Huge feud between sister, sister in law, and myself. How can it be repaired? What to do next?

[Anonymous]

This all started when out of the blue my sister in law of ten years made a Facebook post about how she basically considers my brother’s immediate family (his siblings, parents... etc) deadbeats in her kid’s life. She claims we don’t even talk to or check in on them. The truth is this woman is a 28 yr old with three kids that parties like a 16 yr old and post trashy twerk videos online. She can’t string together the most basic intestinal conversion either. I always babysit her young kids and my parents always pay her rent because she’s always getting fired and evicted. Needless to say she lied. I made a generalized post the next day and she thought it was about her. Also, my sister made a post directed to her about her lies. Anyway, they get into a huge argument in my comment thread (over 500 comments) arguing. In that argument it is revealed my sister in law is even more disgusting then we thought airing out vulgar details of her sex life as a rebuttal. She’s also apparently racist as racial slurs started to come out towards my sister. They’ve threatened each other as well. This is all coming from a woman that never had a problem with us before in a decade of marriage to my brother. Anyway, the things she said about my family (lies and opinions) for the public (I have no room to type them) make it almost impossible to come back from. This was all really bad timing as a family member of ours was murdered earlier this week in a homicide-suicide and are still emotionally healing. On top of that the majority of my mothers family who are all also mean trashy lowlifes (minus my immediate family) are close to her and are looking at my sister and I like the bad guys when we’ve just been defending ourselves. Even though I’m not at fault I just want there to be peace but I don’t know how.

[MissDawn7961]

Do your best to stay away from all family members who cause you hurt for they are toxic to you ! I am sorry to say this but some things can not be undone by humans and God may not want them undone until the Lord is ready for them to be undone ! I am the youngest of 6 ! My oldest sister Sharron ( who I am forced to live with ) is verbally abusive towards me ! her verbal abuse stopped me from going to family celebrations of all kinds just so I could get away from Sharron's meanness ! Sharron sometimes says to me - get Curt , Leon and Cody even they don't want you evidently or drive off a cliff - ! this talk coming from a woman who had to bribe her boyfriend of 20 plus years with chicken , just to get him to date her ! so who is she to talk like this to me at aLL? I ended dating these men for my own personal reasons that are none of Sharron's business ! Anyway the Lord is giving me the strength to deal with her as best as I can ! I know that one day the Lord will send me the man that he wants me to spend the rest of my life with too ! thank you for reading this and may the Lord be with you too ! so just stay away from Facebook for that place just causes more trouble then it is worth being a member of at aLL ! people who hurt your feelings do it out of jealousy too for they are toxic and to harmful for you to be around anyway

[nerms123]

All the crappy people you need to cut them out of your life completely. Block them on all social media. Basically they aren’t worth any of your time and energy. It’s up to your sister what she wants to do but none of those people will ever add one single positive thing to your life. All they will do is poison everything.

[talloak]

There are no easy solutions to this one. Conducting a public feud will cause this to perpetuate forever. You do have the right to defend yourself but if it means insulting or accusing your sister-in-law, she is bound to attack back. So your sister has probably made an enemy for life. If it hasn't gotten to that point with you then you might want to consider trying to talk to her about how this started. If you do, don't let her drag you into defending your sister. You are not responsible for her actions. Keep it focused between the two of you. You can start by asking why she didn't come to you directly if she thought you were neglecting her children. Because now she has cut you out of their lives and any neglect is on her head. Does she want you in their lives? Or was this a ploy to drive you away? The point is to focus on actions, yours and hers, and not on personalities or right or wrongs for that matter. It might not help at all. The best you could hope for now is probably a truce. But that is better than open war.

[blkgold33]

i don't think there will be peace after a argument like that

[cloud9vortex1234]

If that's the way she feels and acts then your parents need to quit paying her rent. You also need to quit watching her kids. Quit enabling her behavior. she's Ungrateful anyway.

[broncobryan]

Yup block the bitch on facebook, block her number, no longer watch her kids and have your parent no longer pay her rent and see who the dead beat is.

[Bananaman177]

Why the fuck would you want peace?

[Fuentes]

So block her lol she a dirty thot