My Sister's Husband Checked her boobs harshly, Was it okay?

[Anonymous]

I went to My Sister's home to Wish her a New Year, So I was playing Chess with My Stister's husband and My Sister was breastfeeding her One year old baby but her baby was still crying continously, That made My brother-in-law annoyed and he suddenely squeezed one of her boobs quite hard to check if she has milk or Not ! She had No Milk and the baby was Sucking only her nipples So that's Why baby was hungry and Crying, My brother-in-law Scolded to My Sister for this !

Do you think it was okay for him to do when I too was there? I felt this little Weird that he checked her boobs very harshly?

[Cozybcuz]

From reading all of this it gives me the impression that it's an abusive relationship. In no good normal relationship would anyone cause such physical harm to their partner, especially if it's clearly voiced. You should look to help your sister get out of that relationship it will be the best for her and their child. A further point if he does that Infront of you imagine what he does when you are not there.

Another point it can be really hard to leave an abusive relationship as the abusive partner tends to completely break down their self worth. She might need professional help but most importantly support from those close to her.

[Asker]

@cozybcuz You Said All things Right ! I can Imagine What he does to her in Alone ! 🥺
I Saw him Squeezeing, Crushing and Torturing her one boobs until She started Crying and Almostn Scresming ! Its a Case of Abuse and Physical Violence by her Husband but I have My Compulsions, She Can't leave him easily because of many reasons !

***** I don't live in US/UK or Austrslia... where you marry today and get divorce tomorrow, there people don't give a fuck about this ! But I'm from a very Conservative Asian Country!

[Cozybcuz]

Yeah that will make things harder you will just have to help in the best way possible in your circumstances. Maybe look up some local organizations that can help out. This is just something I found while googling a bit https://www.hotpeachpages.net/asia/index.html a list of hotlines women's shelters and a bunch of stuff. That could possibly help, these local organizations can probably be of help

[AndyOh]

The picture you paint is that he grabbed her boob and squeezed hard causing her pain.
If he did it in a more gentle way, I would say it was okay, and since she was breast feeding and you were there, it was okay. It really depends on how harsh he was, and if he is a jerk or not.

[Asker]

@andyoh My Sister had invited me to her home on New Year but I felt like her husband didn't like My Coming to his home but Still he did drink Whisky with me, We both were playing Chese and My Sister was siting beside us and talking with me, She was breastfeeding her baby but her baby kept on Crying Continously, Then Suddenely My brother-in-law went to My Sister and he grabbed her One boob and started Squeezeing and Crushing it for almost 2 Minutes and he only left her boobs when she started crying and almost Screaming due to Pain, it Sounded me like he tried to punish her More rather than to Checking for Milk ! I saw My Sister's face, She was looking Scared and embarrased but She reacted like Nothing was happend ! I felt very upset and I went to other Room, I wanted to talk to My Sister about this but I didn't get chance to talk to her in Alone !

[AndyOh]

Okay, so her husband is a bit of a jerk. Sorry to hear that. Not much you can do. If you can talk to your sister, and ask her if she is okay... hopefully she is.
That kind of behaviour is not good. Plus her breast can be damaged by that kind of treatment.

[Asker]

@andyoh I didn't get chance to talk to My Sistet at that day but I will try to talk to her If I Can help her With her husband's harsh behaviour with her, Can it really Cause her Any serious damage?

[AndyOh]

I hope you do talk to her and help her if she needs help.
Yes, you can damage the tissue inside the breast by squeezing it really hard like that.
Good luck.

[AndyOh]

And thanks for the MHO :)

[Asker]

@andyoh, Welcome, Do you think having small Nipples can affect ability of a Woman's breastfeeding? Or the baby can't Suck tiny nipples properly? I didn't know but i saw My Sister had very tiny nipples ( he was squeezeing his boob from the middle ) and from far you can't see her nipples ! So do you think if this could be the issue?

[AndyOh]

Maybe, as long as they express milk and work. I am assuming since she is breast feeding that they do work.

[Asker]

Also from what My brother-in-law scolding her, i felt like it was an issue for her !

[Asker]

If very tiny nipples is her issue, Can it be fixed by a Surgery? Or its just natural

[AndyOh]

I would not worry about the nipples.. if they work, they work, leave them be.
As for that jerk brother-in-law, yes she needs to figure that one out. If she is being abused, she needs to find help and get out of it.

[Asker]

@andyoh its not very easy for her to get out since she has a baby, Can you PM me?

[AndyOh]

Thanks for the MHO :)
I hope you your sister figures it out.

[Eliiiiii]

He was right but he could have done toom it a bit calmly. Getting annoyed by his own baby's crying is okay.. but expressing that anger on his wife and that too in front of her brother and doing something that would make anyone sitting around uncomfortable was so immature and harsh of him so buddy got to work out his anger issues.

[Asker]

@eliiiiii My Sistet got married two years Ago and it was My first time When i went to My brother-in-laws home to celebrate the New Year but at he behaved with My Sister So harshly that I got very Upset, the child was probably still hungry and Continously crying, it was not My Sister's fault if she ran out of Milk ! But he got So Annoyed that he grabbed and squeezed one of her boob So hard that My Sister was almost Screamed in Pain and When he saw No milk then he Again Shouted and Scolded her, He did this like it was all of her Mistake !

[Eliiiiii]

Be a good brother then, teach that man some manners maybe?

[Asker]

I was in My brother-in-law's house and he was her husband also So I Could not say Anything to him

[Eliiiiii]

She is your sister

[Asker]

Yeah, I know She is My Sister but Still I can't ask him not to grab or Squeeze her boobs so hard like this, He Would just Say it's None of My Business !

[Yourman89]

Yep. Should of been done in private

[Asker]

@Yourman89 Yeah, I Agree

[FeralChihuahua]

Well I wouldn’t really mind my husband that I had a kid with to check my boobs but if it was harsh and then for him to scold me? Yea I would be mad

[Asker]

I know checking boobs for milk for a child is not Wrong but They way he did was quite harsh !

[FeralChihuahua]

Yea she’s not a cow and has no idea what she’s going through post pregnancy. He’s in the wrong for that

[Zsavior20]

This is the answer

[Zygum]

Be easy, relax and be patient, don't get mad at him, he is your lover husband, owner of your heart and body. Tell him in soft tone to be careful in future

[SuzuBrooke]

No he should never do that I would scold him for acting so childish. It's not as if mothers can do that if they wanted too. That's just abuse. Tell him to breastfeed instead and suck it up. And when he can't (because he's a guy) and that's much like the situation with some mother's because of the situation and how their body is made scold him for it and make her scratch his chest for that. It's only fair.

It's not OKAY in any situation with ANY gender no matter the relations being rude and harsh to someone who can't change the situation NO MATTER WHAT. Hope that helps you out.
:)

[SuzuBrooke]

And it clearly is your business if it is for the health of your blood sister or any siblings for that matter. So that would be stupid to use if he did. You care about your sister don't you? Stand up to him. Bullying is bullying. There's no telling what he has done to her.

[Asker]

@suzubrooke Yeah I know he bully to My Sistet, he squeezed her boob hard Just to punish her rather than Checking for Any Milk in them ! But I have My limitation, I Can't fight with him because he is not a Stranger Guy, He is My Sister's husband So there is litlle I can do but I am trying to talk to Sister if She needs My help.

[SuzuBrooke]

Thank you for answering I get things are difficult for you because it's a different society but instead of fighting why don't you talk with both of them alone then together. Maybe that will help their relationship. There isn't anything that's bad about speaking with your brother in law right?

[Asker]

@suzubrooke Yeah I Can talk to My brother in law in General ! But I Can't talk to him about he squeezed her boobs harshly, Actually it is their Personal matter, But I think its a Continous issue for both of them.

[JayisI]

If you were feeding a baby im sure you would notice its crying the baby is in her hands. Also how would you feel if someone just grabbed and squeeze your boob hard no context at all. Like that is just straight up rude and if you actually have boobs it hurts.

[Asker]

@jayisi Yeah but I felt like he intensionally squeezed her boob So hard in Anger to punish her rather than to checking if She has Milk or Not ! It Was Rude and abusive behaviour but it happend Suddenely and I Could not understand that how to react on this, though My Sister tried to ignore it.

[JayisI]

I would of stepped in

[Sagittarius_1204]

It wasn't okay cause that would make me feel embarrassed my baby hungry my husband violating me and my sister sees this. You can't force breast milk it comes naturally but it takes time for milk to build up and also he shouldn't be worried about the breast feeding cause he doesn't know how woman feel after feeding he squeezed which I'm sure made it hurt even more. Please stay in a mans place and always leave breast feeding to mothers

[Asker]

@sagittarius_1204, I am her brother and She is My Sister, I think her baby was much hungry and she was dry because of low milk producing but My brother-in-law got Annoyed because the baby was keep on crying and he sqeezed her boobs quite hard to check if she has any milk in it but the way he grabbed her it Sounded me very Rude and Must be Painful for her, Also it seemed a bit like Some issue of domestic Violence !

[boombastik]

Was she in pain when he did this? Just trying to get an understanding of how hard he grabbed her? I know women's breasts are usually sensitive and sore when lactating. Sounds like a effing prick either way. Maybe he is jealous in a weird way, mad she's just letting the baby suck for no reason, I don't know? I'd talk with my sister and see how she feels about his behavior. This will tell you all you need to know.

[Asker]

@boombastik Obviously I saw much Pain on My Sister's face ( though she tried to ignore ), We both were little drunk because of the New Year Celebration and We both were Playing chess, My Sister too was siting beside us and talking to us but her baby was Continously Crying, My brother-in-law stood up and went to her and he Suddenely grabbed one of her boobs and Squeezed it quite hard Couple of times ( close to her nipple ) to check if any milk is coming out and When he saw her Dry then he started Scolding her badly ! I felt it was very insulting and painful for My Sister but Because of My presence She reacted like Nothing was happend ! Since I was in the House of My Brother-in-law So I could not talk to her about his harsh behaviour but it Sounded me like a Domestic Violenve !

[boombastik]

Oh wow, sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment as the man of the house going to jail only makes it harder on the family in the long run (having a record and trying to provide for the family). I would ask your sister if this is a reoccurring problem because if he's doing this with you around I can just imagine what goes on when you're not.

[Asker]

I Will try to talk with My Sister about this if he do it to her regularly or he was drunk at that day So he behaved harshly with her !

[arandomgirlhere]

if he is a doctor then ok.

but it is a husband doing something with wife's boobs. i have neevr had a child so i have no idea if this is the way to check if milk is there or not.

dont know what to say. but harsh squeeze is not good. women feel pain

[Asker]

I am taking about his behaviour?

[arandomgirlhere]

may be he is an angry man all the time, may be abusive. ask the sister. is he a wife beater?

[Wiredone]

He was wrong for doing that in front of you. He also didn't have to squeeze her breasts so hard to cause her pain. He could have bruised her nipple which can affect the milk production. I hope he doesn't treat her like that all the time. It sounds like he is very abusive towards her

[Asker]

@wiredone Its been 2 Years Since My Sister is married to him, It was first time When i went to My Brother-in-law's house, My Sister had invited me on New Year to stay with them but Some What i felt like My brother-in-law was not happy to see me in his home, But in the evening He drunk Whisky with me and We both were playing Chess but When her baby kept on Crying for long , he got Furious and he Suddenely grabbed One Boob of My Sister very and Squeezed her boobs quite hard ( close to her nipple) Couple of times, My Sister almost Screamed in Pain ! and When he saw She was dry then he Started yelling and Scolding her in a Abusive language, I saw My Sister Scared and ashamed of what he did With her, But Since I was in his home and he was drunk too So I didn't say Anything to him but it made me Upset how Roughly he is treating with My Sister !

[similartoyou]

You shouldn't worry about it as it is a couple thing and wife might not have realized that baby is not getting anything. Husband, being concerned about the baby, acted a little harshly.
But I believe that he could have acted softly instead of scolding though.

[Asker]

@similartoyou, I understand he was Concerned about the baby but he grabbed and squeezed her boobs quite roughly to check for milk, I Could see Pain and shame on My Sister's face and Also he scolded her badly in front me !

[similartoyou]

Yes, that was a bad gesture not a gentleman thing at all.

[Lilverawang]

Long answer short- I think it was wrong

First, he needs to learn about the women body and what it goes through in its lifetime. Second, he needs to control his anger. Third, why he fuck your sister and knocked her up, if he can't stand a baby crying. Babies aren't even babies for that long. Enjoy each and every annoying moment baby.

[darkfoxjj]

Scolding only stresses everyone out more therefore I think it was wrong in that situation.

Crying baby's can get on everyone's nerves from time to time. Maybe his son/daughter crying got to him. Especially if you were beating him in chess 😂

[Asker]

@darkfoxjj Lol ! May be but I felt like offended by his harsh behaviour ! He got very Angry and he squeezed my sister's boobs quite hashly, I felt like he was more of punishing her instead of checking for Milk !

[darkfoxjj]

Maybe talk to your sister about it, you seem worried and I think only her answer could really satisfy you...

[Davidstarboy]

it's not that weird for him to check on his wife's boobs because he wasn't doing it sexually but he was making sure that a child is getting enough liquid. If she couldn't figure out that than someone had to make sure that cold is full. But being mean and rude is not a good way to correct someone.

[Asker]

@davidstarboy He is her husband So he can do it sexually but Not infront of her brother, My Concern was that he Grabbed and Squeezed her boobs very Roughly and he Sounded like he was punishing her Rather than Checking for Milk ( he squeezed and crushed one of her boob for almost 2 minutes) My Sister started Sobing and was about to Cry, So I felt bad for My Sister, Even My Sister was Careless for her baby but he treated her very Harshly !

[Davidstarboy]

Yes in that case he is an asshole and he should love his wife and treat her right.

[Davidstarboy]

I really feel bad for ur sister... i would slap the shit out of him for his stupid act.

[Asker]

@davidstarboy I Can't hit My brother-in-law because in My Country, Sister's husband is considered like a God ! Its our Tradition and Culture for Ages ! But he brutally torture My Sistet, Crushing a Woman's Boob brutally is Not a Symbol of a Manhood ! He has lost his respect in My eyes !✨✨

[Davidstarboy]

Are you from India?

[Asker]

Close to India

[Davidstarboy]

Ok cool

[JediMom]

No, not cool, as someone who's breastfed 5 kids, and recently just stopped breast feeding my last baby, our boobs hurt, don't need to be grabbing and squeezing them... grab his balls and squeeze to see if he's empty next time

[Asker]

@jedimom, You are quite furios ! But Wo on this earth can grab and squeeze balls of his Sister's husband? Do he wants to Ruin Marriage/life of his Sister?

[DoctorCupid]

Not ok at all. Beasts are very tender and can be quite painful during breastfeeding, so he surely caused her discomfort, maybe even lots of pain.
And him being inconsiderate of the fact that you’re present too is not ok either.
Sounds like he’s quite insensitive.

[MissDawn7961]

one year olds R to old to breast feed ! for they have teeth that can bite the boobs ! so the husband needs to stop her from breast feeding ! for the child is to old for this and the father has the right to stop this mothers nastiness N anyway he can ! thanks

[DJB72]

Absolutely not OK. His behaviour was about his own irritation, not the baby's needs.

My son had to be bottle fed from birth because of meds my wife was on being secreted in breast milk and toxic to infants so we never had the situation, but I'm sure my brother in law would have had some harsh words (or more) for me if I'd behaved like that, and he'd have been absolutely right to.

[HusamRocks]

Away from that situation,
Get some grinded caraway seeds which it must look like coffee, and prepare it just like u prepare coffee and let your sister drink it because it's very useful and good for milk production

[Asker]

Really? Is it kind of a herb?

[HusamRocks]

Yea it's a plant and they take its seeds, raost it and grind it and it will look exactly like coffee
Search for it, it's very good for girls who gave birth recently
I sometimes just drink some because I like it, just put some suger and it will taste good

[josephinelcajon]

Well what might have looked like a hard squeeze might not have been some barest are soft and hard to milk. They obviously did not mind you were there and saw her. Did she say something?

[Asker]

@josephinelcajon My Sister didn't say anything but she looked ashamed of what her husband did with her, but what do you mean by " what might have looked like a hard squeeze might not have been some barest are soft and hard to milk?

[jgibsonian1986]

It does seem a bit weird. I'd ask her about it, but ultimately side with her. It's her husband after all

[Asker]

Yeah ! Also I was in My brother-in-law's house So i could not speak Anything over this Matter but i felt bad for My Sister.

[jgibsonian1986]

in my opinion in most of all matters you should talk to the person one on one first anyways, so I'd say that's the best option

[Asker]

You know what? My issue is that he is My Sister's husband and I can't tell him not to grab her boobs thst harsh or something like this, Only My Sister Can do this So there is not much for me to help her !

[jgibsonian1986]

Yup, you can only show your concern for something weird to her and hope for the best

[378jis378]

Well I feel sorry for her but u see she needs to talk with him privately and discuss this with him because a woman cannot develop milk if she is under stress or pressure or worry next time something like this happens offer to make some formula for the baby that would solve the problem and it would give your sister time too rest her breasts and recover so that it can create more milk in time for the next breastfeeding period or session...

[Apple1996]

Some women can't actually spray milk from hand expression. I know that I never could even tho I over supplied. And yeah that is pretty mean of him to do since it's not his job to feed the baby.

[AbsolutePeppar]

that was really inappropriate, its a really embarrassment to her, i have a doubt that's how he will react in a public place as well

[Asker]

@absolutepeppar Yeah he suddenely got so annoyed and he grabbed and squeezed her boobs so roughly like he was checking udders of a Cow or a buffalo ! My Sister too looked very embarrased but he did it like he do it daily to her !