would space myself away from them.
Yes, if she is a good friend. When that happens I must assume that she doesn't want it with me, and I should be clear that I need to find someone else for those feelings. I can be his friend, but I must continue looking for other girls to be with. And that's obligatory because if not, you can only be accepting that not now, but may be later. On my opinion one of the best signals to be good friends after that situation is when she says to you: You are great, although I don't love you in that way, but if you want I can help you to find someone who makes it in that way. And she is trying to help on truth, and not in joke.
Yup it happened in high school for me and she’s still kinda a friend but doesn’t talk to me on messaging a lot lol
I know she isn’t right for me now but as a friend maybe. Also she’s in 11th grade now and she was in 10th when I was in 12th.
P. S. it’s kinda happening to me again but I mostly just want to be friends with this other person it’s happening with even though she seems pretty nice
Yes, and I find it very sad that there are some out there who lack self control. Just because a person is good looking doesn’t mean you should jump their bones or try scoop them up in a sexual/romantic relationship. Being attracted to someone does not have to be hard or difficult in any way.
If I'm having strong feelings for someone but I have to bottle it up or I'm trying to hide it, I feel irritated quite quickly and might start acting rude or picking fights so I think I would actually confess to them and if he rejects and we still remain friends anyway that would be a lot better because I spoke my thoughts out and I would be relaxed and happy around him again.
Yes, but not anymore. It's more important to me to be loyal to my husband.
For us it was more like being comfortable being attracted to your best friend. We were best buddies growing up, then realized that we were attracted to each other, then fell head over heels for each other!
I think I couldn't, I mean I haven't experienced it yet from my way. Yet, I do have learned that men, apparently can't "friend" me. Guys who I was interested in a friendship, they took it as if I was "friendzoning" them, its a pity since I don't have brothers and I've always have been curious what it would be to have a guy friend for real.
That's been Guy 101 for most of my life. If I'm attracted to a woman I make mention of it, accept the response positive or negative and gain a new female friend who knows more women. Thus I have increased my odds of finding someone else who's better for me.
Yeah. I've had friends, and still have, whom I'm attracted to physically. If I was into them romantically, then it would be more difficult, and I would try to distance myself from them if they're not into me, so I can get rid of the feelings. If it's just physically, it's no problem. I can control myself.
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Yes. At least for men I feel like this is an utterly normal experience. A lot of guys find their friends attractive. Often making friends with attractive women is with the potential in mind of something more happening and oftentimes nothing happens, but you're still friends and you're still attracted to them. I feel like there's plenty of attractive women around and so you just get used to this circumstance, it's just normal.
Yeah, it's not very hard. I just won't do anything to change the status of the relationship until she shows interest.
I was friends with this one girl at my last job that I knew liked me or was at least attracted to me, but was married (arranged marriage, no love). I was attracted to her as well but there were several reasons to keep the relationship as just friendly and flirty, so I just never did anything. But the friendship part was very easy.
Not really. At least not until the attraction fades. I can hold a conversation with her, and as I've grown I learned to be more pragmatic and my attraction fades quickly once I realized we aren't going to be more than friends.
It was harder when I was younger.. then the attraction dominated.. but now it's pretty easy.. after talking to a person lying enough and getting to know their silly side the attraction tends to take a backseat..
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I am friends with someone I am attracted to. I don't let it get in the way of our friendship. We are just friends, that's OK with me. I don't have to fuck every girl i find attractive.
I'm comfortable sure, it's the tension I create in my head that makes it weird. My mind says flirt but she says no, that's why I usually avoid that to begin with
Yes but I might tell them how I feel. If they told me they weren't interested in being anything but friends with me then I might have to end our friendship
No that doesn’t work unless she is married or something. If she’s single I’m going to express interest. If she reciprocates awesome, but if she’s not interested I’m gone. No need to stick around in the friendzone.
Yes, somewhat, if I get over it quickly I would still want her friendship, only happened once and we are still good friends, even now that I have a girlfriend, it's just a friend I admire more than some other friends
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