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Would you rather your partner be a loner or should they have a lot of friends AND WHY? (Page 2)
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How many friends a girls has is one of my criteria for a girlfriend and when a guy thinks like you everyone thinks the guy is being controlling and cutting her off from friends and family so he can abuse her. The sad thing is it true most of the time. It's healthy for you guys to have some separate activities. You should be able to trust each other and not spaz out if he leaves you site for a minute
Im not spazzing nor being controlling. I love my me time but thats the point... if im not with him, i want to be with me. I just dont care to be around people who i dont care to commit to
I would rather date someone with a medium to large group of friends. The last guy I dated seriously had recently moved to my city a few years before we met, and he didn't really have any good friends here. I became his only support, his only good friend, his only person to vent to, and that's not healthy. Everyone needs at least one person besides their SO they can rely on and confide it.
Friends. Because I think it’s important to have outside perspective other than your own thinking. It creates depth and builds ones character more
There is some issues with a loner. All their eggs are in one basket. So things can get too intensE (not in a good way) it’s good to take time away to do other stuff. The person becomes very dependant too
I'd want my partner to be happy. If they're social and have many friends I'd expect them to include me to an extent and make sure I know what's going on when. Realistically though, I'd relate more to a loner because I'm a loner myself. I'm lucky to have found a girl that is exactly like me in almost every way. I won the real lottery peeps.
Lucky
I think a woman with 2 friends is enough. Too many friends and I'd be not as vital in her life most likely.
I feel the same
Yeah. :)
gimme dat loner
culture is shit and anytime u put more than two people together there is a third guest, and he's a fuckin asshole
RIGHT ON
Loner, the friends will only get in the way, as they always do in every relationship, ever.
Yes exactly
I would like to date a more introverted girl, not necessarily a loner. I dont mind loners so long as she loves me. More often than not you are lucky to date a loner girl since you are prob one of her best friends and her priority and she doesn't mind spending time with you.
True
I can really relate to this. It's that loners are universally rejects so much as they're difficult to encounter and get to know. The biggest disadvantage in dating is the numbers game nature of it all. There are probably tons of great matches out there for most of us loners, but the crucial missing piece is a networking tool that's convenient and expedient enough for us to choose over the many things we can enjoy doing perfectly well by ourselves.
Im probably a loner by choice tho. I connect with people well but i prefer to be by myself often unless in a relationship
I tend to think of "loners" as people who genuinely prefer to do most things alone. There are other terms for those who feel "lonely" for a variety of possible reasons.
Well, I have had friends that been there since I moved to the us. That's 36 year's. And I have friends that have been there for at least 10 year's. Mostly female. I also have my fraternity brothers/sister's (aplpha kappa sia [inc], kappa alpha pi {chef fraternity}). And I, have been told my personality draw people to me. But, I don't call them friends. Lol.
Yea if theyre not friends then theyre prob acquaintances
Lol.
I’d say a few good friends. I’ve dated a guy who was very social and constantly had to help everyone and be with everyone and honestly you just feel a bit left out after a while. Mind you he was a good guy just not right for me.
Yea i can't stand that. I was one of those types in February
Ideally my partner would have a handful of genuinely good/close friends, rather than tons of worthless acquaintances or no friends at all.
Theyre all unnecessary in my opinion 🤷♀️ Thats why theyre acquaintances
Lots a friends. That way we can do things or they can introduce me to things that I haven't tried with my friends. I love going to outings and having fun in groups (even though I'm supposedly an introvert).
I’m kind of a loner like, I only have two real friends that I hang out with and we care for each other. I wouldn’t mind her having lots of friends but it would kinda bother me because I have to be judged by a big group of people “if I’m right for her”
Yea that does sucj
I'd rather him be a loner so more of his attention could be focused on me. Also because I have a weakness for shy guys.
Lol i do agree with the first part and i like shy guys who become outgoing with me. But im a loner as well yet im not shy
It's possible to be a loner without being shy. But most shy people are loners, because of their social anxiety.
Some friends are good especially if theyre good people. I'll probably never be dating material as I don't have friends and can't keep them
Friends dont make you dating material in my opinion. Its just a good way to put yourself out there for others to see but not necessary in my opinion
I hear what you're saying but a lot of people ask me who I know... Where I chill and stuff I'm just not interested
He can have friends. I value my alone time and dont need us to always be together. That's how shit gets stale.
but thats what im sayin, i like my alone time and i’d be fine with him doin the same. But nooo they hang with dudes that wanna get them in trouble and bring females around. That makes me paranoid
Lol I guess you're gonna have to trust them. I dont have a problem calling out their friends tho. If I know you're tryna get my man to do some foul shit, I'll def tell you about yourself.
My exes prob was that he hung with these people maybe twice a year (before meeting me) and considered them friends. They were up to no good.
I prefer a guy who has friends. If I’m his only friend, there are problems
Maybe he stopped trusting in others after too many fake friends. I dont see how thats a prob but ok
Everyone should have at least one friend out there. Yes, many people are fake but not all. We all need people to depend on and it is quite possible. In order to have good friends you have to also not be fake and be genuine.
Also that “everyone is fake” plot shows a lot of bitterness. I don’t want a guy like that
I doubt anyone assumes everyone is fake. But i also know that im tired of wasting my time and that i rather have acquaintances then friends. That means i can be done with you when inget ready. Besides i give em a heads up from the get go that theyre just a “go to” person and if they choose not to stick around, it is what it is
There are actually a lot of "friends" that are fake and are just using you to gain benefits (career finance, relationships, etc.). Why should random people place trust in other random people?
Just because a person has a lot of friends doesn't mean that I'll give them my complete trust.
@Kdude010 thats what im saying. I’ll hang with em cause i like to entertain and be entertained but indont trust em and dont want them around long
That’s not what I’m talking about. Everyone needs a friend that they can confide in. Someone who can give them advice and stuff like that. Not just random people
I confide in random people all the time... GAG and in person... Thats all i need is someone to vent too and ask for advice. I dont want to build friendships
Friends are actually just random people. If you want advice, then there are professional mentors out there to help. You don't need friends to get advice on your life.
@Kdude010 right on ;-)
If they have friends then I can become friends with them. I love haveing lots of people in my life. It also means he is probably better at communication which is very important.
Im really good at communication and dont care to have friends but i hear y
They should have some friends outside of me. It’s a lot of responsibility to be someone’s only social interaction. They become clingy and won’t allow you to live your own life.
Even with friends, i still only care to be by myself or with my partner. I dodge others all time
See I’ve dated girls like this, and it’s flattering that you want to spend all of your time with us, but this creates unhealthy codependency which can be really toxic.
But i said i looove my alone time. So if im not withh you or my mom/sis/grandparents then i prefer my own thing. I mentioned that in the uodate
Sure, you’re introverted, but introverts should still maintain interpersonal relationships outside of intimacy. Maybe even at least one or two close friends? Like I said, it’s flattering. You don’t have to worry about cheating. It has its perks, but that leads to codependency which is really toxic and unhealthy in a relationship.
Im not an introvert. Im an ambivert and quite the entertaining goofball. I just dont like people in my presence for long unless their my dude or mom/sis/gpas. I have friends but i dodge them. They knock at my door and i sit there and ignore them 🤷♀️ I like to hang with them maybe twice a year if that
Awesome me too. I like having the house to myself on a day off. Do all sorts of things. No not really I end up bored counting the ceiling tiles watching the clock going back and forth with Netflix and you tube, snacking all day. Then some self activities. Yes I really having nothing to do on my days off because I get it all done beforehand. So i can truly have a day. Be completely and utterly alone with no social media. Its awesome.
Women find loners weird though I'm afraid. Rare breed they dont understand. I find over life experience, watching and observing, women want wild spontaneous guys, but ultimately settle for reliable and safe! Facts! Its true.
I’d suggest you open yourself up to more or at least one outside relationship considering anyone who’s studied psychology would tell you that this will lead to a sense of isolation, low self worth, and a whole lot of other negative things. Especially if you want a healthy intimate relationship one day.
I've always had lots of “friends” but they broke my trust to many times so im done with people honestly. I dont feel isolated and i actually know my self worth now having gotten rid of all the toxic people. I love myself now and it feels good 🤷♀️ And @Darknut I love male loners
Must be right up your alley then. I hadn't any idea