Expose him, ffs. God knows how bad this will derail. Don't listen to these idiots who say that you can't do anything. Tell your mom, show her his phone whenever you get the chance, don't say anything to him or you'll tip him off. But don't let him ruin your life with shit like this.
Talk to your Dad & tell him how it makes you feel. If he isn't willing to change then you need to tell your Mom. Also, youbshould talk to a professional Therapist this is a lot for anyone to deal with alone.
Well your parents might have an open relationship with out you knowing it. But of not then you should confront him about it before your mom. It's better he tells her then you. And after that is done give him time to do it so because it not an easy thing to say. But who is to say that this is what keeps him from leaving her. Yes he is an asshole doing this, but who knows what's going on.
... I mean you could black mail him. Not exactly the MOST ethical thing but eh. Alternatively, tell your mom if you don't feel safe confronting him yourself.
It could be that your mom already knows or suspects it. You could bring it up one day and ask if he has had other women. You could tell her that you think he might be screwing around. But I would be discreet about this.
Two options: Tell your mother, which you won't do. Shut up and swallow it all. Doing the latter will, of course make you exactly the kind of bitch who drives men to do what your father does.
PS: Are you REALLY SO FUCKING STUPID as to think ALL fathers are like your worthless piece of shit father?
I think honestly you should stay out of that. Trust me what your seeing I'd the tip if the iceberg there's probably so much more you dont know. You dont know if your mom and dad have an arrangement where it's okay because he's out of town so much. You dont know if he gets lonely being alone so much I'm not defending him but try not to rush to judgment until you get all the facts.
Confront the bastard with your knowledge... just make sure you call a friend and leave the phone nearby in case he turns into a bigger jerk than he is. But, be prepared for him to open up to you about why. It may be that your parents no longer are in love. Perhaps your mom knows and prefers it that way
Would you like your partner to fuck around and leave your sick kid alone suffering? Do you wish for your partner to cheat on you for years? Do you want your kid to keep this going knowing that the kid will be emotionally fucked over.
The one issue that is completely wrong is that he left his child alone, sick or well, for a booty call. When you take on job of being a parent you have to give up self centered behavior. He will rue the day he abandoned his little girl. There is a song by john meyer - daughters - i believe, that addresses this head on
I feel for you. Letting your mother know will just result in a divorce and you will have to live with your mom from then onwards. Your father will have to pay child support so you won’t have to worry about your financial situation. I think that’s the best course of action. This cheating cannot continue. Your mother must know of this.
While you can confront both parents it's not your business. This is their relationship not yours and if you do when you have a boyfriend and they interfere you can't say they can't because you interfered with theirs so choice is yours.
Honestly I would say try not to get involved. You don’t have to have a close relationship with your dad. Just support your mom and focus on your own life because it’s not worth wasting your energy on your dads bad behavior.
Their relationship is their relationship has nothing to do with u. let him be grown most likely she knows every woman do. how they raise u is all that matters. just speak to him about it and bury the hatchet. Or u make things worse
Shut up and don't give out stupid advice shess 15 not an adult she is just figuring out how to handle this again just because you grew up unloved doesn't mean she did you weirdo
she's 15 dumb ass and she can poke her nose wherever she's upset her dad left her to go see his mistress and she was sick to go see another woman not anyones fault your bitter and this is a normal. occasion for you because no. man wants to be around you
Sound like a dumb whore who likes fucking married men and think the children have no say, do you even have parents or were you adopted because you sound like a child that nobody wanted
@Fuentes The children have no business meddling in their parents marriage and possible issues. That´s between the two of them. You should watch your language. someone expressing a differing opinion doesn´t give you a right to insult them. Grow up!
Says the 20 year old with 5 dislikes clearly nobody agrees with your opinion so what does that tell you, ohh that your wrong ao get a brain you jealous oprhaned child again not our fault you were abandoned... Wait they didn't want you so get over it we don't care kick rocks
You seem to be really passionate about this private matter. Why did you even comment on this person "private issue" if you so enjoy respecting the private nature of other people's decisions then? How about you mind your own business and stop replying. Telling people to grow up is also name calling anyway. Family members have a vested interest in what other members of their family are doing.
Blackmale him. You have a lot to gain. Just don't go overboard. But remember you hold the keys to distroying his marriage. Then after you get what you want secretly leek the information.
Brilliant, hmmm... not to mention that extortion is a crime, but when Dad says "I don't care, tell her.. I've been looking for an excuse to get out and your mom can't afford a good lawyer. I'll tie things up for years". Genius.
Its only a crime if you get caught. Either way their marriage would be over. If he wants to go to the cops so be it. Either way he is losing something. Better get yours while you can. Because if your mom kicks him to the curb chances are he won't pay for your college or wedding.
Well there are chances that your mom already knows about it. And if they are both fine with it then i guess you shouldn't worry. But i still would suggest you talk to your mom about it. She has the right to know if she yet doesn't know about it to avoid complications in the future.
Adultery means having a sexual relationship with another person while being married to someone. It has nothing to do with age... it is a bit confusing as a term...
sad. but dont get involved. unless he hits ur mom. and divorce comes to it. u have evidence to help ur mom. in end. its a sin and something so low and heartless to do.
Why must she wait for physically abuse, when her father is committing mental abuse on her and her mother? Divorce on him being an cheater and if you can't get enough evidence, file for no fault divorce. Both will work in court.
It sucks, won't lie. But keep in mind that your dad can be a caring person AND a dirt bag at the same time. They aren't mutually exclusive. Be honest with him about what you know and your feelings, you'd be surprised what truly could happen.
Fairly likely she already knows or at least suspects. If you tell her outright she may go into denial in an effort to "protect" you as her first reaction. You might want to lead with "Dad spends a lot of time away from home. Do you ever worry he might be cheating when he's away?"
It's rare, but Just maybe they have some sort of arrangement they don't want to make you aware of.
I'm curious what kind of behavior you've seen from other fathers that makes you wary.
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Expose him, ffs. God knows how bad this will derail.
Don't listen to these idiots who say that you can't do anything. Tell your mom, show her his phone whenever you get the chance, don't say anything to him or you'll tip him off. But don't let him ruin your life with shit like this.
Talk to your Dad & tell him how it makes you feel. If he isn't willing to change then you need to tell your Mom. Also, youbshould talk to a professional Therapist this is a lot for anyone to deal with alone.
Well your parents might have an open relationship with out you knowing it. But of not then you should confront him about it before your mom. It's better he tells her then you. And after that is done give him time to do it so because it not an easy thing to say. But who is to say that this is what keeps him from leaving her. Yes he is an asshole doing this, but who knows what's going on.
... I mean you could black mail him. Not exactly the MOST ethical thing but eh. Alternatively, tell your mom if you don't feel safe confronting him yourself.
This is a tough one.
It could be that your mom already knows or suspects it. You could bring it up one day and ask if he has had other women. You could tell her that you think he might be screwing around. But I would be discreet about this.
Two options: Tell your mother, which you won't do.
Shut up and swallow it all. Doing the latter will, of course make you exactly the kind of bitch who drives men to do what your father does.
PS: Are you REALLY SO FUCKING STUPID as to think ALL fathers are like your worthless piece of shit father?
I think honestly you should stay out of that. Trust me what your seeing I'd the tip if the iceberg there's probably so much more you dont know. You dont know if your mom and dad have an arrangement where it's okay because he's out of town so much. You dont know if he gets lonely being alone so much I'm not defending him but try not to rush to judgment until you get all the facts.
Confront the bastard with your knowledge... just make sure you call a friend and leave the phone nearby in case he turns into a bigger jerk than he is.
But, be prepared for him to open up to you about why. It may be that your parents no longer are in love. Perhaps your mom knows and prefers it that way
Would you like your partner to fuck around and leave your sick kid alone suffering? Do you wish for your partner to cheat on you for years? Do you want your kid to keep this going knowing that the kid will be emotionally fucked over.
The one issue that is completely wrong is that he left his child alone, sick or well, for a booty call. When you take on job of being a parent you have to give up self centered behavior. He will rue the day he abandoned his little girl. There is a song by john meyer - daughters - i believe, that addresses this head on
Would you accept your partner cheating on you? If yes, then under which conditions?
I feel for you. Letting your mother know will just result in a divorce and you will have to live with your mom from then onwards. Your father will have to pay child support so you won’t have to worry about your financial situation. I think that’s the best course of action. This cheating cannot continue. Your mother must know of this.
While you can confront both parents it's not your business. This is their relationship not yours and if you do when you have a boyfriend and they interfere you can't say they can't because you interfered with theirs so choice is yours.
Honestly I would say try not to get involved. You don’t have to have a close relationship with your dad. Just support your mom and focus on your own life because it’s not worth wasting your energy on your dads bad behavior.
How can you support your mom, if you allow her to suffer from a cheating and deceiving husband?
Their relationship is their relationship has nothing to do with u. let him be grown most likely she knows every woman do. how they raise u is all that matters. just speak to him about it and bury the hatchet. Or u make things worse
Shut up and don't give out stupid advice shess 15 not an adult she is just figuring out how to handle this again just because you grew up unloved doesn't mean she did you weirdo
@Fuentes thank you so much
Hahahahaha... I think the username betrays what kind of opinions you're going to have when it comes to adultery @AshleyMadison00
There is nothing you can do besides tell your mother and let her handle it from there. I am very sorry to hear this😢😢😢
It´s none of your business, don´t poke your nose where it doesn´t belong. And "adultery"? This is not the 19th century.
she's 15 dumb ass and she can poke her nose wherever she's upset her dad left her to go see his mistress and she was sick to go see another woman not anyones fault your bitter and this is a normal. occasion for you because no. man wants to be around you
Can’t believe how awful you are!
@Fuentes Chilldren have no business meddling in their parent´s affairs.
This is really none of your business. It is a private matter.
Idiot.
If that's not someone's business then what is?
@GreatNews It´s a private matter, and kids shouldn´t meddle. I see you resort to name calling when you got no arguments.
Sound like a dumb whore who likes fucking married men and think the children have no say, do you even have parents or were you adopted because you sound like a child that nobody wanted
@Fuentes The children have no business meddling in their parents marriage and possible issues. That´s between the two of them. You should watch your language. someone expressing a differing opinion doesn´t give you a right to insult them. Grow up!
Says the 20 year old with 5 dislikes clearly nobody agrees with your opinion so what does that tell you, ohh that your wrong ao get a brain you jealous oprhaned child again not our fault you were abandoned... Wait they didn't want you so get over it we don't care kick rocks
You seem to be really passionate about this private matter. Why did you even comment on this person "private issue" if you so enjoy respecting the private nature of other people's decisions then? How about you mind your own business and stop replying. Telling people to grow up is also name calling anyway. Family members have a vested interest in what other members of their family are doing.
Blackmale him. You have a lot to gain. Just don't go overboard. But remember you hold the keys to distroying his marriage. Then after you get what you want secretly leek the information.
Could you possibly give any worse advice? I don't think so. Even if you're being sarcastic, she's 15 and doesn't get it.
If you want a new car, cell phone, cloths and a school trip take advantage of this opportunity.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Brilliant, hmmm... not to mention that extortion is a crime, but when Dad says "I don't care, tell her.. I've been looking for an excuse to get out and your mom can't afford a good lawyer. I'll tie things up for years". Genius.
Its only a crime if you get caught. Either way their marriage would be over. If he wants to go to the cops so be it. Either way he is losing something. Better get yours while you can. Because if your mom kicks him to the curb chances are he won't pay for your college or wedding.
Well there are chances that your mom already knows about it. And if they are both fine with it then i guess you shouldn't worry. But i still would suggest you talk to your mom about it. She has the right to know if she yet doesn't know about it to avoid complications in the future.
I am not sure, but isn't adultery having sexual contact with an underage girl?
You keep telling about him sending nudes to this woman, but do you know her age? Why do you think, thar she is underage?
Sorry, I am just confused.
Adultery means having a sexual relationship with another person while being married to someone. It has nothing to do with age... it is a bit confusing as a term...
sad. but dont get involved. unless he hits ur mom. and divorce comes to it. u have evidence to help ur mom. in end. its a sin and something so low and heartless to do.
Why must she wait for physically abuse, when her father is committing mental abuse on her and her mother? Divorce on him being an cheater and if you can't get enough evidence, file for no fault divorce. Both will work in court.
No not wait. incase it begins
. just with first time.
@antonio1970 I agree. This can turn way uglier and she will have to react, if he starts to physically abuse her or her mother.
And I agree with u.
It sucks, won't lie. But keep in mind that your dad can be a caring person AND a dirt bag at the same time. They aren't mutually exclusive. Be honest with him about what you know and your feelings, you'd be surprised what truly could happen.
Fairly likely she already knows or at least suspects. If you tell her outright she may go into denial in an effort to "protect" you as her first reaction. You might want to lead with "Dad spends a lot of time away from home. Do you ever worry he might be cheating when he's away?"
It's rare, but Just maybe they have some sort of arrangement they don't want to make you aware of.
I'm curious what kind of behavior you've seen from other fathers that makes you wary.