I began dating a girl a year back and it only lasted a few months. Long story short she thought I was needy and clingy. Few months later we hook up, but agree to just be friends because there was too much pressure on our relationship as we're from the same friend group.
Things were quite pally and there were clear boundaries. We acted as friends, but I made it clear I'd happily be friends with benefits, but she thought that would be complicated.
Few months later we're now inseparable. We hang out every day, we go for lunch, walks on the beach or movie nights. She texts and calls daily, gets me gifts etc and these are things she doesn't do with other frjends. We don't hang out with our other friends either, it's just us. There have been quite a few times recently where she shows strong signs of being into me, such as saying she'd share a bed with me, constantly touching me, wanting to do things for me, twirling her hair, teasing, moving closer during movie nights etc. But once I begin to reciprocate she moves away or goes cold. I've been told I need to respect her boundaries to allow her to figure out how she feels, and me moving towards or touching her does nothing but indicate I want sex. All our friends say its so obvious we like eachother, and we're going on a trip to her family holiday apartment alone, and her friends have straight up told her we're obviously going to sleep together.
She now wants me to meet her parents which I didn't mind, but now all of a sudden she's "too busy, or too tired" to hang out, when all along it didn't matter what or when she'd always show up. I've been told that I'm probably being tested to see if she pulls away will I act needy again, and her wanting me to meet her parents is her way of seeking their approval. Simple things like her saying she'd share a bed with me, but then denying it when it's brought up confuse me, as when she's "liking me" it's obvious, but then she denies all of it the next time when I make a move
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She's just being weird because her friends have raised some flags to her, so they have her freaked out. Just take all the pressure off. Be consistent, let her do her thing, keep all your commitments to her and most importantly; do NOT expect anything of her.
She isn't testing you, but her friends are.
I will tell you this though, and you would be very wise to consider my advice on this; when a woman lets her friends get into her head, that's a sign that she probably struggles with boundaries in other areas of her life. You need to be taking notes about how she behaves in this situation, because this is not going to be the last time she pulls something like this.
Gong show. Move on
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