Is it better to be lonely or together with someone just to not be alone?

[Anonymous]

I feel so awful and unloveable. I’m pretty and I try so hard to be likeable and confident but it always comes crashing down over stuff that’s not in my control. I’m feel so outside of everyone else like I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Example. I felt really pretty and confident all day but turns out my eyes were puffed up the whole time because I was having an allergic reaction I didn’t realize until later. I’m self conscious and I see other people getting guys and friends so easily and they have boyfriends they don’t even like. I rejected a nice guy Because I wasn't ready a month or so but is it just better to go for anyone because I just don’t wanna feel so unloveable and lonely in everything?

[Ill_made_Knight]

You can be in the same room with someone else and be alll alone... You can be alone in a crowd. And to be honest I'd rather be by myself than to be with someone that makes me feel lonely as I won't have to feel their presence and be distracted...

[Berethor]

Together with someone that you don't find attractive?

[Asker]

Together with anyone literally with whoever I could get quickest and easiest or just stay alone.

[Berethor]

Are you asexual? and if so, did you consider to become a nun?

[Asker]

No I’m not asexual? I’m just desperate no matter what I do I can’t win no matter how pretty or nice I am should I just settle for anyone so I can stop feeling so shitty

[Berethor]

Then settle, if you really a pretty and nice then you should be able to find someone.

[Asker]

But no one notices me or likes me and the one but that did I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship. I don’t even wanna date I just want to feel likeable

[Berethor]

You can start by not being anonymous. So you don't want to be in a relationship?

[Asker]

I’m not gonna go non anon with my baggage man. I feel awful and I’m not gonna find a boyfriend in this state and definitely not in this site. I’m asking for advice for my real life.

[Asker]

I don’t know if I want a relationship or not I want to not be alone I want to feel lovable and a relationship is the closet way to get that

[BlueScorpio]

What's the point of being in relationship if you're still going to feel unloved and alone? You can feel the exact same way single.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Seems like you have some personal issues you need to deal with and overcome.

[Asker]

what is it that obvious, I would have never guessed!!! (sarcasm)

[Little_Bumblebee]

Maybe I should elaborate here.

The issues you have with yourself are not going to get better automatically, just because you find a random person to be with. And often that can even make you feel more alone and lonely than if you were by yourself.
Making yourself dependent on someone else is not healthy in any way, and it will make you weak and vulnerable.

Work on your self-love, it's not something someone else can fix, but yourself.

[hIopinionated_]

If I wasn’t naturally a loner, definitely the former. I can not deal with someone being in my life yet contributing nothing emotionally. Feeling lonely when being with someone is not an option for me. I’ll rather stay single

[Truthatanycost]

Don't forget... you can be alone and never feel lonely, just as you can be with a partner and always feel lonely. The relationship that you have with yourself is the one you should work on first.

[FilmGuy93]

It sounds like you need to take some time to explore why you have such a low sense of self worth.

[Asker]

I’m a very confident happy the only reason I feel like shit is that no matter what I do nobody ever likes me. I’ve done everything over that past 5 ish years to be the nicest, prettiest, smartest person I could be and still nothing works. Even someone with the highest self esteem would feel like shit if they they were completely invisible to everyone around them

[Anonymous]

"together with someone just to not be alone" fastest way to depression and heartbreak

[Opinion Owner]

by the way, I might have an opinion from you. follow me if you don't mind

[Opinion Owner]

oh okay, I read your opinion you are not comfortable with not going anon.

And I would go anon and ask.

I catch feelings very easily even I hate to be like that. why do you think we are like this?
honestly I am okay with being alone. but as soon as I talk to someone for longer... few days are enough, to catch feelings. Why do you think we are like this? A woman ridiculed me as I told her I wanted to get to know her after talking to her for a few days.

[Anonymous]

I’d prefer to be alone.

[Asker]

What do you do to feel better when you feel like shit and that none besides your family’s will ever love you?

[Opinion Owner]

I find ways to make me happy.