#StoryTime Has your parent ever tried to hook you up with someone without your knowledge?

[DizzyDesii]

lol my mom used to try to do it with guys i friendzoned. She’d tell em “i gotchu! I already see you as a son so ima convince her to give you a chance.” Like Ma why you lyin to that boy 🤣 Most memorable would be some years ago when she tried to hook me up with this dude who worked at this Cherokee casino. She came home and told me she was like “Sir are you single? Good good, meet my daughter Desi *shows him a pic of me on her phone* I just think you’re adorably cute and would be perfect for her. *he responds im cute* Plus she won't care that you’re not black because we have some native American in us as well. How old are you? Whats your name? And Can i take a picture of you so i can take it home to show her.” Lmao this is embarrassing af cause she was acting like the ultimate creep but dude actually agreed to it all. He told her he was single, he was like 2 years older than me and he agreed to take the photo. I think his name was Jay or sumn. 😂🙈 but he told her to bring me next time to meet him. I saw his pic and he was cute tho like a hot young mix of jet li/jackie chan but i didn't have the guts to go meet him. Plus i was just too embarassed she did that so I fussed at her and told her to never do that again! I was also mad because she knew i was talkin to someone at the time but she wanted to find a better option since she didn't like him. Funny thing is... i forget all about dude and go to the casino like a year later when im dating someone. He ends up being at machine next to me, fixing it... i got up out my seat and left before he noticed me 😂🙈 #FeelFreeToList #iGotTheHookUp

Yes

No

[Finchie40]

Yes , my Dad did a few times , usually if I was with him shopping or wherever , he would say remember that hot girl that was working at that store that we saw? I say yes? , he would tell me he saw her again and talked to her and he would tell me she was into me , that I should go for it. I would think WTF? Mainly thinking what in the hell was my Dad talking to her about that led into a conversation about setting me up with her? I was kind of creeped out about it cuz he would hand me their phone numbers. So by the 3rd time this happened I finally called the girl out of curiosity to find out what in the hell was my Dad saying to these girls , cuz he wouldn’t give me straight answer lol So the 1 girl I called I did find her very attractive but I was more curious then anything. So I ended up calling her and finding out that My Dad approached her saying do you remember me from yesterday , I was in here with my son? She said yes , well he thinks you’re very cute and she said I thought he was cute as well , then my Dad would say give me your number and I will have him call you? So I ended up dating this girl but it felt awkward considering my Dad set me up with her and my Dad would ask me for details about her like How did her knickers look without a shirt on. etc. It was kind of like my Dad had the hots for her more then me so I had to stop seeing her lol

[DizzyDesii]

Omg omg your dad did to u what my mom did to me 🤣 and yes our parents are trying to live out their fantasies through us

[Finchie40]

Lmfao , I never looked at it that way !! But you are right!!! Ewwwww lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lol did yu read above what she did to me

[Finchie40]

Yes lol craziness but to be honest I guess I kind of do it to my son , I just don’t go asking the girls for their numbers lol But if he likes a girl , I always root him on and give him advice to what he should say lol He says Dad , stop Girls aren’t the same today like they were back in your day in those olden days lol , I say yea you are pretty much right but girls love confidence , if you don’t have confidence they aren’t going to be attracted to you , so he takes some of my advice lol , but the 1 time he took my advice for a girl he really liked it failed so he got mad at me and said Dad I am never taking your advice again , Cuz the girl was rude about it , and I was shocked that she was rude cuz I really didn’t have him say anything that bad? I just had him ask her if she would like to get together after this virus passes and she was pissed he asked her? Which made no sense to me , I just said Bud she is a bitch lol

[Anonymous]

Not my parents but my extended family tried to do this. It was awkward.

[DizzyDesii]

Very

[Opinion Owner]

The girls dad was real gruff with me. Like it was already going to happen and he was testing me out to see what kind of man I am.

If I met her under different circumstances it would of been different. She was attractive, traditional and clean cut. I liked that. But she was close friends with my cousins. If I did anything wrong she could easily/quickly gossip that and it would get straight back to my family. No boundaries. No thanks.

[DizzyDesii]

Omg i hate those types! They were def tryna hook j up with a spy

[Opinion Owner]

They all meant well. I’ve always been the free spirited oddball in the family. She’s married with kids now and I’m happy for her.

But if I was going to get serious with her that would mean I would have to move to another state.

[Anonymous]

Not my parents, other people but its just as frustrating. I get people I know trying to set me up with their female friends and its always, without fail, the most unattractive girl they know who happens to be single. Girls that I have no interest in. This wouldn't be so bad, but they will do this even though often times they will also have somewhat more attractive friends who are also single. Now these girls aren't head turners, but they are cute in their own way, and I would have actually considered going for it if they introduced me to her instead.

But nope, its like of course you won't introduce me to the cute girl, you piece of shit lol. Yet they act like they're doing me a favor. Like, am I that bad looking? Is your opinion of me that low?

Like your question supposes, when they do this, its completely unsolicited. I pretty much never ask anyone to play matchmaker for me. The fact that they do it unsolicited, combined with the fact that they always try to set me up with their least attractive female friend while never considering introducing me to the kind of cute one, is what really irks me.

If I had actually asked them to introduce me to one of their female friends I would at least be realistic about my expectations. Likewise, if they wanna set me up without me asking, they could at least make it worth my while. But no, they try to give me the worst of both worlds.

[DizzyDesii]

I agree my friends would try to hook me up with their own definition of cute but my complete definition of unattractive and its like dang what are you tryna say about me

[Liasso]

After my parents divorced,... Dad called me and said do you have time at x / x date x / x.. i said yea thought it waa something important since we don't chat a lot.
...
I went there to meet him i walked in the place turns out its an arranged marriage date with her parents, her and him and i was speechless lol.
I sat down stared at everyone on the table, then i apologized to the girl and got up.
I then bowed and apologized to her parents and proclaimed i want to find my s. o. myself and since we kids aren't a relic from the past arranged marriaged should not take place in this day and age then proceeded to walk out

[Liasso]

Tldr, haven't spoken to him since... (8 years ago)

[DizzyDesii]

Wow u left lol

[Liasso]

I was more angry that old man tricked me into walking into a trap

[N192K001]

Without my knowledge? No.

But when a colleague wanted his single daughter (a nurse in working abroad in Saudi Arabia) checked-out, I was asked by my father if I was interested. I agreed and we started chatting via Facebook (1-2yr.'s before I deleted my account). It was interesting, but we didn't really have much in common. I was more into anime, while she was into K-drama. Even our anime-tastes differed, with hers leaning majorly into romance (like with her K-drama). Oh, well…

But (after our conversation died-off), she did greet for for Christmas that year.

[DizzyDesii]

Well at least it started off good

[Rapidash]

Ahaha x) well fair enough you have your priorities. My boyfriend is is hardcore into Mange & anime whereas I only like 1 or 2 and truthfully mostly find it annoying but we still get along very well after four years.

[N192K001]

@Rapidash lol Lucky you! In our case, keeping the conversation became an issue, other than just re-stating what was already said. Her world was too totally different from mine, & vice versa. Also, how to visit her… in Saudi Arabia? (My father told me that I apparently had passport-issues with Riyadh, since someone in immigration didn't log my passport when I left from there for the last time when mother & I visited my overseas-working dad back then when I as a kid. My dad says that his boss who brought him to the airport fixed that by discussing with immigration in Arabic, before both immigration & the boss disappeared in a room without my father. Then, somehow my father was allowed to also leave Saudi for the last time. How comprehensive was the solution of my dad's boss: just enough of a work-around to let my father go or totally & completely so it should never give me problems ever? I don't want to discover that by going to Saudi Arabia itself or appearing in their embassies/consulates.) Also, she's from a province not very accessible from Metro Manila, my hometown. So, visiting her even when she returns home to the PH would be difficult.

[angiebangie]

My dad used to embarrass me like that. He'd start talking to a guy I thought was cute but was too shy to talk to. Once we were eating at a buffet and my crush was there with his family, so my dad calls him over and starts talking to him like he's his son. I was stamping on my dads feet under the table the entire time, I was so mad. He even got the kid to lift up his shirt to show where he got black and blues on his stomach from some band practice incident. I was bright red.

[DizzyDesii]

What in the world lmao

[angiebangie]

😂 😂

[wingattebaby16]

After I had a miscarriage at 4 mos, i had put on a lot of weight and was feeling down all the time.

My mom fixed me up with one of the men my dad works with... i had no clue he liked me, but had been coming "over for dinner" a lot and told me since I went from being a 113# 10yo-looking girl, to a 150# plus Woman, he really liked me... we dated for 5 months before I caught him cheating on me on NYE with 2 gorgeous, Thin women he worked with.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow thats messed up and sorry for your loss :(

[wingattebaby16]

its all good.. it was in 2017... and I am now 32 weeks prego, so I am doing good.. I admit I still miss the other baby, but Life is Life and it Happens... it was not meant to be here...

[DizzyDesii]

Omg congrats!! Hopefully i’ll be a mom soon :)

[Jjpayne]

Nope... I wish... No hook ups from anyone... However, one person suggested I get together with someone that was mentally handicapped, it was an offer to step up and willingly take someone that I would not mentally match up with but take them on as a gentlemen. It was such an interesting suggestion but an uncomfortable one too

[DizzyDesii]

Awww

[thegirlfromthething]

Not a parent, but my aunt wanted to hook me up with a German socialite. She tried to get us at her house at the same time and her plan was to basically push him into taking me on a date. He and I knew from the moment we saw each other that it was... not happening.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao wow

[thegirlfromthething]

She made him sound like this dapper, old money European aristocrat and when he actually showed up he was a kid with a man bun and basketball shorts 🤦‍♀️

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂😂

[JimboGB]

Your Mum sounds funny, she sounded a little too keen though. Maybe she wanted him close to you, so he was close to her lol. " mix of jet li/jackie chan " you got one athletic guy on your hands there. This post is cracking me up. If my mother did it as funny as yours, I'd probably have her out catching me pray all the time, by the sounds of it he was a good catch. Your mum clearly knew what she was doing lol.

I am way too independent for my family to even try that lol. Having said that I do appreciate my mother's opinion, she is not often wrong about the women in my life.

[DizzyDesii]

I meant fave wise lol! He didn't have their martial arts body haha. Yea my mom knew what she was doing lol.

[angelgirl7]

Thankfully no, not my parents. However, some of my parents friends have tried to set me up with their children.
One time my parents and I were at a party when my parents friends pulled my mom aside and asked if it would be okay if they introduced me to their son. We had a very awkward conversation while his mom excitedly watched us, and until recently was still trying to get us together. 🤦

[DizzyDesii]

Lol my mom ruined potential with my childhood crush when she did sometthing likethat

[Hola16]

I've had a similar experience, except it was the other way around. A guy's mom found me on social media and talked to me. Turns out it was someone my dad knew. She asked me if I was single and she wants me to meet his son. I agreed. Long story short, we met and it's going to actually take some time to know where this is going... > <. It was so funny though. But it seems that both of them were serious and spent money just to see me. I don't call this 'hooking up' though. More like a reunion with a twist... I don't know reallyy hahaha. But I agree with you that if my mom actually did that to me, I'd think she's a creep. My mom has never set me up with any guy.(yet).

[DizzyDesii]

Luckilu my mom hasn't done that again

[pajamasam]

My parents did that once with a girl I kinda friendzoned. I thought "ya know maybe my parents are trying to remind me of something I overlookee" so I gave it a whole hearted shot.

Long story short I told my parents not to give me relationship advice. I still want them to eventually meet potential gfs and such, but I dont want them picking them for me.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea its not their place

[weasley8]

No. They’ve tried to convince me to like guys that I’m not interested in. But they’ve never set me up with one. My grandmother tried a few times, but I saw through it and quickly found an excuse to leave the conversation. Some guys moms have tried to set me up with their sons without my knowledge though. Whether the guys were aware of it I’m not sure.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d walk away lol

[weasley8]

I do that if they’re trying to convince me to like someone. But I at least try to be polite to the guys. They’re nice guys and all. I’m just not interested.

[Rab1901]

My mom has talked about it a lot but it hasn't happened. I'm not completely opposed to the idea but it's hard to trust her judgement sometimes. I'd have fun with it regardless. I am good at attracting new people on my own though and there are a lot of fish here in NYC so I'd rather my mom think about other things.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol good luck

[TacosRAwesome]

My aunt tried to set me up with my cousin's best friend who was also a course mate back in the days. Nothing happened as I wasn't into him and even if I was having family involved kinda ruins things. My parents were really into the idea of me getting together with this guy from the youth center who was at least 7 years older than me (when I was like 15).

[DizzyDesii]

Wow thats ridiculous

[nodnol32]

Not exactly hook up, but they have suggested the I meet this girl and see how it goes and if I get along with her and if I feel she's right, me and her can talk about getting married. But it was with me knowing so the answer to you question is no but i feel this is a but similar to the scenario your question is portraying.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats fine :)

[Anonymous]

My mom set up a date with a guy i'd talked a little bit with on a dating app so he just randomly showed up and I had to go get coffee with him. She's tried many other times too with just going on a dating app and picking out guys then giving them my social media to talk to me. She just thinks she's a dating expert. She doesn't do it as much anymore cuz I already have men in my life I am genuienly interested in.

[DizzyDesii]

LIKE indont get why single people are usually the one to try to hookup us up tho.

[Opinion Owner]

True

[Reign_Interrupted]

My dad hates the guy I'm dealing with atm (with good reason, he's a shithead). My dad always talks me up to his coworkers and has been trying to set me up with the son of one of them. I finally met him in person when they came to have dinner at our house. He's very cute and very gay haha. Either his parents are just choosing to ignore it or they think I can turn him.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao when u said he's gay 😂

[Boredguy400]

My mom tries to set me up with her boyfriend's daughter at every family function. 😅
She purposely invites her so we can talk then they leave us alone together.
It's kinda awkward.
I call her my stepsister.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao damn u sisterzone her

[Boredguy400]

Maybe I kinda want to bang the stepsister that I never had. 😅
I actually think she might have a girlfriend and my mom and her boyfriend don't understand.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh damn

[aWes0MeNeSs]

No, thank God. They did express that there were certain guys who were interested in me who I sadly didn't feel the same about that they wish I was interested in, but they've never been pushy about it and have always respected my decisions.

[DizzyDesii]

Well thats good

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My very first boyfriend is the son of my parents' closest friends & neighbors. They didn't really set us up together but they discouraged me from rejecting the guy.

[DizzyDesii]

Damg