My uncle makes me feel uncomfortable, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I’m 23 now and I was recently at my cousins house where she lives with my uncle who is in his 50s. When she left the room he walked up behind where I was sitting and tried to massage my shoulders. This all happened in a couple seconds but I could feel his hands moving lower so I shook him off he stood up. This got me thinking about all the other weird moments I’ve had with him. He’s slapped my butt multiple times in the past and now I make it a point to move anytime I’m close to him. I never want to sit on a couch near him because he tries to touch my leg or hip area. I feel like I’m constantly avoiding and moving away from him like a reflex. This made me remember this one time when I was in high school and I was sitting next to him on the couch. He kept rubbing my thigh and moving closer to the inner part and I would keep moving but he would just put his hand back on my leg. Finally I got up and drove home and broke down in tears as soon as I got there. I come from a pretty traditional Indian family and I don’t know if his intentions are bad or maybe it’s just a result of the environment he grew up in? I guess I just don’t know what to think or do about it. One other thing I noticed is that he never tries to touch me in a way even a hug when my parents or brother are around. It’s only when I’m at his house with his wife and kids. Do you think I should tell someone?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, you should tell someone, this is ignorant of him what he is doing, what we call in American a form of grooming you, he is trying to get you in the mood to do sexual things and this is sick of him for sure.. I hope you can get this taken care of and put this behind you (( Hugs ))

[Anonymous]

This is a common thing in a lot of families. It happens among the poor, the rich, and every ethnicity. It is wrong for ANYONE to touch you without your approval. The fact he tries to do this covertly means he KNOWS it's wrong.
First tell your mom and let her know that you will out him if he tries it again. If she objects, then she is not your ally. Just tell him in front of his wife that he is a nasty pervert and you don't want to see him again. And advise her that she should watch him around his own kids too.

[lucyloo76]

Probably all of it. He seems to like you a lot. But I would be tempted to tell him no , I'm not interested.
He is playing a game. He is chasing you. He will catch you, so make sure he knows you don't want him.

[Bubbles45]

Tell him to first off get out of your personal space, then promptly tell your family about what happened.

[memad]

Sadly sometimes telling your family in a conservative cultures does you more harm then good which is sad and pathatic. I think should just make him know that she doesn't like to be touched not just by moving away but by telling him directly to stop touching her.

[ChocoBrowny]

dont visit them anymore. tell your mom your uncle makes you feel uncomfortable.

[DrakeJoe]

Yes. Tell about this to your mom. And next time tell him straight "If you do that again, I'll slap your teeth out of the mouth"

[mr_invisible1]

Not only should you tell someone but start trying to video yourself whenever your around him that way you will have prove of him doing this or try even just getting voice recording to make it stop

[Anonymous]

I think most people have that creepy relative that does things like this. You should tell someone.

[Anonymous]

He is a bad person, don't you ever let him do that to you.

[abc3643]

Just don't go there anymore.

[humanearth]

Bust him in his shit and yell rappist

[Anonymous]

Do you own a knife?