Is my girlfriend testing me?

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I have no idea what's my girlfriend thinking now, one day she she's giving me a feeling that I wanted, I mean boyfriend and girlfriend. Another day she's acting so cold. This is our conversation the day before yesterday:

(11:54:20 pm) babybear_vivian: I'm here

(11:54:23 pm) babybear_vivian: you there?

(11:56:28 pm) dohoang_phong: Yeah

(11:56:42 pm) dohoang_phong: I told you everything...

(11:56:53 pm) dohoang_phong: I'll accept you no matter what u're doing

(11:54:54 pm) Xiong Vivian: I know what you want

(11:55:17 pm) Xiong Vivian: but don't you think it's a bit sick?

(11:57:18 pm) dohoang_phong: because I prefer love over sex

(11:55:45 pm) Xiong Vivian: even I sleep with others you still accept me. No guy will accept his girlfriend having sex with others

(11:57:44 pm) dohoang_phong: maybe but because I love u

(11:55:52 pm) Xiong Vivian: at least I can't accept

(11:56:29 pm) Xiong Vivian: I'm not good at choosing you know

(11:58:29 pm) dohoang_phong: Maybe we'll discuss about

(11:58:38 pm) dohoang_phong: it

(11:58:53 pm) dohoang_phong: love is stronger than anything

(11:56:57 pm) Xiong Vivian: so you can see you still can't accept

(11:59:22 pm) dohoang_phong: but one thing for sure u'll hurt me

(11:59:26 pm) dohoang_phong: I accept it

(11:59:30 pm) dohoang_phong: I mean

(11:57:35 pm) Xiong Vivian: why don't you think being friends is better? we still can text or call or chat online when we are just friends right?

(11:59:38 pm) dohoang_phong: we'll talk about it, that's all

(07/04/11 12:00:07 am) dohoang_phong: I need you as my girlfriend

(11:58:08 pm) Xiong Vivian: you still have visit me when you come here

(11:58:26 pm) Xiong Vivian: yeah,everyone needs me as their gf

(11:58:40 pm) Xiong Vivian: but I'm only 1 body

(12:00:51 am) dohoang_phong: If you wanna go then please tell me

(12:01:07 am) dohoang_phong: I just hope you can understand how much you mean to me

(11:59:24 pm) Xiong Vivian: the thing is I would like to keep a friendship with you and wanna see you happy

(12:01:46 am) dohoang_phong: so it means you don't have any love and feeling for me?

(12:02:04 am) dohoang_phong: I can't be happy with anyone except with u

(12:00:31 am) Xiong Vivian: I can only say I loved you really much. But after you hurt me so many times,i don't know now

(12:00:51 am) Xiong Vivian: plus the lifestyle you have

(12:03:06 am) dohoang_phong: I'm truly sorry about it

(12:01:10 am) Xiong Vivian: I hate clubbing,even for once. But sure you can't get rid of it

(12:03:17 am) dohoang_phong: but I'm trying hard to change now

(12:03:29 am) dohoang_phong: I never fight for this love like before

(12:03:42 am) dohoang_phong: I can do it, here I didn't go

(12:03:49 am) dohoang_phong: I stopped it already

(12:02:10 am) Xiong Vivian: you tell me what's the difference between me and your all the ex

(12:04:22 am) dohoang_phong: how can you be sure about something when you don't give me a chance?

(12:02:27 am) Xiong Vivian: they loved you so much,more than I do I guess

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(12:02:36 am) Xiong Vivian: you loved them too

(12:04:41 am) dohoang_phong: I just know it

(12:05:06 am) dohoang_phong: yeah, I loved them but not deeply as u

(12:03:21 am) Xiong Vivian: he asks me to be his girlfriend too

(12:06:35 am) dohoang_phong: OK, I'll let you go and u'll see what I can do for u...

(12:06:46 am) dohoang_phong: when I come back I'll find u
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(12:05:13 am) Xiong Vivian: I know he's not as romantic as you r, and he can't buy me anything like chanel. He even can't afford to book a hotel for me for 1 night. But he never hurts me...

(12:07:12 am) dohoang_phong: I just really hope u'll give me one more real last chance

(12:07:28 am) dohoang_phong: It's not about what I can buy

(12:07:32 am) dohoang_phong: It's about I love u

(12:05:35 am) Xiong Vivian: I don't want you guys to fight for me
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(12:07:38 am) dohoang_phong: you mean so much to me

(12:07:55 am) dohoang_phong: It's your decision whom u're gonna choose

(12:06:00 am) Xiong Vivian: I want 1 of you to give up

(12:06:19 am) Xiong Vivian: but obviously no one of you is willing to give up

(12:08:43 am) dohoang_phong: R you in love with that guy?

(12:09:51 am) dohoang_phong: Why you want me to give up?
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(12:08:39 am) Xiong Vivian: I only know I like him,cuz he can communicate with me always and he never hurts me. Plus he doesn't smoke,no drinking,no club. He's a virgin.

(12:08:50 am) Xiong Vivian: I want 1 of you to give up

(12:08:54 am) Xiong Vivian: you or him

(12:09:00 am) Xiong Vivian: I just hate choosing

(12:11:17 am) dohoang_phong: Maybe that guy is good in that

(12:11:39 am) dohoang_phong: but have you ever think he's saying all those thing because he'd like to be with u
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(12:11:45 am) dohoang_phong: And just wanna have sex with u?

(12:10:02 am) Xiong Vivian: maybe

(12:10:16 am) Xiong Vivian: but I can see he's an honest boy

(12:10:31 am) Xiong Vivian: not like someone who's so much experience

(12:12:33 am) dohoang_phong: Sometimes seeing can't be sure too...

(12:10:53 am) Xiong Vivian: you say all this bcz you wanna be with me too

(12:13:24 am) dohoang_phong: To tell you the truth yes, I'd like to be with you because you can see how hard I'm trying
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(12:13:33 am) dohoang_phong: and I'm not lying about anything

(12:11:48 am) Xiong Vivian: you said it needs both side to try hard

(12:14:12 am) dohoang_phong: yeah, for making possible love going on

(12:12:21 am) Xiong Vivian: I don't know what will happen to you if I leave,

(12:14:38 am) dohoang_phong: why are you saying this?

(12:13:13 am) Xiong Vivian: I want you to live a happy life there with your family

(12:13:32 am) Xiong Vivian: with a wife who's willing to do everything for u
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(12:13:37 am) Xiong Vivian: trust me,im selfish

(12:13:45 am) Xiong Vivian: I'm not that good really

(12:16:12 am) dohoang_phong: don't you understand that I love u? And I don't care how much selfish you r? And later people will change

(12:16:14 am) dohoang_phong: I mean

(12:16:29 am) dohoang_phong: for example right now u're selfish and step by step u'll learn

(12:16:37 am) dohoang_phong: how to be not to selfish

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(12:15:13 am) Xiong Vivian: I understand you love me,but I don't know how much I love you now. You broke my heart. You can't make everything up just by a sorry

(12:17:45 am) dohoang_phong: I know, that's why I'm trying hard now to make you proud

(12:17:58 am) dohoang_phong: and to be a man u've been waiting for always

(12:16:01 am) Xiong Vivian: I know I will be so sad even I break up with u

(12:18:33 am) dohoang_phong: maybe but I'll still stand and fight
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(12:18:39 am) dohoang_phong: to make everything possible

(12:18:50 am) dohoang_phong: to give you a stable life, a nice family

(12:17:13 am) Xiong Vivian: from tom can you try to meet someone new? you will see world is still nice without Vivian

(12:19:33 am) dohoang_phong: but I can't when I'm trying to change for you only

(12:19:46 am) dohoang_phong: it's contradicting

(12:17:59 am) Xiong Vivian: Then just changefor yourself,not for me\

(12:18:09 am) Xiong Vivian: you will make it
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(12:20:31 am) dohoang_phong: u're saying all this because you want me to give you up?

(12:20:45 am) dohoang_phong: but I know that I can't

(12:19:11 am) Xiong Vivian: look,we are arguing whether we should continue this relationship,but since we are so far,i don't know what you do everyday and you don't know me. Don't you think this relationship is sick?

(12:21:44 am) dohoang_phong: Everyday I'm telling you what I'm doing

(12:21:52 am) dohoang_phong: and because I trust you and I have faith


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(12:21:26 am) Xiong Vivian: I think I really don't mean to hurt u,but I'm saying all this bcz you are such a good boy,i don't want you to waste time on me. I don't know how we can keep friendship after we break up,but I don't think this relationship will work out. I don't wanna get married.

(12:21:45 am) Xiong Vivian: you should wake up and look for new love

(12:22:07 am) Xiong Vivian: many girls they don't look for money or sex,they need love the way you r
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(12:24:08 am) dohoang_phong: But what if I say it's not a waste of time?

(12:22:12 am) Xiong Vivian: you deserve them

(12:22:31 am) Xiong Vivian: I do feel it's a waste of time

(12:24:36 am) dohoang_phong: but why can't you understand I'm chaing only for u? I'm doing it for our future

(12:24:48 am) dohoang_phong: changing

(12:24:54 am) dohoang_phong: for a better life

(12:22:58 am) Xiong Vivian: what if there's no future between us at all?
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(12:25:05 am) dohoang_phong: there is

(12:25:30 am) dohoang_phong: because I'm learning now

(12:25:36 am) dohoang_phong: and I'm facing all the situation

(12:25:48 am) dohoang_phong: so that in future we won't have problem

(12:24:27 am) Xiong Vivian: maybe you don't know what happened between me and that boy.

(12:26:42 am) dohoang_phong: I just wanna understand why can't you try hard too? or because you don't love me so much?
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(12:27:41 am) dohoang_phong: if you loved me then when we're in relationship then why you dated other people?

(12:25:44 am) Xiong Vivian: I said I loved you much,but now maybe I feel tired after you did those things.i know you are changing,but it's not as easy as before to forgive and forget

(12:26:41 am) Xiong Vivian: yeah, you know you can't accept I dated others. So I don't deserve your love really
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(12:28:48 am) dohoang_phong: Maybe you feel tired but all I need just one more real last chance, let me prove it to u... And I'm truly sorry

(12:28:58 am) dohoang_phong: why you wanna push me away so much?

(12:27:08 am) Xiong Vivian: Don't apologize anymore ok?

(12:29:33 am) dohoang_phong: Ok

(12:27:46 am) Xiong Vivian: I said you are good, just I'm wrong

(12:27:59 am) Xiong Vivian: am I pushing you away?

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(12:30:21 am) dohoang_phong: because u're saying all this thing for making me give you up... But I won't

(12:30:38 am) dohoang_phong: I'll still stand and be a man that you wished in your life

(12:28:58 am) Xiong Vivian: good to change for yourself and do sth right

(12:31:03 am) dohoang_phong: you can't accept too if I'm in relationship with you then I date other people

(12:29:05 am) Xiong Vivian: grow up for yourself too


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(12:31:37 am) dohoang_phong: but I'd like to grow for our love, our life, our future

(12:29:43 am) Xiong Vivian: sure I cant, if you do the same I will leave u. But now I told you I dated others, so you should leave me too

(12:32:13 am) dohoang_phong: maybe you did mistake but I still forgive you because you mean a lot to me

(12:30:40 am) Xiong Vivian: what if I say he kissed me, he had sex with me? Can these make you forget about me?
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(12:32:52 am) dohoang_phong: could you tell me why you dated other people when we're in relationship? U'd like to hurt me?

(12:33:03 am) dohoang_phong: I still can't

(12:33:39 am) dohoang_phong: you know I'm honest with you and I'd like you tell me things so that we can solve it

(12:31:52 am) Xiong Vivian: bcz I don't see any future

(12:34:18 am) dohoang_phong: Right now you can't see it but step by step u'll see it

(12:32:59 am) Xiong Vivian: and he's local here,he can be with me.
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His family can buy him a good apartment, a lovely car. He's madly in love with me. He's willing to marry me.

(12:33:07 am) Xiong Vivian: besides we have much in common

(12:33:30 am) Xiong Vivian: OK he's younger than me but he's mature in mind

(12:35:41 am) dohoang_phong: people can act

(12:34:01 am) Xiong Vivian: OK then why you think he's acking?

(12:34:12 am) Xiong Vivian: bcz you are really so afraid I leave u

(12:34:26 am) Xiong Vivian: you feel jealous if I smile to other guys
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(12:34:43 am) Xiong Vivian: you feel jealous if I treat others well

(12:37:04 am) dohoang_phong: I don't feel jealous as long as I know you still love me

(12:35:16 am) Xiong Vivian: but you don't know

(12:37:23 am) dohoang_phong: and as long as I trust u

(12:35:31 am) Xiong Vivian: you know I don't love you as much as before now,right?

(12:35:37 am) Xiong Vivian: why you cheat yourself?

(12:37:46 am) dohoang_phong: I don't cheat myself

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(12:37:56 am) dohoang_phong: why you thinking that I'm cheating myself?

(12:36:07 am) Xiong Vivian: if you really love me so much,u should let me find my happiness and wish me good luck,right?

(12:38:16 am) dohoang_phong: yeah

(12:36:27 am) Xiong Vivian: bcz you feel I love you as much as before

(12:38:33 am) dohoang_phong: then I'd learn to accept it

(12:36:36 am) Xiong Vivian: when you really know I dont

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(12:39:06 am) dohoang_phong: u're trying to say all this to hurt me more, to push me to make me give you up?

(12:37:11 am) Xiong Vivian: I'm waiting for you to break up with me. this will make me comfortable a little bit

(12:39:29 am) dohoang_phong: why don't you do it? Why are you waiting for me to do it?

(12:38:03 am) Xiong Vivian: I don't like hurting people with good heart

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(12:38:34 am) Xiong Vivian: do your parents know we are about to be apart? Any suggestion from them?

(12:38:45 am) Xiong Vivian: or they are happy to see I set you free?

(12:41:03 am) dohoang_phong: I haven't because it's my decision

(12:41:12 am) dohoang_phong: I can tell them and like I told you too

(12:41:23 am) dohoang_phong: my parents are starting to accept u

(12:41:33 am) dohoang_phong: they know that I have u

(12:39:41 am) Xiong Vivian: you should tell them what's really going on

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(12:41:59 am) dohoang_phong: they have their job, this thing I'll make decision

(12:42:08 am) dohoang_phong: nobody can force me to do anything...

(12:40:09 am) Xiong Vivian: you know ,i think they keep you there bcz they want you to forget me day by day

(12:42:21 am) dohoang_phong: no, it's not right

(12:40:36 am) Xiong Vivian: and as they wish, I will quit by myself.

(12:42:43 am) dohoang_phong: they want me to stay here because they want me to be a real man

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(12:42:54 am) dohoang_phong: you don't know what they said

(12:43:04 am) dohoang_phong: why are you saying that?

(12:41:15 am) Xiong Vivian: Well that's the reason they tell u, the real reason is to get rid of me

(12:43:20 am) dohoang_phong: you weren't here and you don't know what's going on

(12:43:29 am) dohoang_phong: No, I know my parents

(12:43:34 am) dohoang_phong: you haven't met them

(12:43:45 am) dohoang_phong: you don't know their thinking

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(12:43:56 am) dohoang_phong: what they want from me is to become a man

(12:44:04 am) dohoang_phong: to be good

(12:44:17 am) dohoang_phong: and I'm learning all this

(12:43:32 am) Xiong Vivian: whatever it is,i have no interest. But 2 years, the fact will teach you everything. You gonna see it by yourself how your love will die

(12:45:52 am) dohoang_phong: why don't you trust me and believe me?

(12:45:57 am) dohoang_phong: You can't see my love for u?

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(12:46:15 am) dohoang_phong: and you know even I can be back earlier too

(12:44:46 am) Xiong Vivian: I won't trust anything unless I see it with my eyes

(12:46:52 am) dohoang_phong: Why are you so sure about everything?

(12:45:19 am) Xiong Vivian: bcz I know how things going

(12:47:22 am) dohoang_phong: I can send you pictures, videos and everything

(12:47:32 am) dohoang_phong: but you don't know the future

(12:47:48 am) dohoang_phong: you can see the present, nobody knows the future

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(12:46:03 am) Xiong Vivian: make it simple,

(12:46:22 am) Xiong Vivian: lets be close friends,shall we?

(12:46:35 am) Xiong Vivian: call me text me anytime

(12:46:40 am) Xiong Vivian: but no marriage

(12:48:53 am) dohoang_phong: Why you wanna make it simple?

(12:49:06 am) dohoang_phong: Why no marriage?

(12:47:10 am) Xiong Vivian: just answer me shall we?

(12:47:15 am) Xiong Vivian: be friends?

(12:49:20 am) dohoang_phong: even if I can be a man u've been waiting for?

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(12:49:30 am) dohoang_phong: I need you as girlfriend

(12:47:52 am) Xiong Vivian: I even don't know what man I'm waiting for,how can you know?

(12:47:59 am) Xiong Vivian: I even don't know what man I'm waiting for,how can you know?

(12:50:09 am) dohoang_phong: Because the thing you told me

(12:50:17 am) dohoang_phong: from that I know

(12:48:20 am) Xiong Vivian: what if I won't be your gf? revenge me?hate me?
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(12:50:44 am) dohoang_phong: I told you this already, I won't revenge, I'm not that kind of person

(12:49:10 am) Xiong Vivian: I want you to know,im only a girl,same as all your girlfriends befeore

(12:49:21 am) Xiong Vivian: if they have nothing special,i don't have either

(12:51:28 am) dohoang_phong: u're thinking that but for me no

(12:51:43 am) dohoang_phong: u're special to me and you mean a lot to me

(12:50:27 am) Xiong Vivian: so you haven't answered my question yet...

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(12:52:38 am) dohoang_phong: I did already

(12:52:46 am) dohoang_phong: I need you as my girlfriend

(12:50:55 am) Xiong Vivian: so you don't agree to be friends right?

(12:52:58 am) dohoang_phong: and I need you as friend because

(12:53:07 am) dohoang_phong: girlfriend can be friend at the same time

(12:51:26 am) Xiong Vivian: don't play word game here. You know what I mean

(12:53:37 am) dohoang_phong: I don't play game

(12:51:48 am) Xiong Vivian: I mean to be friends only,not boyfriend and gf

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(12:54:22 am) dohoang_phong: I've answered this already

(12:52:46 am) Xiong Vivian: then I really have no idea what to say

(12:53:03 am) Xiong Vivian: everyone is so trouble

(12:53:09 am) Xiong Vivian: why life can't be easier?

(12:53:56 am) Xiong Vivian: so you don't believe you can forget me. Then I will give you time to forget me..

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(12:55:58 am) dohoang_phong: this is just starting and like I said in the mail that to avoid any kind of problem try to experience for the brighter future, for both of us

(12:54:18 am) Xiong Vivian: for yourself plz

(12:56:20 am) dohoang_phong: why you want me to forget you so badly?

(12:56:31 am) dohoang_phong: I can't I'm sorry

(12:55:08 am) Xiong Vivian: fine

(12:56:12 am) Xiong Vivian: then I love him,ok? Let's be friends. This time OK for u?
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(12:56:26 am) Xiong Vivian: yeah I know you gonna say no ok

(12:56:36 am) Xiong Vivian: noooooo ok

(12:56:38 am) Xiong Vivian: right?

(12:59:17 am) dohoang_phong: if you can't do it, I mean experience it then it doesn't matter, I told you that because I wanted you to see it too, to have more experience but when we're together I won't let you do much thing, I'll do most of the thing because I want you to take more rest, not to thinking too much

(12:59:23 am) dohoang_phong: yeah, very no ok

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(12:59:24 am) dohoang_phong: :d

(01:00:28 am) dohoang_phong: By the way, I'll get my extended licence soon

(01:00:35 am) dohoang_phong: both for car and motorbike

(01:00:43 am) dohoang_phong: so I can I drive you everywhere

(01:00:46 am) dohoang_phong: :P

(01:01:45 am) dohoang_phong: you can try and test me in anything but I still won't give up

(01:00:10 am) Xiong Vivian: you can drive a car now?

(01:00:14 am) Xiong Vivian: good for u

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(01:02:21 am) dohoang_phong: Yeah, good for you too

(01:00:30 am) Xiong Vivian: be careful when driving

(01:00:41 am) Xiong Vivian: I didn't know you drive car before

(01:02:50 am) dohoang_phong: I will

(01:03:10 am) dohoang_phong: as long as I have u, u'll keep me alive

(01:01:45 am) Xiong Vivian: what the...

(01:01:57 am) Xiong Vivian: you mean a lot to me too

(01:02:04 am) Xiong Vivian: so how about that boy?

(01:04:47 am) dohoang_phong: What would you like to do with him?
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(01:03:21 am) Xiong Vivian: I'm still wondering whom I should choose

(01:06:03 am) dohoang_phong: I mean you can tell him sorry but you still have boyfriend and the respecting that keep the distance or whatever, I think you can say it by yourself too

(01:06:15 am) dohoang_phong: if you stuck somewhere tell me

(01:05:38 am) Xiong Vivian: hold on

(01:05:48 am) Xiong Vivian: I didn't say I accept you right?

(01:05:55 am) Xiong Vivian: I'm wondering

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(01:08:27 am) dohoang_phong: but seems you accept it because the sentence you said no ok...

(01:06:31 am) Xiong Vivian: whatever,after all these days I'm tired and I should focus on study

(01:06:39 am) Xiong Vivian: what the,..

(01:06:44 am) Xiong Vivian: no ok...

(01:08:47 am) dohoang_phong: Yeah

(01:08:48 am) dohoang_phong: :D

(01:08:59 am) dohoang_phong: I'm paying attention to all of your words Honey

(01:10:27 am) dohoang_phong: how do you know? Don't be sure about anything Baby

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(01:11:57 am) dohoang_phong: shall we be fine now Babe?

(01:12:02 am) dohoang_phong: It doesn't matter

(01:10:04 am) Xiong Vivian: no fine

(01:12:10 am) dohoang_phong: :d

(01:12:16 am) dohoang_phong: So it means yes...:d

(01:10:57 am) Xiong Vivian: what if I have 2 boyfriend at the same time? ;)

(01:13:10 am) dohoang_phong: no ok

(01:13:12 am) dohoang_phong: :P

(01:17:14 am) Xiong Vivian: btw,i sent you my pics

(01:17:17 am) Xiong Vivian: to your mail

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(01:17:21 am) Xiong Vivian: check them

(01:17:25 am) Xiong Vivian: so I'm going to sleep

(01:17:28 am) Xiong Vivian: good night

(01:17:31 am) Xiong Vivian: yellow bee

(01:19:44 am) dohoang_phong: Ok, Honey

(01:19:47 am) dohoang_phong: I love u

(01:19:51 am) dohoang_phong: Kiss you goodnight!

(01:17:54 am) Xiong Vivian: :x

(01:18:01 am) Xiong Vivian: :-*

(01:20:05 am) dohoang_phong: Can y say you love me?

(01:20:08 am) dohoang_phong: :D

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(01:18:13 am) Xiong Vivian: love u

(01:18:20 am) Xiong Vivian: See u

(01:20:26 am) dohoang_phong: See you Babe

(01:18:50 am) Xiong Vivian: see u

(01:20:53 am) dohoang_phong: I'll wake you up tomorrow, ok?

(01:19:00 am) Xiong Vivian: bu ok

(01:21:00 am) dohoang_phong: Can I be your alarm please?:d

(01:19:02 am) Xiong Vivian: dont

(01:19:07 am) Xiong Vivian: no ok

(01:19:09 am) Xiong Vivian: I need to sleep:)

(01:21:17 am) dohoang_phong: Ok
Is my girlfriend testing me?
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