My mother is mistreating my step sister. How could I help her?

[Anonymous]

My mom married a man 7 years ago, and he used to have a daughter of my age. We are now both 18, and we live together. My mom always hated her and encouraged me to hate her too. For example she would tell me, as a kid that i should do everything I can to make her dad loving me more, or even when I have done something bad she would throw the shade on my step sister. I admit that I used to be a real bitch at 11 because I was imitating my mother by bullying her. So to please my mom, I was putting her down. I stoped to bully her when I saw my mother beating her to death in front of me and I felt bad for her for the first time. now I feel truly bad, because my mom hate her so much that she wants me to start a rumor about her in school, that she’s a whore so that her father will hate her, but I don’t want to. I feel that my mom is the evil stepmother of Cinderella and she is forcing me to be the evil step sister. My step sister is really kind and sweet but my mom is always bullying her and I feel so bad because I love my mother and she love me. But when I ask her to leave my step sister alone she would tell me that I’m a doormat, and that it’s none of my business ! What can I do to help my step sister without offending my mother?

[Wharvey98]

The only way your a doormat in this situation is if you keep letting your mom abuse your stepsister without doing anything about it. She needs to have this shown to her. She’s beating on someone that’s to afraid to stand up for themselves because she enjoys it and she’s jealous of the attention this girl gets from her dad. Stand up for yourself and your sister. I don’t see a way to do this without upsetting your mom but at this point I’d be more concerned about your sister than her. Also where is your stepdad in all this, is he aware of any of this? If not he needs to be made aware, because this is not ok behavior and it shouldn’t be allowed to continue.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Talk to the father!!! If I was a father and I had a small hint that my daughter was being hurted by my partner for some stupid illogical reason I would lose it! He needs to know what hi daughter is going trought! He can help her. Tell her father

[Asker]

Yeah.. but would you hate your step daughter too? I’m afraid of this also..

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

If she was the one who told me, no of course I woundn't hate her. I would be grateful

[Asker]

But I used to bully her before too.. do you think he can forgive me?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

1. You were just obeying your mother. You were a child and didn't know any better
2. You are saving her by telling him. That alone is reason for him to forgive you. I would

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Did you talked to him? How are things now?

[Asker]

Hi. I talked to him, and it was really uneasy. He isn’t talking to my mom since I did, but at least she stoped harassing the girl. We are planning to have our own appartement after graduating, so we can leave. Wish it will get better

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I am really glad you did it. You should be proud of yourself for having the courage to do so.
You did the right thing. The relationship between your mother and her father is not your concern. Now that he knows the truth let them take care of it.
Things might be tense now, but it will get better with time.
Thank you for doing it. Wish you the best!

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Did he forgave you for harassing her?

[jennifer_bloom]

tell her your father or step mother about everything your mother is doing to her or tell your mother you will disown her if she continues to treat her step sister like this - you could also try having your mother thrown in jail because if she is arrested and unable to find employment after being charged with domestic violence, your father will probably divorce her and then she won't be able to bother your step sister again.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Your mom is cruel why would she encourage that.. your step dad is good to you.. your mom should be too! Everyone deserves love no matter who birthed them! Let your mom crumble she's an ugly monster and the man she's with needs to see that.. record the mistreatment stick up for the innocent!

[sakummu]

Omg your mom is a horrible, horrible person! I really don't know how you live under one roof with such a monster. You need to step up your age and if you want to be the better person, you need to call the authorities when your mom starts physically and mentally abusing her. You mom needs to know that it is not okay to treat a child that way. Period.

[RoseCuteButHasThorns]

I know you wouldn’t want to offend your mother but, in that type situation, the best advice I can think of offering is just telling your stepdad and/or sister in private or maybe even just telling your counselors at school. Nothing can be solved if you don’t speak up.
“Have courage and be kind” -Cinderella movie (2015)

[Theladywithcurls]

Apologize to your step sister, be good to her, and help her get over it. Confront your mother, that might help her realize the wrong she's been doing, especially if she tries to imagine in your step sister's shoes. If she doesn't come to reason, take real measures, like reporting her to the police and moving out of the house.

[es20490446e]

She does that because of her own insecurities.

So instead of discussing with her the topic at hand, tell her how stupid she is. Move the conversation to her behavior and the fucked up reasons why she does that.

Don't dive into the play of the verbal games, trying to explain your points. But straight reflect to herself her behavior, like a mirror.

[es20490446e]

What does hurt more than a slap in the face?

A slap of truth.

[sasukeuchiha7]

Tell the father immediately. Also if you're both 18, you should get away from her.
I'd say find a place for the both of you, maybe the father can help too.

[Engineer__]

your mom absolutely is a b... sorry but its true
your stepsister was a kid too!!! why did your mom look after her like she was her own kid?
What would happen if her father did the same to you as your mom did her? ThatS NOT FAIR.
Now be yourself! Dont get afraid of your mom! And protect your step SISTER!!! HELP HER! or Tell your step dad this your mom treats her bad !!!

[Engineer__]

why didn't your mom*

[Engineer__]

if your step sister still kind, sweet to you it means how nice person she is.
If i were him, i would hate you and wanted to kill you.

[Engineer__]

if i were her*

[Saville_Row]

Stand up to your mother and support your step sister through this. Who knows? Maybe you'll gain a friend for life.

And I'm sorry, but your mother is not showing love to your step father if she can hate such a crucial part of him. He has to know.

[SnapTsch]

For starters you can not listen to your mom, talk to your step sis, apologize to her about whatever wrong you did, and come clean to her about everything.
She probably needs you more than you realize right now.

[Anonymous]

Tell her father right away. I usually never condone hurting women, or people as a whole for that matter, but if I found out that my partner was treating my daughter that way... I'd quite simply beat the shit out of my partner, if someone wasn't there to control me

[needhelp777]

U need to call the police on ur mom and u also need to have proof if she got bruises or scars or anything...
And u need to have ur sister get a protection order against the mom

[an0nymouz]

Nice to know you two like each others. Let you mother to know you care of her, that is what you should do. You are a nice person :)

[Sophie_2301]

Tell your stepfather!! And if he doesn’t do anything, go to the police.

[Paris13]

Both of You when Out on your Own... Don't Go Home... xx

[AJ1988]

tell your step dad everything and let him find a solution

[mycatsanoyingaf]

Your mother sounds psychotic, no offence but she is wrong. You might not want to offend your mother but she offended you. if you don't want to be a doormat stand up to your mother.

[Anonymous]

Your mother sounds like trash, if you're both 18, move out.

[theHalflife]

Okay you need to offend your mother and offend her hard. You need to flip her bullshit right back on herself. Bully your mom she deserves it

[Anonymous]

Your mother sounds like a real bitch which is exactly what she is. I my heart aches for your step sister that's been so abused by the both of you.

[Opinion Owner]

This is what your story reminds me of. It literally makes me want to bawl my eyes out I kid you not.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kKoYKMCMeXo

[Opinion Owner]

By the way, I wasn't implying the abuse is or was your fault by no means, what I was meaning to say was that your sister was getting it from both directions, I'm sure. You were abused by your mother too through her using you to abuse your sister. You're doing the right thing. Your sister is at your mercy and she probably has no where to turn, nowhere to go. so don't let her down. Let your mom know you care about your sister or just don't ever comply with your mom's advice against your sister, in fact do the opposite of what she says show your mom you care about your sister.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Report her to social services.

[oldoldold]

Your 18 move outa home already

[yusuf6195]

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