Do you prefer living alone or living with someone?

[Flower7]

Living alone.

Living with someone.

[Shiningtempest]

@Flower7 I prefer living alone because I don't want to deal with the unpredictability that comes with living with someone.

[Flower7]

Yes, that is DEFINITELY a very unpredictable situation!

[Bdsmaster]

Living alone dear, I can do anything then.

[Flower7]

Very true! Living alone is much more fun!

[Bdsmaster]

Absolutely, but I think one guy doesn't fe that way.

[Flower7]

Some people are unable to live alone.

[Bdsmaster]

I hear you, luv.

[Bdsmaster]

Thanks for the love, hun

[Lliam]

I LOVE living with my wife. We do things together, have fun, share chores, chat, and both contribute to securing a happy future. And there is something about woman's touch around the house. She comes up with great ideas for making the house and yard pretty. There is also the sex. I think women are wonderful.

The last two girlfriends I had before my wife were each different.
One was absolutely beautiful. I had actually known her when I was in jr. high and high school, but she had been younger, so I never tried to get together with her. So, more than 20 years after the last time I had seen her she called. We got together and she was nearing the end of a divorce from her husband. She talked me into renting a house together. Things went great at first but, come to find out, she had some real psychological issues. Clinical stuff.
Long story short, I went to work one day. When I got home, she had cleared out all of her stuff, including some of my stuff and cash that I had set aside for rent. Come to find out, she said I was abusive. That's what she had said about her husband, too.

The next lady was wonderful. Soon after we got together I virtually moved in with her even though I kept my own apartment. She was 31 and was renting a house. I was 37. I loved her with my heart and soul and she loved me. Her appearance was my physical ideal but I loved everything else about her, too. Sex with her was beyond amazing. She was hypersexual and orgasmic. Even though we both worked full time, we had sex at least twice a day and sometimes for hours at time without pause. We did a lot of other fun things together, too. We were together for over a year before we split. The reasons for the breakup are complicated and had nothing to do with cheating or meanness or anything. I was devastated, though, and it took me a year to pull myself together. She reconnected with me 20 years later on Facebook and spoke a few times on the phone. I melted at the sound of her voice. Five years later, I heard that she had passed away at age 56 from a sudden medical event. It left a hole in my heart that will never heal. I will always love her, treasure the time we had together, and will never forget her.

After her, I met my wife.

[Flower7]

Sorry about your loss. But I’m glad you’re in a happy and stable relationship now!

[Lliam]

Thank you, Flower.

[Ronny71]

I feel more comfortable to live alone, but not necessarily prefer it. My situation feels complicated, plus I have a disability. Here are the reasons I ended up feeling more comfortable alone.

I've been with two women over the years that I wanted to spend my life with. The first one I was in my late 20s. I was super attracted to Lisa, and we had great conversations that were effortless, and we also felt perfectly comfortable sharing silence together. But she had a troubled home life and stability issues that made her ability to show love a challenge. She eventually left me, and I was devastated. I was already in therapy (to deal with disability hardships & other issues), and obviously the topic shifted to my feelings of rejection and loneliness after the breakup. Eventually I learned to deal with the loss. Over the next couple of years I dated a bit, had a nice summer fling but nothing serious.

In my mid 30s I met a very cool woman who I probably had the best sexual relationship with, EVER. Julie was adventurous and open-minded. Within months I felt myself falling for her, and it was great. Then one evening she was describing how she had met up with her ex, and a wave of fear and jealousy swept over me, the type that you physically feel in the pit of your stomach. We talked about it, and she assured me she wasn't into him. However, I found myself hitting the brakes on my emotions because I was terrified of having the pain I had back in my late 20s after that breakup with Lisa I just described above. I had no interest in feeling those emotions ever again, so I proceeded with caution. We were together for four years, and eventually split up.

One thing I learned while with Julie was I could be with someone that I did care about but not let my entire happiness and sanity hinge on my perception of feeling loved by someone else. In my late 30s I fully realized this, and no longer minded being single. I no longer felt lonely on a Friday or Saturday night while my friends were busy with family and I was on my own. I have hobbies I enjoy quite a lot, and when it comes to sexual urges I can easily find extremely hot things to look at on he internet while I expertly bring myself to orgasms as much as I like! It's a great feeling to realize you do not have to depend on others to feel good about yourself and your life.

I don't want to say I will never be with someone or live with someone, perhaps one day in the future that might change. But I hate the idea of being emotionally attached to another person because then you don't have control over how you feel, and I never want to be in that situation again.

[Flower7]

I’m glad you gained more control over your life and don’t let emotions get the best of you.

[CuriousJC]

Sorry I couldn't get a whole angle. But this is my studio apartment in Manhattan. It's better to be alone than with someone else. It doesn't make sense to move in with someone then something happens causing you or her or him to move out of your apartment. Especially in marriage when divorce comes, and that person takes your apartment leaving you stranded out on the street. The rent is not bad, I was able to get this apartment for 1500 and believe me it's the smallest studio apartment I could afford. Since I don't have credit card history I have to pay everything cash and believe me I don't even get to enjoy my paychecks when it comes into the mail all I have to do is just keep saving it up and up and up. Most of the time I have to go to my family's apartments for food or supplies or stuff like that because I can't risk using the money for my paychecks and I can't pay rent. When you grow up and you are used to being alone in your room or at a hospital or at a residential school you get used to it. It's better to be by yourself than with others especially when you are the socially awkward type of person and you don't know how to interact with anybody.

[Flower7]

Thanks for showing me your apartment! It's a very good idea to get as much help as you can from your family to make sure you don't run out of funds for your rent and bills. Are you an only child? You mentioned being alone when you were growing up.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I haven't lived with anyone since I was living at home with my parents. Even in college, I had my own dorm room because I wasn't comfortable sharing my space with a roommate.

With that being said, definitely prefer living alone. I can do what I want, when I want. No worries about my stuff being stolen, bothered, or messed up. No one eating my food. Or if we don't get along, then you have to deal with either finding a new place to live, or a new roommate/partner you're compatible with.

Before someone asks, "What happens if you ever get a partner?" he can come visit, or I can go to his place- that way we both have our privacy, space, and if need be, we can do "sleepovers."

[okdigimon07]

I wish I’d say that prefer living alone (favor) than roommates, but I live with my partner in 14 years. So honestly, it seems a bit tough in our financial budgets, and we also think about that roommate for helping for rent and bills in the future.


So, people love to living in their some country’s popular depend on damned expensive. I have a friend who live in California and renting their apartment for $1,800 for one bedroom and Bathroom. (With roommates) than my currently apartment is $580 one bedroom and bathroom. That’s crazy.

[Flower7]

I’m guessing your friend lives in LA? That sounds like LA prices.

[okdigimon07]

Yep, right! She told me and the price shocked to me. I say holysh*t im fucking die.

[AnthonyJ01]

I basically lived by myself through most of my adult life. I have been married and divorced. My ex was a complete narcissist. She had to have complete control over everything. Bills, bank account, money, property. She demanded that I not be allowed to even drive my own car that I owned before we were married. They were for her kids full time. In the end, she spent everything, never paid the bills she demanded to be in charge of, she cheated, lied, and her, her children and her mother stole and destroyed a lot of my own personal property. Everything was eventually admitted in a phone call. Because of all that, I have very bad trust issues.

[Flower7]

I can see why you would prefer to live alone now.

[AnthonyJ01]

Also when I married her my credit score was 760, but after she pulled her crap it was below 500. Everything was in my name and she intentionally tried to ruin my life. Her and her mother lied to the courts to try to get me charged with a felony. I never did anything, but that did not stop them from lying. The judge did not buy it though.

[Flower7]

What felony did they accuse you of?

[AnthonyJ01]

She tried to get me for domestic abuse. She yelled at me, I yelled back.

[Flower7]

I’m glad the courts didn’t believe that you did that.

[AnthonyJ01]

Exactly, she always plays the victim. I found out so much during the divorce.

[Flower7]

Have you been divorced for a long time?

[AnthonyJ01]

She cheated on me in May 2016, filed for divorce 3 days later. Divorce was final in Nov 2017.

[Flower7]

Ok, that’s pretty recent then.

[NewgodX]

Well after my parents died when I was not 18 and my marriage that lasted less than 3 months
I have banned all females from my life,
I now Iive alone and I do all my household work myself, so on holidays if I am not going out no one would disturb me

[Flower7]

Why was the marriage so short? Were the two of you just not getting along?

[NewgodX]

Her only goal was to acquire money so after marriage she made it clear that I need to pay her good money as maintennce and she will spend her night with multiple sex partners and I should not interfere with her freedom and her way of life
So I kept my money and left her

[Flower7]

Wow, that was a horrible situation to be in. And you had no hints beforehand that she was like this? Had you dated for a long time before getting married?

[NewgodX]

After my parents died, I was not ready for marriage but at 25 my relatives said its necessary and they arranged the marriage,
I didn't know her at all before marriage, I was not I a good state of mind at that time, possibly my relatives thought she was a okish girl, coz she looked well and had cosmetic implants and all,
My parents died when I was 16 i got free from my wife when I was 26 so those 10 years are a time I don't want to think about,

[Highcountry]

It doesn’t really matter so much when you are young, but when you get old, it is nice to have somebody there. My wife has heart problems and sometimes I have to take her to the emergency room to get her heart re-started. She may die if she was living alone.

[Flower7]

She’s lucky to have you.

[Bricealan]

I didn't mark either on for an exclusive preference. When with someone, I liked it, and living alone has it's benefits, going, doing as I want. Sometimes the solitude is nice to have, but I do enjoy having a nice woman companion, a person to enjoy the things we have both acquired, and enjoy. Now I have Oliver, my cat, and he is really a joy to have. I think we all enjoy our companion animals when we live "alone".

[Flower7]

An animal is a good halfway point between living with someone and living alone.

[menina]

I would prefer to live alone. That way I could do whatever I wanted and I would have more privacy. I've always had my "family" around me and it hasn't been a positive experience.

[Flower7]

It's never a good situation when you have to put "family" in quotation marks!

[menina]

True, but still some people don't understand it.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

I'd prefer living with someone,

But I have been mostly on the road for the past... 3 years, in fact - and 'living with someone' for me means first setting up my own place of abode/home.

(It's a bit of a circular dependency/catch 22 - you want to fall in love and live together forever, which means first finding that person, not a house to live in that you would then be enslaved to, effectively, even though realestate agents all insist you must first buy or rent a place, then all good things will come from it (I am not sure they do))

[crazy8000]

With someone that creates stress and drains energy.
Prefer to live alone then. a big part of relationships with female's happens to be like that. even same sex relationships.

With someone special that aren't like above.
At that scenario do I prefer to live together.

[Flower7]

I do feel like most people create stress and drain energy when living with them.

[crazy8000]

@Flower7

Sounds like you get the wrong kind of people in your life to live with.

If personality is off in certain areas it will be draining since a lot of people can't lay of with doing thing's to mess with the other one.
It's a immature trait many do subconsciously. sometimes consciously.

Some people can't stand anyone. like those that was called hermit in the past.
Even those can tolerate people that doesn't trigger them.

Do you have any disorder like Autism or ADHD?

[Flower7]

I suspect some form of autism but I’m not sure. That’s not something that’s checked for or cared about in adults.

[crazy8000]

@Flower7

Probably depends on where you live and if it's a problem for you and diagnose gonna help.

[Flower7]

I’m in the USA.

[crazy8000]

The land of overdiagnosis.
especially if you have a proper insurance or a lot of money.

[Flower7]

I have neither.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well, I haven't lived with anyone yet - besides growing up with my family.

But right now, I prefer to live alone. Almost scared to live with someone actually.

[Flower7]

You’re right to be cautious. Things can very easily go wrong in the situation of living with someone.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah and the lack of alone time and privacy scares me.. or that we will fight over a lot of things and weaponized incompetence etc.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I absolutely love living alone, it is pure bliss to me! Though I don't truly live alone, as I have cats, but I love being able to do whatever I want with/in my own living space. I also love the privacy and just being able to call it my own!

[Flower7]

Cats are always nice roommates. 💕

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yes they are! I don't know what I'd do without mine, they are so much fun!

[courtney06]

I don’t know which to vote. I guess I won’t know for sure until I’m living alone. I noticed I’m more at peace when I’m home alone, but that is because the person I live with can be annoying. I wouldn’t mind living someone if they were less annoying and I had more chemistry with them. Plus I’ll always have at least one cat so I won’t be 100% percent alone.

[mooky06]

Living alone. I mean the company is great but i’ve enjoyed living by myself for a while now. I won’t have an issue if i were to have a boyfriend, he can live with me if he wants 🤷🏽‍♀️ or we could find a place together and i’ll just rent my place out to tenants

[Oigit]

I have two pet rabbits so it get the best of both worlds. I'm never alone and have all the company I want. Also I do not have to deal with any of the issues that could arise from living with other people.

[Flower7]

Animals are a great replacement for people lol.

[Shizunk]

What I miss the most about my ex is not even the sex and such things, but the fact that she was almost always waiting for me when I got home from work. Just having someone around I could share my life with was the best thing ever. I hope to get back to that stage with someone again soon.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Depends on the "who" living with..
There's people I lived with where I preferred that to living alone... And I've lived with people that living alone would be preferable to living with them...

[Flower7]

That makes sense. The particular person can definitely make living together more or less enjoyable.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Exactly

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I'm big on personal space and having alone time. So ideally I'd want a big enough space to where someone else could live there comfortably. Meaning they have a wing and I have a wing lol.

[Flower7]

That would be a good compromise. :)